Have you ever dated someone whilst in the closet?

Nope, but I'm still in the closet and haven't ever dated to begin with, so it wouldn't surprise me if I wind up doing so, should I ever care about dating.

Honestly, I do find the idea kind of... endearing though...potentially dating someone who also helps me to come out of my 'closet' shell. :icon_redf

 

No, but I have dated someone who was in the closet. It was a pain. She would always be like "No, someone who knows someone I know might see us", and I would always wonder if it was because I was a girl or because it was ME. =/
y'know, if she was embarassed of me or something. Like I wasn't good enough to be in her life, to really be IN her life.

I can respect that some people don't want to come out or don't feel ready to, but I don't think I'll personally ever again want to date someone who isn't out.
The hiding is fun for a while, but then it turns into drama. And drama is not good, not for me =/

 

This. Looking back, it wasn't fun. Especially cause he never told me he wasn't/isn't out and just ended it out of nowhere, when I felt things were going so well.

 

Well, I've thought about it before but like others previously said, it seems really selfish and can only lead to bad things in the future. I think I'll just wait till I found that person that makes me want to be out, ya know?

And to Berru- I doubt she was ashamed of you. She was probably just scared that she would out herself to others if she was seen but anyways, I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

 

I'm seriously dating someone (around eight months)who prefers to stay closeted while I'd have no problems saying I'm gay.
It's worth it, because we do have a strong connection and relationship, and if it came to the point where she had to choose to come out, versus leave me, she would come out. We try to compromise on this, and are out to a few people, but she prefers to hide it from most. Considering our ages, I think it's okay, but if the relationship were to continue for a longer while, then we would have to.

 

Hi there,

If it does not create a problem for you, then let her decide in her own time and without pressure and stay as you are for the moment. Being happy is the most important thing

 

This is pretty much what I was trying to say with my post above. Hypothetically, should I be in the closet still around the time said person showed up, there's a certain appeal to the thought of making a connection that would make me want to be out.

 

Nope. Always been single, probably will be up until my 20's.

 

Yes. I guess I had the advantage of seeing her in other towns. We lived in different towns and would meet up and go wandering, and wherever we ended up, we were a couple.
Due to a very difficult situation I was in, I couldn't be out, but she understood that and accepted it. I still kick myself for ending it like I did.

 

Where we will welcome you with open arms. :la:

 

No, it was too dark and there was limited elbow space.

 

Nope. I don't understand how people do it

 

We're not really dating, but I have this thing with a friend where we both acknowledge that we're attracted to each other but aren't ready for a relationship. We hold hands a lot and stuff so I guess it's sort of dating.

I'm not out to my parents yet so yeah.

I keep asking to hang out with this friend so one day I did and my mom was like "What are you guys dating or something?" I think she was joking (I hope). It was kind of funny though.

 

I wouldn't exactly say I was in the closet it was more like I was questioning whether I liked girls or not. I dated a guy to try and convince myself I just needed someone to go out with and focus on....and if he would've been a girl it would've been the perfect relationship but we went out for a few days he tried to kiss me and I turned away realizing I didn't have any attraction to him...I really was into girls

 

My first relationship we were both in the closet. In my second I was half in the closet and gradually moved to telling everyone.

 

I had a gf in college...does that count?

 

I've never dated. period.
I don't see it happening, but if I was ever to date in the future, then yeah I would be both closeted and dating...

 

Nope.