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gaius · 14th Jan 2009, 04:14 PM

right as im out at uni now i fiured i could look for dates who are men, the problems are:
-how do you know a guy is gay
-how do you pull a guy
-how can i keep it a secret from my parents
-how do i determine who's out of my league
any help would be much appreciated, steve

ColdSnap · 14th Jan 2009, 05:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gaius

right as im out at uni now i fiured i could look for dates who are men, the problems are:
-how do you know a guy is gay
-how do you pull a guy
-how can i keep it a secret from my parents
-how do i determine who's out of my league
any help would be much appreciated, steve

-you look in the right places, gay bars are good xD
-talk, look for signals, act
-don't tell them :S
-no one

x

littledinosaurs · 14th Jan 2009, 05:12 PM

parents?
you are at UNI so everything should stay outta their reach and you should be fine.
League? i guess if they just don't seem interested then they are outta your league? you could let your self be pursued and go with who you want to and that way you won't have to worry.
knowing? idk you just do or go to places with lots of gays/ get someone who can help you.

14th Jan 2009, 05:45 PM

Magic. If you want to know who is gay, use magic.
I believe the spell is:

"Hocus Pocus, Gaydar FOCUS."

Make sure you bring a rainbow flag; it makes the spell more potent.

ColdSnap · 14th Jan 2009, 05:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Numfarh

Magic. If you want to know who is gay, use magic.
I believe the spell is:

"Hocus Pocus, Gaydar FOCUS."

Make sure you bring a rainbow flag; it makes the spell more potent.

AFAFHAHAHAHahahahaahahaa
omg proper lolz, ima love you forever xD

gaius · 14th Jan 2009, 06:58 PM

lmfao im loving that, ive just been asked dozens of questions by my flatmates, from preference to whether i own certain sex toys lol!

**Lexington** · 15th Jan 2009, 07:31 AM

>>>how do you know a guy is gay

You either go where the gay guys are (the gay student union is always a good bet), or you ask.

>>>how do you pull a guy

The same way you pull yourself - gently, with one hand, as the other hand reaches below to...

...wait, that WAS what you meant, right? No? Hm. OK.

>>>how can i keep it a secret from my parents

Don't call them up directly afterward and say "Hey, guess what I just did!"

>>>how do i determine who's out of my league

Nobody is out of your league. Nobody. You'll no doubt run into gay guys who simply aren't interested in you "like that" (we all got our likes and dislikes), but if they're on your team, they're in your league.

Lex

gaius · 15th Jan 2009, 04:21 PM

lol thanks lex, i realise now that pulling is a bit of a colloquial term, i meant how do you get chatting to a guy, ive just spend literally an hour convincing my mate i really am bi and not just trying to trick him, perhaps the weirdest reaction i have had so far

14th Jan 2009, 04:14 PM	#1
gaius EC's Geordie Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: bi/gay Out Status: Out to friends, family and anyone who wants to kno Location: Lancaster University Age: 22 Posts: 397 Join Date: Dec 2008	Need help from bi women and gay men! right as im out at uni now i fiured i could look for dates who are men, the problems are: -how do you know a guy is gay -how do you pull a guy -how can i keep it a secret from my parents -how do i determine who's out of my league any help would be much appreciated, steve __________________ "Life happens without warning"

14th Jan 2009, 05:12 PM	#3
littledinosaurs J'essaie de Parler Français! :] Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: Bisexuel Location: Nouvelle-Angleterre. Age: 21 Posts: 2,351 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: Need help from bi women and gay men! parents? you are at UNI so everything should stay outta their reach and you should be fine. League? i guess if they just don't seem interested then they are outta your league? you could let your self be pursued and go with who you want to and that way you won't have to worry. knowing? idk you just do or go to places with lots of gays/ get someone who can help you. __________________ Âllo Là

14th Jan 2009, 05:45 PM	#4
Numfarh Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Need help from bi women and gay men! Magic. If you want to know who is gay, use magic. I believe the spell is: "Hocus Pocus, Gaydar FOCUS." Make sure you bring a rainbow flag; it makes the spell more potent.

14th Jan 2009, 06:58 PM	#6
gaius EC's Geordie Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: bi/gay Out Status: Out to friends, family and anyone who wants to kno Location: Lancaster University Age: 22 Posts: 397 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Need help from bi women and gay men! lmfao im loving that, ive just been asked dozens of questions by my flatmates, from preference to whether i own certain sex toys lol! __________________ "Life happens without warning"

15th Jan 2009, 07:31 AM	#7
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,371 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Need help from bi women and gay men! >>>how do you know a guy is gay You either go where the gay guys are (the gay student union is always a good bet), or you ask. >>>how do you pull a guy The same way you pull yourself - gently, with one hand, as the other hand reaches below to... ...wait, that WAS what you meant, right? No? Hm. OK. >>>how can i keep it a secret from my parents Don't call them up directly afterward and say "Hey, guess what I just did!" >>>how do i determine who's out of my league Nobody is out of your league. Nobody. You'll no doubt run into gay guys who simply aren't interested in you "like that" (we all got our likes and dislikes), but if they're on your team, they're in your league. Lex

15th Jan 2009, 04:21 PM	#8
gaius EC's Geordie Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: bi/gay Out Status: Out to friends, family and anyone who wants to kno Location: Lancaster University Age: 22 Posts: 397 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Need help from bi women and gay men! lol thanks lex, i realise now that pulling is a bit of a colloquial term, i meant how do you get chatting to a guy, ive just spend literally an hour convincing my mate i really am bi and not just trying to trick him, perhaps the weirdest reaction i have had so far __________________ "Life happens without warning"

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