I identify as queer and it gets me super pissed off when people ask me what genders I'm attracted to. Is this normal?
I guess but I don't know why you'd necessarily be offended. That's just me though. Queer, for a lot of people, means a lot of things. Might be attracted to just one gender or be basically bisexual. It's a term people use for a lot of situations, especially in the community.
I just use it as a non-label. In my case it means that I'm not straight. I don't want people asking me what genders I'm attracted to. If my sexuality was that simple and mainstream I would have picked a simple and mainstream label.
I don't think you should be mad necessarily. You're right when you say that queer is not a mainstream term. So you can kind of deduce that people would be curious about that since it's relatively new to them. I mean can you really blame them? Also it's just like what thepandaboss said; bi and pan people constantly get asked what their preference is and quite a few of us don't have one. Granted, it gets annoying but only because of the constant repetition. It's just a reality that no matter what you're label is, someone will have a question about it.
I often replace the term queer with "not straight" when I'm talking to more mainstream people. I know it's not normal to get super mad. I just do. That's why I'm avoiding coming out in real life. I can just deal with my anger outbursts at home.
I wouldn't get too mad about it, if I were you. 5-10 (perhaps, even more) years ago, queer strictly meant gay. Long before that, it meant being weird. Currently, it seems to be turning into an umbrella term. Take it in strides.
