Whew..... - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

Larry Myster · 6th Jan 2009, 07:24 AM

Um wow... haha yeah...

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Please do not post links to any off-site profiles or any other off-site contact details. This includes Bebo, Facebook, Myspace, YouTube, Photobucket, phone, email, Skype, gaming ID and messenger IDs such as MSN, AIM, Yahoo etc. Anything that can be used to identify you or contact you off-site is not allowed here. This applies everywhere public on Empty Closets, including forum posts, wall messages, profile, signatures, blogs, comments, chatroom etc. Any such posts will be deleted and further action may be taken.

A little to strict proabaly eh? Just shareing my option.

xequar · 6th Jan 2009, 08:36 AM

Apparently there was a problem with some inappropriate contacts being made, so the Admin put those policies in place to help curb that. I dunno, seems mostly common sense anyway, so I don't see a big problem with it...

pirateninja · 6th Jan 2009, 10:45 AM

The thing is with this, is that say someone unscrupulous came onto EC (It has been done before) and all he wanted to do was to find some innocent member and engage in innapropriate contact with them. Of course, this forum is moderated thoroughly (we are able to keep an eye on dodgy threads, posts, PMs and Chatlogs). However if someone posted any way they could be contacted offsite, what is to stop this unscrupulous character contacting people? We can't moderate what is being said to members offsite, and should it happen to end badly, EC would be held responsible and could potentially be taken down. I'm sure you'd all rather a strict EC than no EC at all.

However this does not stop you from PMing the said offsite contacts to members that you have gotten to know. With the full member system, only members who we have confidence in get to be full members and are able to PM each other. This lowers the chance of people just coming on to find unmoderated contacts, and it allows you to share with only certain people that you wish.

Dazed · 6th Jan 2009, 11:51 AM

why does everyone think the rules are strict. if we didnt have rules EC would just turn into another myspace...meaning that everyone on here would be complaining brats haha.
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**Martin** · 6th Jan 2009, 12:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Gin Uh Fur

why does everyone think the rules are strict. if we didnt have rules EC would just turn into another myspace...meaning that everyone on here would be complaining brats haha.
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The rules do appear quite strict to those who do not understand the reasons for them. I've said many times that they create a Big Brother atmosphere and I am not surprised to see people finding them overbearing. If you know the story behind them being implemented then you'll understand why they are necessary, but I imagine SpielDog wasn't aware of this before he started the thread. To those who aren't aware of the background the rules can quite easily appear to be very restricting. As Holly said though, it's either this or no forum. A lot more people will benefit this outcome rather than the other one.

Dazed · 6th Jan 2009, 12:13 PM

i would like to add the SpielDog i was not implying that you were a brat :]

6th Jan 2009, 08:36 AM	#2
xequar Diapered and collared! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I have "The Gay." :) Out Status: Loud and proud! Location: Detroit area, Michigan Age: 30 Posts: 1,746 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: Whew..... Apparently there was a problem with some inappropriate contacts being made, so the Admin put those policies in place to help curb that. I dunno, seems mostly common sense anyway, so I don't see a big problem with it... __________________

6th Jan 2009, 10:45 AM	#3
pirateninja EC's Sailor Uranus Full Member Gender: Biologically Female Orientation: Heterosexually Challenged Out Status: Most people Location: Bath, England Age: 21 Posts: 5,853 Join Date: Sep 2007	Re: Whew..... The thing is with this, is that say someone unscrupulous came onto EC (It has been done before) and all he wanted to do was to find some innocent member and engage in innapropriate contact with them. Of course, this forum is moderated thoroughly (we are able to keep an eye on dodgy threads, posts, PMs and Chatlogs). However if someone posted any way they could be contacted offsite, what is to stop this unscrupulous character contacting people? We can't moderate what is being said to members offsite, and should it happen to end badly, EC would be held responsible and could potentially be taken down. I'm sure you'd all rather a strict EC than no EC at all. However this does not stop you from PMing the said offsite contacts to members that you have gotten to know. With the full member system, only members who we have confidence in get to be full members and are able to PM each other. This lowers the chance of people just coming on to find unmoderated contacts, and it allows you to share with only certain people that you wish. __________________ Holly the Pirateninja Ars Longa, Vita Brevis.

6th Jan 2009, 11:51 AM	#4
Dazed Banned Gender: ladyfella Orientation: MaddyBensexual Out Status: out to all :] Location: Richmond VA Age: 24 Posts: 2,189 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: Whew..... why does everyone think the rules are strict. if we didnt have rules EC would just turn into another myspace...meaning that everyone on here would be complaining brats haha. :]

6th Jan 2009, 12:13 PM	#6
Dazed Banned Gender: ladyfella Orientation: MaddyBensexual Out Status: out to all :] Location: Richmond VA Age: 24 Posts: 2,189 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: Whew..... i would like to add the SpielDog i was not implying that you were a brat :]