trans

[Steve]

im just wondering how hard it is for a trans to find love.. striat people wont find it attractive nor will gay in the sence as a male>female she will still have a penis and there for any males will not be attraced to her/him and for gay men they want males not a female with male organs so what do you think guys

[crystaltriforce]

i wouldn't realy care as long as they aren't trying keeping it a secret from me because if they can't be honest to me about who they realy are how can i trust them in a relationship.

[beckyg]

I don't know how hard it is to find love. However, I know someone who had a sex change whose spouse is still with her. (formerly him) That is some powerful love, right there!

[Dazed]

i dont care really..i can love anyone :]

[davo-man]

Meh, I'm not disinclined to find love with a trans person. I mean, yes, it must be difficult insofar as they are not the norm and so have a smaller pool of people to link up with, but I'm positive there are straight people out there who would go for a trans woman/man, for instance, the lady who's with the guy who had a baby.

Also, Collins from RENT is with a crossdresser. Very slightly irrelevent, but oh well GO COLLINS!

[wallflower]

It must be difficult if you've already gone through the change and live as the sex you always felt you were and then you fall in love. At some point you still have to be honest and tell them of your history if you want to get serious and that is when everything can fall apart.

[littledinosaurs]

I guess it really depends on when they are trying. When they are Transitioning I'd imagine its very hard. But after that i don't think it'd be particularly hard, unless they drop the trans thing on every first date. If you ease someone into it they might be chiller? idk. Hopefully they'll find someone who loves them for who they are now

[BlakeHarmony]

I would date someone who's trans, I would be annoyed if I found out after but I would understand why they kept it a secret... It's not a turn off at all for me!

[musicgirl112233]

I would'nt care. Love is love no matter who it is.

I'd like to say it doesn't matter to me at all... But to be honest, I'd prefer a male with male body parts. I definitely wouldn't rule out dating a trans.

Originally Posted by beckyg

I don't know how hard it is to find love. However, I know someone who had a sex change whose spouse is still with her. (formerly him) That is some powerful love, right there!

That's amazing.

[Bunny]

I ask myself that question all the time.

[lawlst]

i would date a transgender female. well i sort of am one...kind of.

because! transgender does not mean "transvestite..." ((btw, why is transvestite considered a word and transgender is not....?)) the latter of the two is post-op, and transgender is just someone who isn't successfully happy with themselves in the body they were born with...basic feature-wise...so it could be any number of genres:

transsexual
gender-queer
gender fluidity
gender non-conformity ((self included))
and i'm sure there are thousands of other labels/ideas/concrete forms of 'the thought'

anyway, it's not so much the label as the femininity level i'm looking for. body-parts help too.


good thread, by the way

[Bunny]

Originally Posted by lawlst

i would date a transgender female. well i sort of am one...kind of.

because! transgender does not mean "transvestite..." ((btw, why is transvestite considered a word and transgender is not....?)) the latter of the two is post-op, and transgender is just someone who isn't successfully happy with themselves in the body they were born with...basic feature-wise...so it could be any number of genres:

transsexual
gender-queer
gender fluidity
gender non-conformity ((self included))
and i'm sure there are thousands of other labels/ideas/concrete forms of 'the thought'

anyway, it's not so much the label as the femininity level i'm looking for. body-parts help too.


good thread, by the way

Wait, what? I was under the impression that transvestites were just people who felt more comfortable in clothing intended for the opposite sex.

[George]

I'm going to be the shallow one and say I probably wouldn't.

Honestly, I don't know why. I don't wanna offend anyone but it's just not the way I'm inclined.

As for finding love, if they're 'honest' about it they'd find someone, even if it takes a while.

[Bunny]

Well, this thread is depressing.

[lawlst]

Originally Posted by lyingfigure

Wait, what? I was under the impression that transvestites were just people who felt more comfortable in clothing intended for the opposite sex.

nah, that can be simplified in the term "transgender" or narrowed to genderqueer. a simple google search is all you need. try transgender rather than transvestite though.

the general public, man, they change minds--for the worst sometimes...maybe not just sometimes though.

[lawlst]

oh, and your subname or whatever is beautifully witty.

also though, ignore the folks who just don't get it. they just don't get it. the only way to help them get it though is by educating, and that calls for thick skin.

good luck friend.

[Bunny]

Oh jeez uh, I'd say more corny than witty, but thanks. xD;;

I'm not really sure. I don't go out looking for transgendered/sexual/whateveryouwant people (though I think genderqueer people are really attractive).
I mean, it just depends on if they are hot or not. There are some really handsome/beautiful trans people.

So what I am saying is I don't care. And if I never knew about it then I really wouldn't care.

I think it's awful what happens after transitioning though. I mean, there will always be people who "call" you out and ask questions about your former self. But I guess that's stressful in a whole new way. But at least the body matches the soul, eh?

I fail at undepressing people.

[Amy]

I would.

I would be hurt if my girlfriend/boyfriend did not tell me.