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Shyvin · 10th Jan 2009, 05:20 PM

I was having a chat with someone, I just met this someone today, and she was making a comment on how unattractive she believes herself to be. I then commented saying that "beauty is the the eye of the beholder, I am sure there are lots of guys who probably think you are cute; or girls if that is your thing."

She responds by saying that she is into guys and that she is not offended by homosexuals.

Now, correct me if I am wrong, but does this statement sound like she is saying she tolerates homosexuals?

I don't know, just thought I'd ask for some opinions.

xballetxbeautyx · 10th Jan 2009, 05:22 PM

Well... It seems like she wouldn't say that she isn't offended unless she thinks you will assume she is offended... why not just say "I'm into guys"? I'm not sure why she added that... *shrug*

littledinosaurs · 10th Jan 2009, 05:22 PM

it sounds like she is tolerant i guess....
maybe she doesn't understand them but they don't pose a threat or issue to her?

littledinosaurs · 10th Jan 2009, 05:23 PM

like
Straight but not narrow people i guess.

Shyvin · 10th Jan 2009, 05:25 PM

Maybe I'm trying to over analyze something trivial. That does sound more logical...

Wander · 10th Jan 2009, 05:36 PM

She's saying that she's straight, but the idea of girls finding her attractive isn't weird or disturbing to her.

Shyvin · 10th Jan 2009, 05:37 PM

Ahhh, that does make sense. Wow. Seems rather obvious, I feel stupid now.

Brandford · 10th Jan 2009, 05:40 PM

I suppose thats what she meant, at first i thought she meant like how some straight people would usually get offended if they were asked if they were homosexual

thebikelady · 10th Jan 2009, 06:14 PM

Or it could very well be that she is hiding something. I used to say similar type stuff when I was in denial and then when deeply closeted. Who knows.

Kryz · 10th Jan 2009, 11:24 PM

I don't really see the point in saying "I'm not offended by homosexuals"...

Why don't just say "Nah, I'm only into guys"

BUT it does sounds like a good sign.

Psychedelic Bookmarks · 11th Jan 2009, 03:08 AM

It sounds like she's tolerant. Like, she's into guys, but then she thinks "ooops maybe that sounds bigoted" so she clarifies that she has no problem with gay people.

kaster · 11th Jan 2009, 08:33 AM

is it possible that maybe she sensed that you might be gay? so after saying that she wanted to reassure you that she's fine with that. So that you wouldnt feel uncomfortable?

**Lexington** · 11th Jan 2009, 08:46 AM

Now I want a T-shirt.

NOT OFFENDED
BY HETEROSEXUALS

Lex

ccdd · 11th Jan 2009, 08:46 AM

It sounds like a clumsy way of saying that she's OK with gay people and homosexuality - to me, what she actually seems to be suggesting is that there is something that could be offensive about homosexuals but that she personally doesn't find them so...

But it sounds like she just didn't really think carefully about the exact meaning of the comment she was making, and the gist of what she was saying was "I'm straight but I've got nothing wrong with gay people".

-Michael- · 11th Jan 2009, 08:51 AM

I think she's just phrased it badly.

She probably meant she's not offended by you being open to the possibility that she could be gay.

I suppose it isn't that big an improvement

myra · 11th Jan 2009, 10:18 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lexington

Now I want a T-shirt.

NOT OFFENDED
BY HETEROSEXUALS

Lex

I love it lex! i want one too!

Shyvin · 11th Jan 2009, 04:53 PM

Thanks for all the responses. I'm unsure about coming out to her, because she told one of my friends that she likes me and I guess I'll just tell her I'm too busy to date. She actually texted me earlier and asked me if I wanted to hang out with her. I told her yes but I hope she doesn't think it is something different than just hanging out with her.

jazzrawr · 11th Jan 2009, 05:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lexington

Now I want a T-shirt.

NOT OFFENDED
BY HETEROSEXUALS

Lex

I'd so buy that.

BlakeHarmony · 11th Jan 2009, 05:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jazzrawr

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lexington

Now I want a T-shirt.

NOT OFFENDED
BY HETEROSEXUALS

Lex

I'd so buy that.

Me too!

pirateninja · 12th Jan 2009, 01:01 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Blak********

Quote:

Originally Posted by jazzrawr

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lexington

Now I want a T-shirt.

NOT OFFENDED
BY HETEROSEXUALS

Lex

I'd so buy that.

Me too!

There's a t-shirt printing place near me. I am so going to get that printed now

10th Jan 2009, 05:20 PM	#1
Shyvin Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 27 Posts: 196 Join Date: Dec 2008	"Not Offended by Homosexuals" I was having a chat with someone, I just met this someone today, and she was making a comment on how unattractive she believes herself to be. I then commented saying that "beauty is the the eye of the beholder, I am sure there are lots of guys who probably think you are cute; or girls if that is your thing." She responds by saying that she is into guys and that she is not offended by homosexuals. Now, correct me if I am wrong, but does this statement sound like she is saying she tolerates homosexuals? I don't know, just thought I'd ask for some opinions. Last edited by Shyvin; 10th Jan 2009 at 05:24 PM..

10th Jan 2009, 05:22 PM	#2
xballetxbeautyx Heterodox Homosexual Full Member Gender: (.)(.) Orientation: Kinsey 5? Ish? Out Status: If you don't know, where have you been all my life Location: Midwest USA Age: 17 Posts: 1,719 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: "Not Offended by Homosexuals" Well... It seems like she wouldn't say that she isn't offended unless she thinks you will assume she is offended... why not just say "I'm into guys"? I'm not sure why she added that... shrug __________________ I can't go to Pigfarts! IT'S ON MARS. You need a rocketship! Do you have a rocketship, Potter? Look at this - it's Rocketship Potter! Starkid Potter! Moonshoes Potter! Traversing the galaxy for intergalactic travels to Pigfarts!

10th Jan 2009, 05:22 PM	#3
littledinosaurs J'essaie de Parler Français! :] Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: Bisexuel Location: Nouvelle-Angleterre. Age: 21 Posts: 2,351 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: "Not Offended by Homosexuals" it sounds like she is tolerant i guess.... maybe she doesn't understand them but they don't pose a threat or issue to her? __________________ Âllo Là

10th Jan 2009, 05:23 PM	#4
littledinosaurs J'essaie de Parler Français! :] Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: Bisexuel Location: Nouvelle-Angleterre. Age: 21 Posts: 2,351 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: "Not Offended by Homosexuals" like Straight but not narrow people i guess. __________________ Âllo Là

10th Jan 2009, 05:25 PM	#5
Shyvin Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 27 Posts: 196 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: "Not Offended by Homosexuals" Maybe I'm trying to over analyze something trivial. That does sound more logical...

10th Jan 2009, 05:36 PM	#6
Wander Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Parents, aunts, grandma, counselor, online friends Location: Central Alabama Age: 18 Posts: 2,360 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: "Not Offended by Homosexuals" She's saying that she's straight, but the idea of girls finding her attractive isn't weird or disturbing to her.

10th Jan 2009, 05:37 PM	#7
Shyvin Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 27 Posts: 196 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: "Not Offended by Homosexuals" Ahhh, that does make sense. Wow. Seems rather obvious, I feel stupid now.

10th Jan 2009, 05:40 PM	#8
Brandford Friendly Misanthrope Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: everyone that asks,my mom (i think) and my sister Location: Woodbridge, VA Age: 19 Posts: 6,656 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: "Not Offended by Homosexuals" I suppose thats what she meant, at first i thought she meant like how some straight people would usually get offended if they were asked if they were homosexual __________________ "I find nothing more depressing than optimism." --Paul Fussell

10th Jan 2009, 06:14 PM	#9
thebikelady EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: 9? Age: 28 Posts: 485 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: "Not Offended by Homosexuals" Or it could very well be that she is hiding something. I used to say similar type stuff when I was in denial and then when deeply closeted. Who knows.

10th Jan 2009, 11:24 PM	#10
Kryz EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: 95% gay 4% lesbian 1% polyester. Out Status: 7 friends and my mum. Location: Mexico City Age: 23 Posts: 659 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: "Not Offended by Homosexuals" I don't really see the point in saying "I'm not offended by homosexuals"... Why don't just say "Nah, I'm only into guys" BUT it does sounds like a good sign. __________________ Nobody wants to be alone, everybody wants to love someone... ♪ Glitter and be gay... That's the part I play... ♫ It's SO not a choice. But if it were, I would choose to be gay.

11th Jan 2009, 03:08 AM	#11
Psychedelic Bookmarks Helena Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Close family and quite a few friends Location: UK Age: 18 Posts: 2,195 Join Date: Oct 2007	Re: "Not Offended by Homosexuals" It sounds like she's tolerant. Like, she's into guys, but then she thinks "ooops maybe that sounds bigoted" so she clarifies that she has no problem with gay people. __________________ "I refuse to recognize the terms hetero-, bi-, and homo-sexual. Everybody has exactly the same sexual needs. People are just sexual, the prefix is immaterial." (Morissey)

11th Jan 2009, 08:33 AM	#12
kaster Slogan slag <3 Full Member Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 267 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: "Not Offended by Homosexuals" is it possible that maybe she sensed that you might be gay? so after saying that she wanted to reassure you that she's fine with that. So that you wouldnt feel uncomfortable? __________________ This is how it works, you're young until you're not, you love until you don't, you try until you can't. You laugh until you cry, you cry until you laugh and everone must breathe until their dying breath.

11th Jan 2009, 08:46 AM	#13
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,371 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: "Not Offended by Homosexuals" Now I want a T-shirt. NOT OFFENDED BY HETEROSEXUALS Lex

11th Jan 2009, 08:46 AM	#14
ccdd Procrastination Queen Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: 30(ish) friends, but mostly closeted. Out to mum Location: UK Posts: 1,009 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: "Not Offended by Homosexuals" It sounds like a clumsy way of saying that she's OK with gay people and homosexuality - to me, what she actually seems to be suggesting is that there is something that could be offensive about homosexuals but that she personally doesn't find them so... But it sounds like she just didn't really think carefully about the exact meaning of the comment she was making, and the gist of what she was saying was "I'm straight but I've got nothing wrong with gay people".

11th Jan 2009, 08:51 AM	#15
-Michael- Been gone a while. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: DragonPhoenixLightningAwesome Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Middlesbrough, North-east England Age: 20 Posts: 2,198 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: "Not Offended by Homosexuals" I think she's just phrased it badly. She probably meant she's not offended by you being open to the possibility that she could be gay. I suppose it isn't that big an improvement

11th Jan 2009, 04:53 PM	#17
Shyvin Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 27 Posts: 196 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: "Not Offended by Homosexuals" Thanks for all the responses. I'm unsure about coming out to her, because she told one of my friends that she likes me and I guess I'll just tell her I'm too busy to date. She actually texted me earlier and asked me if I wanted to hang out with her. I told her yes but I hope she doesn't think it is something different than just hanging out with her. Last edited by Shyvin; 11th Jan 2009 at 04:55 PM..

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