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8th Jan 2009, 09:05 PM

OK i am getting fucking pist and was wondering how do you all deal with anger personally i bottle it up and explode on whoever pisses me off the most and its not pretty but it works

Wired106 · 8th Jan 2009, 09:08 PM

lol dude i'm exactly like you haha. I havn't been able to find a solution to that problem yet.. Usually ill like try to take a walk on my levee and listen to my ipod and think about stuff and chill. But that doesn't always seem to work because I still get pissed off and irritated over rly small stupid things. Maybe try talking to someone about the stuff that is going on? I'm not too sure because idk what to do myself lol.

techie01 · 8th Jan 2009, 09:09 PM

I am in a Martial Art so at the end of the day I take out all my agression on a bag

Paralyzer · 8th Jan 2009, 09:13 PM

I smash things...
I broke my desk and my keyboard.. haha

Aries · 8th Jan 2009, 09:15 PM

I Usually Listen To Some Music, And If That Doesn't Help Then I Like To Call Up A Friend And Vent, That Usually Helps. Or If Worst Comes To Worst I Lock Myself In My Room, Blast My Stereo, Throw Whatever Is Near Me And Unbreakable Across The Room And Cry Until I Fall To Sleep. And Then When I Wake Up I Am Calmed Down And Then I Get Over It Because Life Is Too Short To Be Pissed All The Time.

I Hope This Helped Lol.

Oh And I Hope You Find A Way To Feel Better. :]

8th Jan 2009, 09:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Wired106

I still get pissed off and irritated over rly small stupid things.

Yeah for me too like the smallest thing can push me over the edge ESPECIALLY if someone is smacking their lips I get in a LOT of trouble with that cuz a LOT of people smack and gorge themselves down here

Markio · 8th Jan 2009, 09:56 PM

I tend to have the opposite problem. Instead of getting mad, I feel blatantly sad so that people can give me sympathy. Too manipulative!

myra · 8th Jan 2009, 10:40 PM

I'm in fencing so when i'm pissed i go out and kill people. lol. (that's what we call it in fencing. killing and stabbing.) If that doesn't work then i usually throw stuffed animals and my pillows against the wall. i ripped the head off of one before. but that was the only time that happened. If i don't have an outlet, i'll go scream in a pillow or cry. lol. I'm such a girl when it comes to emotions.

mattypants · 8th Jan 2009, 10:48 PM

i usually bottle it up and let it fade away. i count myself lucky for having bad short term memory, which helps
if i let myself, it would probably lead to me pleading temporary insanity... lol

**EM68** · 9th Jan 2009, 03:42 AM

I like to go to the gym and work out. After I go to the gym I feel a lot better.

Kid Quasar · 9th Jan 2009, 04:22 AM

I'm going to try the Lex thing here :P

Bottling up your anger and taking it out on others can be a serious issue if you are not trying to fix it. We all go through anger in life, and I can guarantee that at least everyone here has handled wrong at least once. Stress relief can also be used to deal with anger as well, but a more primitive method is all takes some times. Try buying a punching bag. Also, what I find a great way to relieve anger is to go into he woods behind my house and scream(Usually swear words in Japanese) If that doesn't help, just try tea, music, meditation, and bubble baths!

Mood

beckyg · 9th Jan 2009, 07:22 AM

Cry.

heatqueen · 9th Jan 2009, 07:48 AM

Punch a pillow.

And Mood, you did a very good Lex there.

**Martin** · 9th Jan 2009, 09:34 AM

It dependsssss. Sometimes I will just go quiet and be moody, other times I have mini tantrums.

I always find sarcastic bitchiness helps me calm down, but the only real cure for me is sleep. ^_^

9th Jan 2009, 09:39 AM

Move to Support Section?

This is from http://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/anger-tips/

Also here are somethings you can do also its not could to hold it in becuase it balls up all inside.

Count to ten before you act

Anger leads us to take action very fast. But that can mean we don’t give ourselves the chance to choose a more constructive way to deal with our anger. Give rational thinking time to kick in.

Drop your shoulders and take a few deep breaths

And relax… your instincts may be telling your body to get ready to fight, but you can reverse this message by telling your body to chill out.

Pummel a pillow or have a scream in your room

Anger gets us ready for action and floods us with energy. Release your tension in a safe way, without hurting yourself or anyone else.

Channel your energy into exercise

Work off your anger through exercise and boost the release of feel good brain chemicals which help us relax.

Distract yourself

Take yourself out of the situation that made you angry - read a magazine, do a crossword, listen to soothing music or go for a walk.

Get creative

Pour out how you feel in writing or redirect your energy into another activity. It can help you get things in proportion and work out how you want to respond.

What you can do longer term

Practise relaxation techniques like yoga or meditation

Relaxation techniques challenge the physical aspects of anger, such as the brain chemicals that prepare you to fight, before these chemicals lead you to act impulsively.

Keep talking, keep listening

Talking about your feelings is good for your mental health and offloading to a friend can help you get perspective. Listen to other people’s point of view too. Assuming you know where they stand can take things from bad to worse.

Learn how to be assertive, not aggressive

Being assertive is a healthier way to express anger than aggression. People are more likely to take you seriously if you get your message across without sounding threatening or using aggressive body language.

Know yourself

It can be helpful to work out what makes you angry, how it makes you behave and what calms you down. Would changes in your daily life help you deal with anger better?

Swamp56 · 9th Jan 2009, 11:15 AM

I developed a really bad habit of keeping everything inside and then explode in a suicidal episode (almost as if to say "I need help").

I'm getting shit loads of help now though lol, so that those never happen again.
I finally got help for it...
By the way, talking also helps me a lot when I'm upset :P .

9th Jan 2009, 12:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Swamp56

I developed a really bad habit of keeping everything inside and then explode in a suicidal episode (almost as if to say "I need help").

I'm getting shit loads of help now though lol, so that those never happen again.
I finally got help for it...
By the way, talking also helps me a lot when I'm upset :P .

Well its good that your getting help speaking to a psychologist can help alot but i understand were you are coming from well best of wor and also keep up the good work

Ty · 9th Jan 2009, 12:56 PM

I've never seen so many references to urine in a paragraph before.

HeavensRejekt · 9th Jan 2009, 02:26 PM

i just punch whatever s in front of me when I'm really pissed.

Shaylyn · 9th Jan 2009, 04:37 PM

I do push ups, pace, do more push ups, pace some more, do some sit ups, pace, do more push ups and then go take a wicked hot shower.

8th Jan 2009, 09:05 PM	#1
JayC Guest Posts: n/a	Gettin Pist OK i am getting fucking pist and was wondering how do you all deal with anger personally i bottle it up and explode on whoever pisses me off the most and its not pretty but it works

8th Jan 2009, 09:08 PM	#2
Wired106 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Norcal-San Francisco! Age: 20 Posts: 557 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Gettin Pist lol dude i'm exactly like you haha. I havn't been able to find a solution to that problem yet.. Usually ill like try to take a walk on my levee and listen to my ipod and think about stuff and chill. But that doesn't always seem to work because I still get pissed off and irritated over rly small stupid things. Maybe try talking to someone about the stuff that is going on? I'm not too sure because idk what to do myself lol. __________________ "What would life be if we had no courage to attempt anything?" - Vincent Van Gogh "The hardest thing in life to learn is which bridge to cross and which to burn." - David Russell

8th Jan 2009, 09:09 PM	#3
techie01 Just There :) Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bi/Gay Out Status: A Friend Location: Texas Age: 26 Posts: 136 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: Gettin Pist I am in a Martial Art so at the end of the day I take out all my agression on a bag

8th Jan 2009, 09:13 PM	#4
Paralyzer Steven Brightside Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Friendly Out Status: A lot Location: Virginia Age: 20 Posts: 1,091 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Gettin Pist I smash things... I broke my desk and my keyboard.. haha __________________ every line on your face makes a beautiful maze for my eyes to trace

8th Jan 2009, 09:15 PM	#5
Aries Wish I Was A Cupcake O.o Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Everyone Who Cares! O.o Location: Riverside, California Age: 24 Posts: 112 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Gettin Pist I Usually Listen To Some Music, And If That Doesn't Help Then I Like To Call Up A Friend And Vent, That Usually Helps. Or If Worst Comes To Worst I Lock Myself In My Room, Blast My Stereo, Throw Whatever Is Near Me And Unbreakable Across The Room And Cry Until I Fall To Sleep. And Then When I Wake Up I Am Calmed Down And Then I Get Over It Because Life Is Too Short To Be Pissed All The Time. I Hope This Helped Lol. Oh And I Hope You Find A Way To Feel Better. :] __________________

8th Jan 2009, 09:56 PM	#7
Markio EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Family, friends, and staff! Location: California Age: 21 Posts: 1,139 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Gettin Pist I tend to have the opposite problem. Instead of getting mad, I feel blatantly sad so that people can give me sympathy. Too manipulative! __________________ Celebrate diversity!

8th Jan 2009, 10:40 PM	#8
myra EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: Out to everyone Location: BTown, Ohio Age:* 22 Posts: 449 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: Gettin Pist I'm in fencing so when i'm pissed i go out and kill people. lol. (that's what we call it in fencing. killing and stabbing.) If that doesn't work then i usually throw stuffed animals and my pillows against the wall. i ripped the head off of one before. but that was the only time that happened. If i don't have an outlet, i'll go scream in a pillow or cry. lol. I'm such a girl when it comes to emotions. __________________ David's and Bryan's #1 Fag Hag!

8th Jan 2009, 10:48 PM	#9
mattypants Chacun à son goût Full Member Gender: male/garçon/hombre Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some friends Some family and the lesbians Location: Los angeles, Ca Posts: 2,733 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Gettin Pist i usually bottle it up and let it fade away. i count myself lucky for having bad short term memory, which helps if i let myself, it would probably lead to me pleading temporary insanity... lol

9th Jan 2009, 03:42 AM	#10
EM68 Happily Married! :) EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about. Location: Stoughton, Massachusetts USA Age: 43 Posts: 4,288 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Gettin Pist I like to go to the gym and work out. After I go to the gym I feel a lot better. __________________ I'm beautiful in my way, 'Cause God makes no mistakes I'm on the right track, baby I was Born This Way -Lady Gaga

9th Jan 2009, 04:22 AM	#11
Kid Quasar AKA Kid Gayzar Full Member Gender: Eight Equals Greater Than Orientation: North at the moment Out Status: Caught on a hanger Location: Goshen, Indiana Age: 18 Posts: 345 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Gettin Pist I'm going to try the Lex thing here :P Bottling up your anger and taking it out on others can be a serious issue if you are not trying to fix it. We all go through anger in life, and I can guarantee that at least everyone here has handled wrong at least once. Stress relief can also be used to deal with anger as well, but a more primitive method is all takes some times. Try buying a punching bag. Also, what I find a great way to relieve anger is to go into he woods behind my house and scream(Usually swear words in Japanese) If that doesn't help, just try tea, music, meditation, and *bubble baths!* Mood __________________ (Lo-_-)o

9th Jan 2009, 07:22 AM	#12
beckyg PFLAG Mom Community Liaison Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Out Status: Out to everyone/Yes, parents come out too! Location: Middle of Oregon Age: 50 Posts: 7,572 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: Gettin Pist Cry. __________________ "When we're free to love anyone we choose, When this worlds big enough for all different views, When we're all free to worship from our own kind of pew, Then we shall be free" ~ Garth Brooks

9th Jan 2009, 07:48 AM	#13
heatqueen Official #1 fan of Celine Dion Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual/Homoromantic bisexual Out Status: Generally whoever asks Location: I travel a lot Age: 20 Posts: 5,706 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Gettin Pist Punch a pillow. And Mood, you did a very good Lex there. __________________ Don't drink and drive. You might hit a bump and spill your drink. Co-founder of the 'Sailor Moon Made Me Gay' club...and the lesbians.

9th Jan 2009, 09:34 AM	#14
Martin EC's Red Queen EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Merseyside, UK Age: 21 Posts: 8,046 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: Gettin Pist It dependsssss. Sometimes I will just go quiet and be moody, other times I have mini tantrums. I always find sarcastic bitchiness helps me calm down, but the only real cure for me is sleep. ^_^

9th Jan 2009, 09:39 AM	#15
Urman Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Gettin Pist Move to Support Section? This is from http://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/anger-tips/ Also here are somethings you can do also its not could to hold it in becuase it balls up all inside. Count to ten before you act Anger leads us to take action very fast. But that can mean we don’t give ourselves the chance to choose a more constructive way to deal with our anger. Give rational thinking time to kick in. Drop your shoulders and take a few deep breaths And relax… your instincts may be telling your body to get ready to fight, but you can reverse this message by telling your body to chill out. Pummel a pillow or have a scream in your room Anger gets us ready for action and floods us with energy. Release your tension in a safe way, without hurting yourself or anyone else. Channel your energy into exercise Work off your anger through exercise and boost the release of feel good brain chemicals which help us relax. Distract yourself Take yourself out of the situation that made you angry - read a magazine, do a crossword, listen to soothing music or go for a walk. Get creative Pour out how you feel in writing or redirect your energy into another activity. It can help you get things in proportion and work out how you want to respond. What you can do longer term Practise relaxation techniques like yoga or meditation Relaxation techniques challenge the physical aspects of anger, such as the brain chemicals that prepare you to fight, before these chemicals lead you to act impulsively. Keep talking, keep listening Talking about your feelings is good for your mental health and offloading to a friend can help you get perspective. Listen to other people’s point of view too. Assuming you know where they stand can take things from bad to worse. Learn how to be assertive, not aggressive Being assertive is a healthier way to express anger than aggression. People are more likely to take you seriously if you get your message across without sounding threatening or using aggressive body language. Know yourself It can be helpful to work out what makes you angry, how it makes you behave and what calms you down. Would changes in your daily life help you deal with anger better?

9th Jan 2009, 11:15 AM	#16
Swamp56 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Boston, MA Age: 21 Posts: 2,166 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: Gettin Pist I developed a really bad habit of keeping everything inside and then explode in a suicidal episode (almost as if to say "I need help"). I'm getting shit loads of help now though lol, so that those never happen again. I finally got help for it... By the way, talking also helps me a lot when I'm upset :P . __________________

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