Christmas Recap 2008 - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

beckyg · 28th Dec 2008, 09:44 AM

This was the first Christmas that Adam's partner spent with us. I was a little worried about how it was all going to go down. We had some kind of family time (dinners) with my family everyday while the boys were here. My Dad totally amazed me! He went over the top to make Michael feel welcome. He talked to him, made sure he felt comfortable, ect. I was sitting there thinking "is this my Dad or has another soul taken over his body?"

On Christmas Eve my 16 year old nephew and his girlfriend couldn't keep their hands off of each other. They kept kissing and rubbing each others legs. That made my Dad way more uncomfortable than the gay guys.

Then on Christmas day we went to my in-laws, the fundamentalist Christians. Everybody was nice there too. We included Michael in all our family pictures which I've posted in my profile. My father-in-law even told Michael to take care of "our Adam" when we were leaving. He is hard-core right wing.

I never believed this would happen when Adam first came out. We all went to see Milk on Friday. I have to say Harvey was right when he said that every gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender person has to come out. It is only through living your lives openly and honestly that people overcome their biases and beliefs about you all.

So there you have it, a success story.

**Martin** · 28th Dec 2008, 09:51 AM

Awww, that's amazing. Sounds like a fantabulous end to the year.

Mickey · 28th Dec 2008, 09:58 AM

I love positive stories like this. Adam is a lucky guy to have such a great family.
Becky,I wish more moms were like you. (my mom is,so I'm lucky,too ).
I think if they could sit down and talk to someone like you,they would see
that having a gay/lesbian child wasn't nearly as bad as they thought.
I sincerely give you all the credit in the world. The world could use many more moms,like you.

**EM68** · 28th Dec 2008, 12:29 PM

That's awesome Becky! I am so glad that Adam and Micheal felt welcome! Stories like this give me hope and inspiration to come out to my family and be open with them.

**Gerry** · 28th Dec 2008, 01:24 PM

It definitely sounds like you had an awesome Christmas Becky. Glad everything went so well for you.

starfish · 28th Dec 2008, 01:26 PM

That is a great story.

Stories like this give me hope also.

About your in-laws. That is great to hear. It is also the good Christian thing for them to do. After all I don't think there is much doubt about what Jesus would have done.

Nixon · 29th Dec 2008, 12:07 AM

good

I didn't like milk though
The Wrestler is a lot better

Seanboy23 · 29th Dec 2008, 10:27 AM

That's amazing, Becky! I'm so happy for you and your son, and your whole family!

I went to my boyfriend's mom's house for Christmas; it's the first time he's ever brought a boy home for any sort of family event. It was very relaxed and I felt comfortable there. I feel lucky, too, and happy for him that he has an accepting family.

Ha ha ha... later that evening after we'd left, my bf revealed to me that it was the first time ever that he's introduced anyone as his "boyfriend", and that I was an unwitting participant in him finally, truly outing himself to his stepdad!!

beckyg · 29th Dec 2008, 12:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Seanboy23

That's amazing, Becky! I'm so happy for you and your son, and your whole family!

I went to my boyfriend's mom's house for Christmas; it's the first time he's ever brought a boy home for any sort of family event. It was very relaxed and I felt comfortable there. I feel lucky, too, and happy for him that he has an accepting family.

Ha ha ha... later that evening after we'd left, my bf revealed to me that it was the first time ever that he's introduced anyone as his "boyfriend", and that I was an unwitting participant in him finally, truly outing himself to his stepdad!!

That's great! I'm glad it went well for you too. I probably would have gone ballistic if anybody had treated Michael bad.

AeonToy · 29th Dec 2008, 10:21 PM

i'm a little bit jealous of your families... i would never ever expect the same treatment from mine

28th Dec 2008, 09:44 AM	#1
beckyg PFLAG Mom Community Liaison Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Out Status: Out to everyone/Yes, parents come out too! Location: Middle of Oregon Age: 50 Posts: 7,572 Join Date: Mar 2007	Christmas Recap 2008 This was the first Christmas that Adam's partner spent with us. I was a little worried about how it was all going to go down. We had some kind of family time (dinners) with my family everyday while the boys were here. My Dad totally amazed me! He went over the top to make Michael feel welcome. He talked to him, made sure he felt comfortable, ect. I was sitting there thinking "is this my Dad or has another soul taken over his body?" On Christmas Eve my 16 year old nephew and his girlfriend couldn't keep their hands off of each other. They kept kissing and rubbing each others legs. That made my Dad way more uncomfortable than the gay guys. Then on Christmas day we went to my in-laws, the fundamentalist Christians. Everybody was nice there too. We included Michael in all our family pictures which I've posted in my profile. My father-in-law even told Michael to take care of "our Adam" when we were leaving. He is hard-core right wing. I never believed this would happen when Adam first came out. We all went to see Milk on Friday. I have to say Harvey was right when he said that every gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender person has to come out. It is only through living your lives openly and honestly that people overcome their biases and beliefs about you all. So there you have it, a success story. __________________ "When we're free to love anyone we choose, When this worlds big enough for all different views, When we're all free to worship from our own kind of pew, Then we shall be free" ~ Garth Brooks

28th Dec 2008, 09:51 AM	#2
Martin EC's Red Queen EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Merseyside, UK Age: 21 Posts: 8,045 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: Christmas Recap 2008 Awww, that's amazing. Sounds like a fantabulous end to the year.

28th Dec 2008, 09:58 AM	#3
Mickey Older and bolder! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Massachusetts Age: 50 Posts: 1,775 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: Christmas Recap 2008 I love positive stories like this. Adam is a lucky guy to have such a great family. Becky,I wish more moms were like you. (my mom is,so I'm lucky,too ). I think if they could sit down and talk to someone like you,they would see that having a gay/lesbian child wasn't nearly as bad as they thought. I sincerely give you all the credit in the world. The world could use many more moms,like you. __________________ We don't choose to be gay...we're CHOSEN!

28th Dec 2008, 12:29 PM	#4
EM68 Happily Married! :) EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about. Location: Stoughton, Massachusetts USA Age: 43 Posts: 4,288 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Christmas Recap 2008 That's awesome Becky! I am so glad that Adam and Micheal felt welcome! Stories like this give me hope and inspiration to come out to my family and be open with them. __________________ I'm beautiful in my way, 'Cause God makes no mistakes I'm on the right track, baby I was Born This Way -Lady Gaga

28th Dec 2008, 01:24 PM	#5
Gerry We're all a little mad! EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Las Vegas Age: 24 Posts: 5,542 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Christmas Recap 2008 It definitely sounds like you had an awesome Christmas Becky. Glad everything went so well for you. __________________ "Everybody's journey is individual. If you fall in love with a boy, you fall in love with a boy. The fact that many Americans consider it a disease says more about them than it does about homosexuality".-James Baldwin

28th Dec 2008, 01:26 PM	#6
starfish This space for lease. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I like guys Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Hippie Town, Alberta of the US Age: 31 Posts: 2,108 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: Christmas Recap 2008 That is a great story. Stories like this give me hope also. About your in-laws. That is great to hear. It is also the good Christian thing for them to do. After all I don't think there is much doubt about what Jesus would have done. __________________ All the problems of the world could be settled easily if men were only willing to think. The trouble is that men very often resort to all sorts of devices in order not to think, because thinking is such hard work. --Thomas J. Watson

29th Dec 2008, 12:07 AM	#7
Nixon EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Go to Catholic School So, NO Location: Dundee, Nebraska (It's in Omaha) Age: 19 Posts: 575 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: Christmas Recap 2008 good I didn't like milk though The Wrestler is a lot better __________________ "I drink to stay warm, then kill selected memories"- Conor Oberst' "Some people don't know me neither do I"

29th Dec 2008, 10:27 AM	#8
Seanboy23 aka Seanshine! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Well, it's all about MEN, yum! Out Status: No apologies, no regrets. Location: San Diego, CA Age: 41 Posts: 244 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: Christmas Recap 2008 That's amazing, Becky! I'm so happy for you and your son, and your whole family! I went to my boyfriend's mom's house for Christmas; it's the first time he's ever brought a boy home for any sort of family event. It was very relaxed and I felt comfortable there. I feel lucky, too, and happy for him that he has an accepting family. Ha ha ha... later that evening after we'd left, my bf revealed to me that it was the first time ever that he's introduced anyone as his "boyfriend", and that I was an unwitting participant in him finally, truly outing himself to his stepdad!! __________________ It's all about Kermit... for he's always had the "Rainbow Connection"!

29th Dec 2008, 10:21 PM	#10
AeonToy Well Known Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: 90% of friends/family Location: Los Angeles Posts: 150 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: Christmas Recap 2008 i'm a little bit jealous of your families... i would never ever expect the same treatment from mine