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My EC quest for understanding

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  1. SonicBoom

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    When I first got to EC and began reading the threads here, I noticed right away how different many of our responses to relatively the same problems were.

    It really perplexed me why an issue that's no big deal to me can torment someone else for 10+ years and may even drive some other people to contemplate, attempt or commit suicide.

    I then began to quest for understanding to try and figure out why.

    I would like to share what I came up with.



    First, we all grew up and currently live in different environments.
     
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    We all internalize the homophobia in our environment DIFFERENTLY.
     

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    Many of us share the same types of problems.

    Hence the many different sub-forums of EC.

    Again we react and chose to deal individually with many of the same problems we share DIFFERENTLY

    The picture I included is how we deal with same problem DIFFERENTLY.
     

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    This is not exactly rocket science :grin: but it did take me a while to figure out.
     
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    It's just so hard to believe, understand and relate to how someone else could be so tormented

    to the point where they want to attempt suicide over a problem that I take in strides.:bang:
     
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    I think it's true about everything in life.
    Some young people feel suicidal over grades. Others don't even care about their grades.
    Some people care deeply about how much money they have, the size of their house, the kind of car they drive, the neighborhood they live in, others don't care about money outside of being able to pay the bills.
    What is also interesting is how much what we care about as people in life can change over time. Things that used to upset me very deeply 10 years ago don't upset me at all now.
     
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    Here's another poll I did as part of my "EC quest for understanding".
     

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    I like it when you make your polls and say

    A LOT
    A FAIR amount
    A LITTLE
    none at all

    You should make more of those polls :thumbsup:
     
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    I'm s tarting to think that sonic boom could be a undercover government agent here to collect data and do research on the gay community. If I disappear in the next 3 day's it's proof that I'm right.
     
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    He makes my job easier, LOL.

    ^.~
     
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    Nobody commits suicide out of just having a "problem". All persons are unique figuratively and organically when it comes to certain aspects of brain structures. Some persons are born with volume changes in certain brain structures such as the Prefrontal Cortex, Amygdala, Hippocampus. And to some extent the Striatum and the Thalamus. Some individuals are also born with different levels of neurotransmitters. One commonly found in cases of Mood Disorders, Anxiety Disorders is Cortisol. High levels of cortisol can make an individual chronically stressed therefor they react and perceive stressors such as what you mentioned "a problem you take in strides." with more gravity than such as a normal individual as yourself. They may also have chronically low levels of certain neurotransmitters such as Norepinephrine which is one of the neurotransmitters implicated in Suicidal Behavior amongst those with mental conditions such as Mood Disorders.

    We should NOT belittle those who may find themselves having Suicidal Behavior, if anything they need our compassion. Just be thankful you do not have to go through such a devastating experience.
     
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    I can't understand why but do have lot's of compassion and empathy as demonstrated in my post in this thread. :thumbsup:

    http://emptyclosets.com/forum/anonymous-discussions/191484-killing-myself.html

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    This question perplexed me for the last 8 months.

    I'm so glad I was finally able to figure it out.
     
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    I definitely think environment and even tho a lot of people are in the same boat we all respond differently because we all have different personalities
     
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    It all depends from person to person on what haunts them. Something that seems like a bomb to some may seem like an ant to others. We may all be humans, but our mental states are never alike. Our problems have the same 'base', but we humans have different ways of 'interpreting' and 'solving' the problem we are presented with. Just because you see something this way doesn't mean that another person sees it differently. Belittling other's problems just because they may not seem 'difficult to deal with' like you do (all in all eye to eye) makes you seem like an idiot. It also makes me want to give you the finger.

    No offence intended in the post, just my honest and blunt way of interpreting your post.

    PS, multi-posting is quite funny when your DP is a gif.
     
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    I'm sorry I came across and insensitive and uncaring.

    I apologize if you folks misunderstood my intentions.



    I care about people whom are hurt just as much as everyone else here as evident in my post in this thread.

    http://emptyclosets.com/forum/anonymous-discussions/191484-killing-myself.html
     
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    I can understand why some people may have gotten the wrong idea over this post.

    I'm not trying to sneer at anyone or their problems.



    What I should of said was

    "Even though I don't understand, I still deeply care".
     
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    "It really perplexed me why an issue that's no big deal to me can torment someone else for 10+ years and may even drive some other people to contemplate, attempt or commit suicide."


    One last attempt to sooth ruffled feathers.


    In both statements I said basically the same thing but in the second statement I was a lot more clear.
     
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    I'm really sorry to bump this thread again.

    I don't blame anyone here for misunderstanding my intentions but it really hurt my feelings that people here have accused me of belittling and insulting people.

    The last thing on earth I want to do is harm anyone in any way.

    I had a curiosity about why different people reacted so differently to the same problems from my first post here on EC.

    Here is my first post and quote from my first post.

    http://emptyclosets.com/forum/sexua...166239-just-started-questioning-age-40-a.html

     
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