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Miaplacidus · 11th Jan 2009, 06:07 PM

I was reading a book and it got me thinking...

Would I date someone who was HIV positive? I thought about it for days and ended up thinking that I would. Sex isn't that important to me... the things I like to do the most are safe... Harder would be to come to terms with the fact that someday my boyfriend would get really sick and die...

Would you?

Amy · 11th Jan 2009, 06:08 PM

I've thought about it too. I have come to the conclusion that I would, but only if it was someone who was really worth it. It is extra efort and stress just knowing how sick he or she could be.

11th Jan 2009, 06:14 PM

i personally dont think i would becuase of the risk factor.

Dazed · 11th Jan 2009, 06:14 PM

i dont think i could get serious with someone HIV+
i could be friends with them though

Brandford · 11th Jan 2009, 06:15 PM

I would, I would do anything for the person I loved, even take the risk of getting HIV or any other disease

Shaylyn · 11th Jan 2009, 06:16 PM

HIV+...well...I'm dating a girl who has cancer, and I must say that it's one of the most stressful things I've ever dealt with. I wouldn't really care about the transmission...but having to lose someone that I cared about a great deal would tear me up and make the days seem numbered.

If I loved them though...I would be with them, even if they were sick.

**Maddy** · 11th Jan 2009, 06:20 PM

If I was really in love with the girl, I would.

Grof142007 · 11th Jan 2009, 06:30 PM

Blaz · 11th Jan 2009, 06:37 PM

Love is based on spiritual and emotional connection, not physical. I would say yes, if that person was the right person. . .

starfish · 11th Jan 2009, 06:43 PM

I would like to say that I could, but honestly I don't know if I could.

I think it would depend on when I found out. If I found out right after I met the person, I likely would not. If I got to know the person first... It would be a hard decision, but I think I would.

Mickey · 11th Jan 2009, 06:45 PM

Yes,I would.

BlakeHarmony · 11th Jan 2009, 06:53 PM

I would, it would be hard knowing that there is no cure for HIV/AIDS as of yet but if they were worth it, then yes.

crystaltriforce · 11th Jan 2009, 06:57 PM

i'm not sure if i would because i don't think i could handle it if the person i was dateing died. i know it's selfish and probably makes me a horrible person but it's the truth.

11th Jan 2009, 07:06 PM

It depends... If I had known him for a good while and really loved him before I found out, then there's a good chance. If I had just met him when I found out, I probably wouldn't.

11th Jan 2009, 07:31 PM

no, not because of the risk of transmission, but the whole ordeal. It is still a serious illness to which there is no cure and it's painful for everyone especially to see your loved one fall away from u.

biisme · 11th Jan 2009, 07:45 PM

I would. I can't really explain why, and I understand the risks, but I would. Everyone here is saying, "not unless I really loved them"....but....how can you know that unless you date them at all?

Nixon · 11th Jan 2009, 07:53 PM

no
I'm kinda ocd with germs so i would have a tough time

Wander · 11th Jan 2009, 08:32 PM

I don't know how I would feel about the fact that the person I was with would almost certainly die within my lifetime.

thespanishheart · 11th Jan 2009, 08:42 PM

If I found the right person for me, and we really clicked, I would. I could go without sex for this person.

Wall · 11th Jan 2009, 08:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by thespanishheart

If I found the right person for me, and we really clicked, I would. I could go without sex for this person.

Exactly.

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11th Jan 2009, 06:07 PM	#1
Miaplacidus Cheshire Cat Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gayer than not Out Status: Everyone who asks Location: Atlantida, Uruguay Age: 22 Posts: 5,093 Join Date: Feb 2007	Would you date someone who was HIV+? I was reading a book and it got me thinking... Would I date someone who was HIV positive? I thought about it for days and ended up thinking that I would. Sex isn't that important to me... the things I like to do the most are safe... Harder would be to come to terms with the fact that someday my boyfriend would get really sick and die... Would you? __________________ We are all mad here.

11th Jan 2009, 06:08 PM	#2
Amy DFTBA Full Member Gender: Somewhere between female and I don't know Out Status: Open, not out. Location: Northern California, United States Age: 18 Posts: 2,380 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: Would you date someone who was HIV+? I've thought about it too. I have come to the conclusion that I would, but only if it was someone who was really worth it. It is extra efort and stress just knowing how sick he or she could be. __________________ "The opposite of love is not hate, but fear" Forrest Church

11th Jan 2009, 06:14 PM	#3
Urman Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Would you date someone who was HIV+? i personally dont think i would becuase of the risk factor.

11th Jan 2009, 06:14 PM	#4
Dazed Banned Gender: ladyfella Orientation: MaddyBensexual Out Status: out to all :] Location: Richmond VA Age: 24 Posts: 2,189 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: Would you date someone who was HIV+? i dont think i could get serious with someone HIV+ i could be friends with them though

11th Jan 2009, 06:15 PM	#5
Brandford Friendly Misanthrope Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: everyone that asks,my mom (i think) and my sister Location: Woodbridge, VA Age: 19 Posts: 6,656 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: Would you date someone who was HIV+? I would, I would do anything for the person I loved, even take the risk of getting HIV or any other disease __________________ "I find nothing more depressing than optimism." --Paul Fussell

11th Jan 2009, 06:16 PM	#6
Shaylyn Lemurs, Man, Lemurs. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: I roll how I roll. Out Status: Family & some friends. Location: Connecticut Age: 20 Posts: 113 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Would you date someone who was HIV+? HIV+...well...I'm dating a girl who has cancer, and I must say that it's one of the most stressful things I've ever dealt with. I wouldn't really care about the transmission...but having to lose someone that I cared about a great deal would tear me up and make the days seem numbered. If I loved them though...I would be with them, even if they were sick. __________________ I don't think I want to spend another night with you, Feeling the way you leave me to.

11th Jan 2009, 06:20 PM	#7
Maddy Free Hugs EC Admin Gender: - Orientation: Into girls Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 21 Posts: 7,702 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Would you date someone who was HIV+? If I was really in love with the girl, I would. __________________ how strange it is to be anything at all [Victor] 2:09 pm: and then halloween happened and I was outside in a skirt.

11th Jan 2009, 06:30 PM	#8
Grof142007 Dreamer of EC Merchandise Full Member Gender: Sexy Male Orientation: King of Homosexuals Out Status: Openly Gay Location: High Point,North Carolina Age: 22 Posts: 1,652 Join Date: Apr 2007	Re: Would you date someone who was HIV+? yes __________________ The name is Kevin Dreamer of EC Merchandise EmptyClosets Shop

11th Jan 2009, 06:37 PM	#9
Blaz Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay but curious. Out Status: 1 person :) Location: California Posts: 474 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Would you date someone who was HIV+? Love is based on spiritual and emotional connection, not physical. I would say yes, if that person was the right person. . .

11th Jan 2009, 06:43 PM	#10
starfish This space for lease. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I like guys Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Hippie Town, Alberta of the US Age: 31 Posts: 2,108 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: Would you date someone who was HIV+? I would like to say that I could, but honestly I don't know if I could. I think it would depend on when I found out. If I found out right after I met the person, I likely would not. If I got to know the person first... It would be a hard decision, but I think I would. __________________ All the problems of the world could be settled easily if men were only willing to think. The trouble is that men very often resort to all sorts of devices in order not to think, because thinking is such hard work. --Thomas J. Watson

11th Jan 2009, 06:45 PM	#11
Mickey Older and bolder! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Massachusetts Age: 50 Posts: 1,775 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: Would you date someone who was HIV+? Yes,I would. __________________ We don't choose to be gay...we're CHOSEN!

11th Jan 2009, 06:53 PM	#12
BlakeHarmony EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: queer Out Status: friends, parents, sibs, (nearly) anyone who asks Location: Calgary Posts: 895 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Would you date someone who was HIV+? I would, it would be hard knowing that there is no cure for HIV/AIDS as of yet but if they were worth it, then yes. __________________ Let's eat, Grandpa. Let's eat Grandpa. Punctuation saves lives! "I would rather sit on a pumpkin and have it all to myself, than be crowded on a velvet cushion" Henry David Thoreau

11th Jan 2009, 06:57 PM	#13
crystaltriforce raised by nintendo and sega Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: all but extended family Location: outside of Philadelphia Age: 21 Posts: 1,825 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Would you date someone who was HIV+? i'm not sure if i would because i don't think i could handle it if the person i was dateing died. i know it's selfish and probably makes me a horrible person but it's the truth. __________________ we need masculinity....PUT ON THE "FUZZY FUZZY CUTE CUTE" SONG!!!

11th Jan 2009, 07:06 PM	#14
Drizzt DoUrden Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Would you date someone who was HIV+? It depends... If I had known him for a good while and really loved him before I found out, then there's a good chance. If I had just met him when I found out, I probably wouldn't.

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