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Would you give up your name when you get married?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by QueerTransEnby, Aug 29, 2015.

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Would you give up your name when you get married?

Poll closed Nov 27, 2015.
  1. No.

    32.7%
  2. Yes.

    19.8%
  3. Maybe.

    35.6%
  4. Not getting married, period.

    11.9%
  1. QueerTransEnby

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    Just came back from my uncle's wedding to his new husband. It was a great time, but the most striking thing to me was that he gave up his name and took his husband's name? Whether you are a man that would marry a man or a woman marrying a woman, would you give up your name?

    ---------- Post added 30th Aug 2015 at 01:29 AM ----------

    For the record, I don't think I could give up my name. However, because of my relationship with my parents, I refuse to rule it out.
     
  2. Andrew99

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    I vote maybe because I probably would because I'm not really fond of my last name. However if his last name was worse than mine than I won't change mine. I don't want him taking my last name though.
     
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    Nope! I did get married, but we kept our last names: One reason was that we have the same first name, which already is kinda confusing, so to both have the same first and last names seemed kinda odd...plus, we have the same middle initial.
     
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    i'll pick maybe.
    My last name is not that great but i'd rather keep it if my first name sounds weird when combined with his last name
     
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    I would have had the same problem with my ex. That was certainly not the reason we split though.
     
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    I voted maybe.

    I don't think "name" matters that much, as you can always trace back family history if need be. It's just a big pain to change names, so I'd probably opt to keep our names the same or append our last names together so we can share it.
     
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    I'd want to hyphenate, but it would be a decision between my partner and I, and our children, if we have any that are old enough to decide what they'd want their last name to be as well.
     
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    I guess the thing that irks me(only slightly) is that I know my Grandpa would be pissed if he were alive. Not that his opinion should dictate my uncle's life, but it's complicated. I talked to my uncle in passing politely saying how surprised I was. He said he had thought about it for several days. I can at least respect that.
     
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    I voted maybe. But it's more likely "maybe, but most likely no." I am not in love with my name; however, it has privacy advantages of being so common that it's next to impossible to find much info about me via Google. I also dread the hassle of changing name. Last names also don't really seem that important day to day now that first name use has pretty much become standard.

    But...who knows? If the right guy comes along, and has an irresistible name, I might change my name.
     
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    If my man asked me to take his last name, I would.
    I like my last name, but it doesn't mean much to me, since it's my father's family name, so I really wouldn't mind taking my husband's last name. We can hyphenate, too.
     
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    I voted maybe. It really depends on the discussion between me and my partner, and how he strongly feels that I should take his surname. Hyphenating isn't an option for me since my current surname is already hyphenated. It would be weird like xxx-xxx-xxx, so many hyphens :dry:. Well for now as of the foreseeable future I don't think I would. People underestimate what a surname can do for you. It just so happened that my surname brings a lot of opportunities, connections and basically opens doors for me. I don't think I'm gonna toss it any time soon.
     
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    I could be happybill
     
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    I voted yes-I don't really like my name, in general. First and last names of mine are the most common in my country-almost like the name John Smith. I don't mind giving it up at all.

    (Sides...my family would probably disown me if I did get married to a girl.)
     
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    I'd prefer to keep mine or at least hyphenate. Of my generation, there are only three of us with our grandparents' surname, and I like it.
     
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    I chose no... But I hate black and white answers like that. Most likely I would not like to give up my last name. I like it. But it's posisble.
     
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    My surname has a nice history and I really would hate to part with it. At the most, I would adopt a double-barrelled name.
     
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    No. I love having a hyphenated last name. Now, I would theoretically be open to dropping one of my last names. My children will be getting my mother's last name so my father's is dying with me regardless. Though changing my last name would mean changing records and filling out forms. If we divorce then I would have to take back my second last name if I wanted to continue to have a hyphen.

    Ultimately, it would all come down to whether he has a charming last name. No amount of love will have me walking around as a Wigbee.
     
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    I'm not particularly attached to my last name, so I wouldn't mind changing it if it were really important to my partner, but it's not something I actively desire either. It would probably depend on whether we want to have children, and what my partner's last name is. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    I really love my last name, so I'd fight over that one. Sorry future hubby, you're in for a battle ;P I'm not opposed to hyphenations but it's not my favorite option at this point. I certainly won't let that ruin my relationship though. If I'm getting married, I'm certainly going to love him more than that <3