In what situations should you say sorry when you really aren't?

Never!

 

When you gain something from apologizing

 

If you don't mean it or want to say sorry then what's the point of apologizing in the first place?

I feel like people apologize because they feel like it'll make the situation better or easier. But if you say something you don't mean, you're lying to yourself and the other person that is involved in that situation.

 

In my experience; almost never. I can't think of examples off the top of my head, but there are a few situations where I think it's better to apologise before something spirals out of control. Like, if I'm dealing with someone that's trying to create a scene at a really bad time.

However, sometimes I don't apologise when I do feel sorry, because I know I have an over-active guilt problem, and I can usually tell when someone isn't going think my apology is sincere. It's a bit like I save my apologies as if they're shopping coupons, for when they really need to be used. It seems kinder overall somehow lol.

 

I do this a lot. When someone accidentally stepped on my foot, even if they are the one that did it, I would still say sorry (not sarcastically tho). When someone bump shoulders with me, even if it is their fault, I would say sorry again. And I do that with a "sorry" face. I do that to avoid confrontation.

Tho if you force me to say sorry to you for something not my fault, then we're gonna have a problem. I hate being forced.

 

This.

If it can potentially defuse the situation, especially.

Sometimes it's easier to say "I'm sorry" than it is to deal with being nagged. Besides, it may buy you time to deal with the situation, and that's important.

The mistake people make is, they are too proud to say sorry and believe you shouldn't have to, if you don't want to or mean it. I understand this, especially if you aren't in the wrong, but you have to look at the bigger picture. You spend a few seconds apologizing or you spend an undisclosed amount of time in tension; the latter is a waste of time.

Apologizing doesn't make you weak. Giving a fuck what people think about you saying it, however, does.

 

When you're British.

 

When you get in a stupid fight with someone you care about (friend, family, spouse) sometimes saying your sorry even if you're not is better than fighting and possibly losing the relationship.

 

When you're pandering to someone for whatever reason.

 

When you're Canadian

 

I'll say I'm sorry first like when someone bumps into me and they look like their going to start crying their so scared I'll say sorry to them or say no it was my fault so they don't have a heart attack Lil ( Ive matured learned to think before I react now)