Do you censor your "Gay Talk?" - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

rocking23 · 13th Jan 2009, 09:52 PM

When you are with people you are out to, do you find yourself keeping from saying "He/She is hot" in a gay sense? Or other gay speak?

SwissBoy88 · 13th Jan 2009, 09:57 PM

I voted yes. But it's actually only with my straight male friends. It would be kinda weird.

Amy · 13th Jan 2009, 10:00 PM

Hahahahaha...
Nope.

marri · 13th Jan 2009, 10:04 PM

nope, I don't usually use the word 'hot' but I gay talk about girls infronted of my in-the-know-friends, they share their opinion and thats all

my friends are all very open though

SwissBoy88 · 13th Jan 2009, 10:04 PM

Maybe I have to start doing it.

RaRa · 13th Jan 2009, 10:05 PM

Yes, even with people im out too I haven't been able to say anything...I really wish i could. It sucks.

musican · 13th Jan 2009, 10:07 PM

I wish there was a 'sometimes' answer because that would be me. I don't really speak 'gay talk' to most of the people that I'm out to because it's awkward for me to bring it up; if the other person brings it up then I will talk about it, but there are some people I'm out to that I don't say anything 'gay' to.

BlakeHarmony · 13th Jan 2009, 10:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by musican

I wish there was a 'sometimes' answer because that would be me. I don't really speak 'gay talk' to most of the people that I'm out to because it's awkward for me to bring it up; if the other person brings it up then I will talk about it, but there are some people I'm out to that I don't say anything 'gay' to.

My situation exactly...

George · 13th Jan 2009, 10:29 PM

I don't censor it, but I'm not generally a person to go on about how hot other people are. :P Just with my close friends I talk about guys.

13th Jan 2009, 10:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by George

I don't censor it, but I'm not generally a person to go on about how hot other people are. :P Just with my close friends I talk about guys.

Like George said well depends if im out to my friends then yes i iwill say that guy is hot but if im not out to a person i wont

Nick · 13th Jan 2009, 11:12 PM

Nope. That's actually how someone found out about me, using almost the exact phrase listed in the first post

Janvier · 13th Jan 2009, 11:38 PM

No, if I have something to say, I say it but I don't keep going on and on about it.

davo-man · 14th Jan 2009, 01:03 AM

It depends on the people...Like my straight mates, I think there's no point in me talking about gay stuff, cos it's unlikely to interest them. Conversely, if I'm out with my girls, then I most certainly will and have pointed out hot guys etc.

It's the same about how I don't talk about work stuff with people who don't work with me...Like, if they aren't involved in that aspect of my life, I find no reason to talk about it with them. That's not to say that I can't talk about that stuff with them. I have talked about gay stuff with my straight mates (such as what they're wearing, who I'm going out with/not going out with etc etc etc), it's just that there are much more interesting things to talk about with them...Such as what alcohol we will consume that night

**Maddy** · 14th Jan 2009, 01:14 AM

At school I did, but that's because I didn't want to give my 'friends' any more ammunition against me. I don't any more.

Wander · 14th Jan 2009, 05:21 AM

I don't really do things like that anyway. Even if I were straight, I doubt I would go around saying "she's hot" to all my friends. It's just not really my nature.

Tim · 14th Jan 2009, 06:10 AM

I thought I did, but my friend said I "Show my gayness well", so I guess I don't

pirateninja · 14th Jan 2009, 06:24 AM

Only with my Catholic relatives. And they live in Devon (or Cornwall or Torquay, I never remember

), so I rarely see them anyway. Everywhere else, I just treat and talk about my crushes or whatever as any straight person would.

thebikelady · 14th Jan 2009, 06:24 AM

I do. Yesterday at work that song "Man eater" was on. One of my managers (a friend, but not in the know) looked over with a smile and said "This is your song." She was just being silly as we tend to say that about all goofy songs, but I couldn't help but giggle. I wanted to say, "No silly, I don't eat men."

**Lexington** · 14th Jan 2009, 08:03 AM

I tend not to say things like "he's hot" to anybody. I did for awhile, but my tastes are so different from "standard" that I got tired of the inevitable ten-minute-explanation that followed "Why do you think HE's hot?".

Lex

Dazed · 14th Jan 2009, 08:10 AM

i dont see why i would have to censor myself if straight people dont.
and i love my best friend for this ill say a girl is hot and she will say " shes got an ok face but here butts nice" haha

she is completely straight but she trys to understand me :]

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13th Jan 2009, 09:52 PM	#1
rocking23 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Toronto Age: 19 Posts: 452 Join Date: May 2008	Do you censor your "Gay Talk?" When you are with people you are out to, do you find yourself keeping from saying "He/She is hot" in a gay sense? Or other gay speak? Last edited by rocking23; 13th Jan 2009 at 09:54 PM..

13th Jan 2009, 09:57 PM	#2
SwissBoy88 Charmed and Dangerous Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: best friend, MOM, some co-workers Location: Switzerland Age: 23 Posts: 6,721 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Do you censor your "Gay Talk?" I voted yes. But it's actually only with my straight male friends. It would be kinda weird. __________________ Either one is free or one is not. The concept of freedom is an absolute. After all, one cannot be moderately dead, moderately loved, or moderately free. It must always remain a matter of either or. After all... I'm just a boy, standing in front of another boy, asking him to love him....

13th Jan 2009, 10:00 PM	#3
Amy DFTBA Full Member Gender: Somewhere between female and I don't know Out Status: Open, not out. Location: Northern California, United States Age: 18 Posts: 2,380 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: Do you censor your "Gay Talk?" Hahahahaha... Nope. __________________ "The opposite of love is not hate, but fear" Forrest Church

13th Jan 2009, 10:04 PM	#4
marri Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Queer Out Status: not Location: Montreal :) Age: 20 Posts: 62 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Do you censor your "Gay Talk?" nope, I don't usually use the word 'hot' but I gay talk about girls infronted of my in-the-know-friends, they share their opinion and thats all my friends are all very open though __________________ (:

13th Jan 2009, 10:05 PM	#6
RaRa We we we so excited Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Los Angeles, CA Age: 21 Posts: 7,439 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: Do you censor your "Gay Talk?" Yes, even with people im out too I haven't been able to say anything...I really wish i could. It sucks. __________________ Do you think about me now and then? Do you think about me now and then? Oh now I'm comin' home again Maybe we can start again

13th Jan 2009, 10:07 PM	#7
musican EC's Resident DJ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: "I wanna kiss a boy" Out Status: family and facebook Location: (Not the city), New York Age: 20 Posts: 3,832 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Do you censor your "Gay Talk?" I wish there was a 'sometimes' answer because that would be me. I don't really speak 'gay talk' to most of the people that I'm out to because it's awkward for me to bring it up; if the other person brings it up then I will talk about it, but there are some people I'm out to that I don't say anything 'gay' to. __________________ How I miss our love when the winter surrounds me icicle teardrops.

13th Jan 2009, 10:29 PM	#9
George Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 19 Posts: 2,387 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: Do you censor your "Gay Talk?" I don't censor it, but I'm not generally a person to go on about how hot other people are. :P Just with my close friends I talk about guys.

13th Jan 2009, 11:12 PM	#11
Nick was a pinstripe. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: K4/5 ? Out Status: Some people Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 20 Posts: 492 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Do you censor your "Gay Talk?" Nope. That's actually how someone found out about me, using almost the exact phrase listed in the first post __________________ "When it comes to exploring the sea of love, I prefer buoys" - Andrew G. Dehel

13th Jan 2009, 11:38 PM	#12
Janvier يَناير Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: France Age: 22 Posts: 849 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: Do you censor your "Gay Talk?" No, if I have something to say, I say it but I don't keep going on and on about it. __________________ Uncertainty excites me.

14th Jan 2009, 01:03 AM	#13
davo-man Aspiring RENThead Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Completely Out (YAY) Location: Australia Age: 22 Posts: 3,709 Join Date: Nov 2006	Re: Do you censor your "Gay Talk?" It depends on the people...Like my straight mates, I think there's no point in me talking about gay stuff, cos it's unlikely to interest them. Conversely, if I'm out with my girls, then I most certainly will and have pointed out hot guys etc. It's the same about how I don't talk about work stuff with people who don't work with me...Like, if they aren't involved in that aspect of my life, I find no reason to talk about it with them. That's not to say that I can't talk about that stuff with them. I have talked about gay stuff with my straight mates (such as what they're wearing, who I'm going out with/not going out with etc etc etc), it's just that there are much more interesting things to talk about with them...Such as what alcohol we will consume that night __________________ The Joker Rules all.... TwoFace comes a close second! My Friends are the best people in the world Ross: Wow, you guys sure have a lot of books about being a lesbian. Susan: Well, you know, you have to take a course. Otherwise they don't let you do it.

14th Jan 2009, 01:14 AM	#14
Maddy Free Hugs EC Admin Gender: - Orientation: Into girls Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 21 Posts: 7,702 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Do you censor your "Gay Talk?" At school I did, but that's because I didn't want to give my 'friends' any more ammunition against me. I don't any more. __________________ how strange it is to be anything at all [Victor] 2:09 pm: and then halloween happened and I was outside in a skirt.

14th Jan 2009, 05:21 AM	#15
Wander Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Parents, aunts, grandma, counselor, online friends Location: Central Alabama Age: 18 Posts: 2,360 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Do you censor your "Gay Talk?" I don't really do things like that anyway. Even if I were straight, I doubt I would go around saying "she's hot" to all my friends. It's just not really my nature.

14th Jan 2009, 06:10 AM	#16
Tim Psycho Glitter Btch Full Member Gender:* Guy, Unless Life Was a Horrible April Fools Joke. Orientation: Gay/Asexual/Confusing to Explain Out Status: Armed and Fabulous! XD Location: California Age: 23 Posts: 7,381 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Do you censor your "Gay Talk?" I thought I did, but my friend said I "Show my gayness well", so I guess I don't __________________ Rawr! :3 ~The Stalker User Known As Tim~ Rawr! :3 EC's Sailor Star Healer, Oxymoron and All. Star Sensitive Inferno! Sailor Starlight, Stage On! [Vic] 7:49 pm: I keep my pants off in public.

14th Jan 2009, 06:24 AM	#17
pirateninja EC's Sailor Uranus Full Member Gender: Biologically Female Orientation: Heterosexually Challenged Out Status: Most people Location: Bath, England Age: 21 Posts: 5,853 Join Date: Sep 2007	Re: Do you censor your "Gay Talk?" Only with my Catholic relatives. And they live in Devon (or Cornwall or Torquay, I never remember ), so I rarely see them anyway. Everywhere else, I just treat and talk about my crushes or whatever as any straight person would. __________________ Holly the Pirateninja Ars Longa, Vita Brevis.

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14th Jan 2009, 06:24 AM	#18
thebikelady EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: 9? Age: 28 Posts: 485 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: Do you censor your "Gay Talk?" I do. Yesterday at work that song "Man eater" was on. One of my managers (a friend, but not in the know) looked over with a smile and said "This is your song." She was just being silly as we tend to say that about all goofy songs, but I couldn't help but giggle. I wanted to say, "No silly, I don't eat men."

14th Jan 2009, 08:03 AM	#19
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,371 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Do you censor your "Gay Talk?" I tend not to say things like "he's hot" to anybody. I did for awhile, but my tastes are so different from "standard" that I got tired of the inevitable ten-minute-explanation that followed "Why do you think HE's hot?". Lex

14th Jan 2009, 08:10 AM	#20
Dazed Banned Gender: ladyfella Orientation: MaddyBensexual Out Status: out to all :] Location: Richmond VA Age: 24 Posts: 2,189 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: Do you censor your "Gay Talk?" i dont see why i would have to censor myself if straight people dont. and i love my best friend for this ill say a girl is hot and she will say " shes got an ok face but here butts nice" haha she is completely straight but she trys to understand me :]