'trying to be different' - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

-Michael- · 8th Jan 2009, 03:22 PM

People keep telling me I'm trying to be different in everything I do.
Just because I like things they have little or no interest in.

Like Poetry, I fucking love it!
and because I have a bit of Bach on my ipod for when I'm working....
I smoke a different brand to them....so im trying to be different.
I speak differently....so i'm trying to be different
I drink martinis....so im trying to be different

D:

Has anyone told you you're trying to be different?
I find it a compliment to be fair, just knowing I have some originality.

mattypants · 8th Jan 2009, 03:38 PM

as long as im the only one being different. more than one of us ruins it xD

8th Jan 2009, 03:48 PM

No one has ever told me that.
Because I try to be the same. But a better version of the same. Like a Same 2.0.

However, I do think that people who need to list off things they do that are different might be trying unconciously to be different.

*points at hipsters* Vinyl died for a reason, guys. And the reason no one knows your band is because they aren't very good, not because you're cool.

But that's fine. You can be different. Just like everyone else.

Wander · 8th Jan 2009, 03:48 PM

Fuck trying, I do it naturally. I would hate to be like the people I'm surrounded by.

pirateninja · 8th Jan 2009, 03:49 PM

Yup, I've been accused by some of "trying to be different".

I cut my hair short, so I'm different.
I wear men's clothes, so I'm different.
I smoke roll-ups, so I'm different.
I'm vegetarian, so I'm different.
I'm lesbian, so I'm different.

People don't understand that we don't try to be different for any reason, but I just am.

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Originally Posted by Wander

Fuck trying, I do it naturally. I would hate to be like the people I'm surrounded by.

Oh dear lord, completely. I'm fine with them being them, but I certainly don't want to be.

thebikelady · 8th Jan 2009, 03:58 PM

People often say that I am different, but they always seem to mean it in a good way.

Aries · 8th Jan 2009, 04:21 PM

You Need To Be Different, If You Weren't You Would Be Just Like Them, If Everybody Was The Same, We'd All Be Robots. O.o

8th Jan 2009, 04:34 PM

Judging by everyone's comments, it would seem that by trying to be the same, I'm quite different.
Smells like paradox.

Nick · 8th Jan 2009, 05:26 PM

We can all be unique together (except Numfarh who tries to be the same but ends up being the only different one) !! :P

I don't try to be different, I just try and have fun and by doing that, I end up being different (two watches ftw !) and I love it. I love seeing how people react to something that is different to what they are used to. That's why I sometimes love life, it's just one big experiment and every person I come into contact with is my guinea pig.

Besides, people are more likely to remember the unique people as opposed to the ones who are the same as the people next to them.

8th Jan 2009, 05:43 PM

I don't try, it's just natural. I've never been accused of trying, but if I had a dime for every time someone had commented on something like that, I'd be... moderately wealthy. I definitely think it's a compliment.

I really can't stand "sheep," although some of them can be quite interesting if you separate them from the flock. Which is why my friends are all as "unique" as I am.

Mickey · 8th Jan 2009, 07:04 PM

What's wrong with "different"?

Leon481 · 8th Jan 2009, 07:10 PM

I'm very different from most of the people around me. Unfotunately, no one notices because I have absolutely no social skills whatsoever. Most people's first impression of me is either that I'm mentally slow or really boring.

The rare person who tries to get to know me though gets a nice surprise.

8th Jan 2009, 07:30 PM

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Originally Posted by pirateninja

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Originally Posted by Wander

Fuck trying, I do it naturally. I would hate to be like the people I'm surrounded by.

Oh dear lord, completely. I'm fine with them being them, but I certainly don't want to be.

Me too. I can just imagine a little clique of three Joes... *shudder* Not pretty.

myra · 8th Jan 2009, 07:33 PM

i've never been told i'm different. just weird. lol. and i like being weird!

Lychee · 8th Jan 2009, 08:04 PM

Normal people are so frickin boring anyway

Most people who know me, know that I'm naturally different, but sometimes people think that I'm "trying to be different" just to annoy them (because of course, everything I do, revolves around them *eye roll*)

I was wondering, if you get like a specific number of different people, say 1 out of every a hundred people who would be considered the... most different in that group, and you took them to a 'different convention,' would you find that most people are different in the same way, but just in their own social groups, so in fact they're not really different compared to other different people?

I suppose you'd have some people who were different in other ways to the other people, and therefore these people would truly be the 'different' people in our society...

musican · 8th Jan 2009, 08:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Lychee

Normal people are so frickin boring anyway

Most people who know me, know that I'm naturally different, but sometimes people think that I'm "trying to be different" just to annoy them (because of course, everything I do, revolves around them *eye roll*)

I was wondering, if you get like a specific number of different people, say 1 out of every a hundred people who would be considered the... most different in that group, and you took them to a 'different convention,' would you find that most people are different in the same way, but just in their own social groups, so in fact they're not really different compared to other different people?

I suppose you'd have some people who were different in other ways to the other people, and therefore these people would truly be the 'different' people in our society...

I think that sort of makes sense, but it made my brain hurt a little.

Lychee · 8th Jan 2009, 08:36 PM

Oops, sorry.

musican · 8th Jan 2009, 08:38 PM

Lol, it's ok; it is an interesting question, if I understand what you meant.

Lychee · 8th Jan 2009, 08:42 PM

Frankly, I'm not too sure what I meant either. I kinda think I know, but it made my brain hurt too :|

mattypants · 8th Jan 2009, 10:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Aries

You Need To Be Different, If You Weren't You Would Be Just Like Them, If Everybody Was The Same, We'd All Be Robots. O.o

oh the irony xD !!!!!!!!

8th Jan 2009, 03:22 PM	#1
-Michael- Been gone a while. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: DragonPhoenixLightningAwesome Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Middlesbrough, North-east England Age: 20 Posts: 2,198 Join Date: Jun 2008	'trying to be different' People keep telling me I'm trying to be different in everything I do. Just because I like things they have little or no interest in. Like Poetry, I fucking love it! and because I have a bit of Bach on my ipod for when I'm working.... I smoke a different brand to them....so im trying to be different. I speak differently....so i'm trying to be different I drink martinis....so im trying to be different D: Has anyone told you you're trying to be different? I find it a compliment to be fair, just knowing I have some originality.

8th Jan 2009, 03:38 PM	#2
mattypants Chacun à son goût Full Member Gender: male/garçon/hombre Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some friends Some family and the lesbians Location: Los angeles, Ca Posts: 2,733 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: 'trying to be different' as long as im the only one being different. more than one of us ruins it xD

8th Jan 2009, 03:48 PM	#3
Numfarh Guest Posts: n/a	Re: 'trying to be different' No one has ever told me that. Because I try to be the same. But a better version of the same. Like a Same 2.0. However, I do think that people who need to list off things they do that are different might be trying unconciously to be different. points at hipsters Vinyl died for a reason, guys. And the reason no one knows your band is because they aren't very good, not because you're cool. But that's fine. You can be different. Just like everyone else.

8th Jan 2009, 03:48 PM	#4
Wander Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Parents, aunts, grandma, counselor, online friends Location: Central Alabama Age: 18 Posts: 2,360 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: 'trying to be different' Fuck trying, I do it naturally. I would hate to be like the people I'm surrounded by.

8th Jan 2009, 03:58 PM	#6
thebikelady EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: 9? Age: 28 Posts: 485 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: 'trying to be different' People often say that I am different, but they always seem to mean it in a good way.

8th Jan 2009, 04:21 PM	#7
Aries Wish I Was A Cupcake O.o Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Everyone Who Cares! O.o Location: Riverside, California Age: 24 Posts: 112 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: 'trying to be different' You Need To Be Different, If You Weren't You Would Be Just Like Them, If Everybody Was The Same, We'd All Be Robots. O.o __________________

8th Jan 2009, 04:34 PM	#8
Numfarh Guest Posts: n/a	Re: 'trying to be different' Judging by everyone's comments, it would seem that by trying to be the same, I'm quite different. Smells like paradox.

8th Jan 2009, 05:26 PM	#9
Nick was a pinstripe. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: K4/5 ? Out Status: Some people Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 20 Posts: 492 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: 'trying to be different' We can all be unique together (except Numfarh who tries to be the same but ends up being the only different one) !! :P I don't try to be different, I just try and have fun and by doing that, I end up being different (two watches ftw !) and I love it. I love seeing how people react to something that is different to what they are used to. That's why I sometimes love life, it's just one big experiment and every person I come into contact with is my guinea pig. Besides, people are more likely to remember the unique people as opposed to the ones who are the same as the people next to them. __________________ "When it comes to exploring the sea of love, I prefer buoys" - Andrew G. Dehel

8th Jan 2009, 05:43 PM	#10
Drizzt DoUrden Guest Posts: n/a	Re: 'trying to be different' I don't try, it's just natural. I've never been accused of trying, but if I had a dime for every time someone had commented on something like that, I'd be... moderately wealthy. I definitely think it's a compliment. I really can't stand "sheep," although some of them can be quite interesting if you separate them from the flock. Which is why my friends are all as "unique" as I am.

8th Jan 2009, 07:04 PM	#11
Mickey Older and bolder! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Massachusetts Age: 50 Posts: 1,775 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: 'trying to be different' What's wrong with "different"? __________________ We don't choose to be gay...we're CHOSEN!

8th Jan 2009, 07:10 PM	#12
Leon481 EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out Online Location: Southeast of Atlanta, Georgia Age: 26 Posts: 343 Join Date: Oct 2007	Re: 'trying to be different' I'm very different from most of the people around me. Unfotunately, no one notices because I have absolutely no social skills whatsoever. Most people's first impression of me is either that I'm mentally slow or really boring. The rare person who tries to get to know me though gets a nice surprise.

8th Jan 2009, 07:33 PM	#14
myra EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: Out to everyone Location: BTown, Ohio Age:* 22 Posts: 449 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: 'trying to be different' i've never been told i'm different. just weird. lol. and i like being weird! __________________ David's and Bryan's #1 Fag Hag!

8th Jan 2009, 08:04 PM	#15
Lychee EC Addict Full Member Gender: Spazmatazz Orientation: Friendspage Location: Contrabassoon Posts: 1,739 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: 'trying to be different' Normal people are so frickin boring anyway Most people who know me, know that I'm naturally different, but sometimes people think that I'm "trying to be different" just to annoy them (because of course, everything I do, revolves around them eye roll) I was wondering, if you get like a specific number of different people, say 1 out of every a hundred people who would be considered the... most different in that group, and you took them to a 'different convention,' would you find that most people are different in the same way, but just in their own social groups, so in fact they're not really different compared to other different people? I suppose you'd have some people who were different in other ways to the other people, and therefore these people would truly be the 'different' people in our society... __________________ We we we so excited.

8th Jan 2009, 08:36 PM	#17
Lychee EC Addict Full Member Gender: Spazmatazz Orientation: Friendspage Location: Contrabassoon Posts: 1,739 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: 'trying to be different' Oops, sorry. __________________ We we we so excited.

8th Jan 2009, 08:38 PM	#18
musican EC's Resident DJ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: "I wanna kiss a boy" Out Status: family and facebook Location: (Not the city), New York Age: 20 Posts: 3,832 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: 'trying to be different' Lol, it's ok; it is an interesting question, if I understand what you meant. __________________ How I miss our love when the winter surrounds me icicle teardrops.

8th Jan 2009, 08:42 PM	#19
Lychee EC Addict Full Member Gender: Spazmatazz Orientation: Friendspage Location: Contrabassoon Posts: 1,739 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: 'trying to be different' Frankly, I'm not too sure what I meant either. I kinda think I know, but it made my brain hurt too :\| __________________ We we we so excited.