I'm starting to think my sexuality is just plain confusing and undefinable. I just don't think it can be described using gender-based words. People like to blame this on my age. I don't know anything more about my sexuality right now than I knew at twelve.
I do! And sometimes its easier for some to not put a name or label per se to identify what their sexuality is. Just don't rush yourself too much about discovering it or trying to put it into comprehendible words. The pieces will fit together with time. When I was about 15, I used to identify as bisexual but I still felt that it just didn't cover everything there was and just didn't fit, like there was something still missing. Then fast forward to a while after I turned 17, I found the word Pansexuality. That one seemed to fit me the most and if I had to put a name on my sexuality, that would be the one. When it comes to my definition of that, to me it means that the biological sex and/or gender identity (or none at all) doesn't have an affect to me as to if I love that person or not. And no matter if I were to be attracted to the person from the start or not, the personality of the person, their heart, is most important. And some bisexual people may have a similar definition to mine, they may not mind on some things when it comes to a partner, I dunno! But doesn't make those who are bisexual bad just because they only like -enter preferences here- . Ya know? Everyone has preferences no matter what sexuality. Now getting side tracked. XD basically, everyone has their own unique definition of what their sexuality is to them and what gender they identify as. And each one is awesome in its own way, none is better than the other because there's so many different ones and combinations of them. There's no one certain thing if that makes sense. Heck I'm still learning lots about all other sexualities out there and learning more about myself every day! But don't worry if you find it udefinable as of now. Maybe one day you'll find the words for it. But just because you can't explain it easily doesn't make it any less real or important because, after all, it's a part of you which should be cherished.
Labels are a suggestion. You don't need to have them if you don't want to. Right now, it's about figuring out what you like and who you are. Don't worry about them right now, just enjoy your life and it'll come to you whenever.
I'm peepsexual. I like people. I'm also jokesexual, which means I'm really attracted to funny remarks. To get serious... This is probably easier said than done, especially considering you have OCD, but worrying about finding an exact fit is going to cause you tremendous stress. You'll spend so much time focused on trying to find an exact fit, you may miss out on life's little opportunities. Don't get too caught up in your sexuality, because when the time comes, you'll know what you like and what you're drawn to. At the end of the day, you're right. Each of us is unique in our perceptions and desires, and sexuality is no different. There isn't going to be a 100%, absolutely flawless, no questions asked, this is it, done, sign the autograph, close the book label.
I can't label my sexuality either.. and I don't want to tbh. I tried to figure myself out for years but nothing seemed to fit. I learned to accept this and I'm really comfortable labeling myself as queer now. In my opinion, being queer or labeling as queer has a sense of freedom and that's what I always needed. There are lots of people who can't find a label to indentify with and that's ok. I stopped thinking so much about my sexual orientation. I love who I want to love regardless of their gender and their own sexual orientation. Maybe one day you'll find a label that fits. But there's nothing wrong with never finding a label. Just be who you are and what you want to be
Well yeah honestly . But NOT because I have something against them, it's just I'm very puzzled by them (too much work...) and hence will prefer sticking around others. What I mean for example is bisexual girls or bisexual guys. Most guys will actually prefer bi girls for...anything - but not me. I don't believe that "they do it for attention" and hence trying to figure our how "bi she is" is too much work for me. That's why I'd only prefer straight girls for anything or lesbians for friends. With guys - straight for friends and gay maybe if I was in the mood like I was for sex years ago. But that's about it. Also, to me pansexual is like bisexual, I can't see the difference so far.
I mean there's a million labels that can be used to identify you - some of which you mix together. There's homosexual, bisexual, heterosexual, pansexual, demisexual, asexual, and that's just a few. Then there's your romantic orientation bi- hetero- pan- demi- & aromantic. Sexuality and Romantic orientations are complicated and can be simple or complex. It's easy to identify as purly gay or straight. The gray area can be confusing. Sometimes I think i'm purely gay, sometimes I think i'm bisexual, sometimes I think i'm a bi-romantic homosexual. At the end of the day though love is love and labels are pointless if you let them be pointless.
Yes. Compared to some of the "fringe" sexualities I've heard about recently, mine is fairly straightforward. And yet according to many straight people, I'm an absolute freak that can't be understood. That shows you how hard it is for the average Joe Dumbass to comprehend a sexuality beyond "gay".
