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Would you date someone who was HIV+?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Miaplacidus, Jan 11, 2009.

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Would you date someone HIV+?

  1. Yes

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    60.2%
  2. No

    49 vote(s)
    39.8%
  1. Miaplacidus

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    I was reading a book and it got me thinking...

    Would I date someone who was HIV positive? I thought about it for days and ended up thinking that I would. Sex isn't that important to me... the things I like to do the most are safe... Harder would be to come to terms with the fact that someday my boyfriend would get really sick and die... :frowning2:

    Would you?
     
  2. Amy

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    I've thought about it too. I have come to the conclusion that I would, but only if it was someone who was really worth it. It is extra efort and stress just knowing how sick he or she could be.
     
  3. Urman

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    i personally dont think i would becuase of the risk factor.
     
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    i dont think i could get serious with someone HIV+
    i could be friends with them though
     
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    I would, I would do anything for the person I loved, even take the risk of getting HIV or any other disease
     
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    HIV+...well...I'm dating a girl who has cancer, and I must say that it's one of the most stressful things I've ever dealt with. I wouldn't really care about the transmission...but having to lose someone that I cared about a great deal would tear me up and make the days seem numbered.

    If I loved them though...I would be with them, even if they were sick.
     
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    If I was really in love with the girl, I would.
     
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    Love is based on spiritual and emotional connection, not physical. I would say yes, if that person was the right person. . .
     
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    I would like to say that I could, but honestly I don't know if I could.

    I think it would depend on when I found out. If I found out right after I met the person, I likely would not. If I got to know the person first... It would be a hard decision, but I think I would.
     
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    Yes,I would.
     
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    I would, it would be hard knowing that there is no cure for HIV/AIDS as of yet but if they were worth it, then yes.
     
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    i'm not sure if i would because i don't think i could handle it if the person i was dateing died. i know it's selfish and probably makes me a horrible person but it's the truth.
     
  14. It depends... If I had known him for a good while and really loved him before I found out, then there's a good chance. If I had just met him when I found out, I probably wouldn't.
     
  15. BitterEdge

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    no, not because of the risk of transmission, but the whole ordeal. It is still a serious illness to which there is no cure and it's painful for everyone especially to see your loved one fall away from u.
     
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    I would. I can't really explain why, and I understand the risks, but I would. Everyone here is saying, "not unless I really loved them"....but....how can you know that unless you date them at all?
     
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    I'm kinda ocd with germs so i would have a tough time
     
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    I don't know how I would feel about the fact that the person I was with would almost certainly die within my lifetime.
     
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    If I found the right person for me, and we really clicked, I would. I could go without sex for this person.
     
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    Exactly.