Hi Did anyone else have children before coming out? I fell pregnant at 19 and raised my daughter alone. I've come to accept my sexuality in the last couple of years but haven't dated anyone seriously. I haven't come out to my parents or family for many reasons but a few of my close friends and colleagues know. I feel like I will never meet anyone, then feel guilty that I should be focused on parenting rather than dating. So lost and lonely. Anyone relate?
Yes. I was married to a trans woman who decided to remain pre-opt due to medical issues. So, I looked like I was in a traditional straight marriage. I have three kids, now young adults. It was frustrating to say the least. You need focus on yourself a bit, or your daughter will grow up to think she is supost to be unhappy. Your job is not only to parent, but to be whole in yourself so your child has a good role model and learns to take care of herself. Cut yourself slack and date a little bit. Make it clear you are a package deal and you will find the right woman.
