How to respond to the "being gay is a choice" argument?

I saw someone's post on here before, and I thought it was the perfect comeback

"I didn't choose to be gay, I just got lucky"


and I thought about this one for bisexuality..

"I didn't choose this, I just got lucky, because now I can be with whoever I want!"

 

I was about to create a thread about this but anyway my friends brought this up the other day. What I said was "Why we chose to be discriminated by others and beaten and being apart of the minority?"

 

"Let me answer your question with a question. Do you wake up everyday and think that you want to be straight?"

 

"When did you choose to be straight?"
"Did you also choose to be right handed?"

BTW, the best take on this I've ever read was an article the The Onion called "After Careful Deliberation Baby Decides to Be Gay."

 

Can you choose to feel sexual attraction to the same sex?
You should be able to if you actually believe sexuality is a choice, otherwise you are wrong.

Is a pretty solid argument, I'd say.

 

I always enjoy the response of "ok...then choose it. Just for a week. Go on."

 

I honestly don't like it when people bring this up xD But this would be my response:

"Ahem... I couldn't hear you over my gayness."

What?!

"I said... ah, I'm just kidding." :roflmao:

"But... It's not a choice! I wanted to be straight but guess what?!"

What?

:thewave: "I WAS A RAINBOW ALL ALONG!" :thewave:

XD Lol, ok, ok, xD

Honestly, I believe that you're born or probably grew up like it. I grew up in a environment where I always hanged out with my guy cousins and grew up a tomboy. So maybe that's that or maybe that I was too awesome to be straight. :roflmao:

Sexuality is usually something that's determined at birth, but it is definitely something you learn about and discover as you grow as a person.

"So, it's DEFINITELY not a choice!"

:icon_cool

 

"You never know. You might like it."

 

I like those. Im gonna use that when this topic was brought up to me

 

Yeah that's a tough one, you are not going to change their mind. All you can do is lay down a seed. I liked Formality's approach.

 

Tell them if they can choose between two genders to date then they're bi

 

Does this work? I just made it...

 

I would always spew out all the facts I know about how people are born LGBT.

I think an easy one to turn to is how being gay works in a similar way as left handedness.

I actually was able to convince a homophobe that being gay is not a choice. I was kind of proud of myself.

 

^^

 

I usually point out some of the many risks and disadvantages that come along with being gay to prove that no one would ever choose it.

 

I'll go with the "When did you choose to be straight?" bandwagon.

 

(Assuming the person who made that argument was a guy...)

Him: "Being gay is a choice!!!!!!"

Me: "Okay, if you think being gay is a simple choice, then here."

*Shows him a picture of a hot, naked chick*

Me: "Stare at this pic for a minute."

Him: "Wow! She's hot!"

Me: "Now CHOOSE not to be sexually aroused from looking at this pic. Force yourself to not find her sexually attractive."

Him: "Uhh..."

Me: "Okay then, let's try this."

*Shows him a picture of a hot, naked guy*

Me: "Now CHOOSE to get sexually aroused from looking at this pic. Come on, you said it's a choice, so do it..."

Him: "But...uhhh...."

Me: "Thought so."

 

I respond in one of two ways:

1) "Why would anyone choose to be something that is looked down upon and discriminated against by so many people?"

or

2) "How can you choose who you love? Did you choose to fall in love with *insert name of significant other of homophobe*?"

Once in a while I'll point out how well-documented in nature homosexuality is, although I don't use that argument as much.

 

That's fantastic