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Top 3 personality traits that you find most attractive

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  1. Steve FS

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    If you had to choose only 3 personality traits for your ideal mate, what would they be?

    For me, I like a person who is perceptive, shy, and selfless.

    A lot of my friends like people who are confident, but I just tend to not be attracted to confident individuals. I think it's admirable, but shyness and awkwardness are so cute to me, haha.
     
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    Empathy, the ability to laugh at oneself, slightly warped sense of humour.

    No 1 turn off - huge ego.
     
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    Intelligence
    Kindness
    Sense of humor
     
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    Intelligence
    Curiosity
    Weirdness

    Basically, me. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: I want someone who I can have deep discussions with and learn about new subjects while not being completely serious or boring.
     
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    Passion (like getting excited about the things that interest them)
    Quirkiness and being able to show it instead of hiding it
    Confidence/Strength/Toughness (doesn't have to be though, but for some reason I sometimes find people who are really cocky/overconfident to be sort of sexy)
     
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    Confident, funny, outgoing.
     
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    I don't want to copy XenaxGabby but for me what matters the most is also intelligence and a sense of humour... and also being hard working.
     
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    Confidence, Outgoing, and friendly. :slight_smile:
     
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    Honesty, perceptiveness, and a sense of uniqueness.
     
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    Passion- For lack of a better word. If you’re enthusiastic and interested in something- whether it be a field of work or a TV show- I’ll probably really admire your dedication and ‘passion’ (I still want to find a better word) at the very least. It doesn’t have to be even anything specific. I find myself generally quite attracted to and respecting that interest and curiosity for life and learning. It doesn’t really have to be a burning, burning passion for a certain thing

    Kindness- I don’t mean you have to be a saint. I can also be attracted to people who might value kindness less depending on who they are and the context. I’ll just say though, someone who has a certain degree of authenticity in their open mindedness and respect for others, and an element of empathy, can be quite attractive to me.

    Intelligence- Intelligence is so hard to define. I never really know quite what I mean by it, so I’ll define it as someone I can hold good and interesting conversations with. It’s not necessarily intelligence, just a compatibility on the thinking front. If you hold some different perspectives compared to me and we can learn from each other and help each other see things we don’t normally see independently, that’s brilliant too.

    And finally, sort of the icing on the cake is a sense of humour. If you can make me laugh and we’re able to joke around and have fun with each other, I’ll probably definitely like you at least on some level.

    To wrap it up, it all really depends. It’s hard to define these kinds of things- simply put though, if I’m attracted to you, I’m attracted to you. There’s not a whole lot of criteria that goes into it.
     
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    1. Dominance
    2. Intelligence
    3. Kindness
     
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    Communicative, sympathetic, and laid-back
     
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    Funny, kind, and understanding :3 I also find awkward people really cute xD
     
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    Haha, yes! *high fives you* Yay for awkward people
     
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    Loyalty, humor, compassion
     
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    Social charisma
    Decisiveness
    Assertiveness

    In other words, an actual man.

    When it comes to women: conversationalist, empathy, open-mindedness
     
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    Ambition, charity and optimism. I like people who are fundamentally good, competent and intelligent and aware of that.

    Though I think it's a little silly to prioritise characteristics in a list of three.
     
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    Dark sense of humor, Open-minded, Creative.
     
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    Funny, empathetic and like a mid social level, where they're social but not too social. Like they'd be content sitting on the couch, watching a movie and not talking the entire movie but will hold good conversations when the movie is over.
     
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    You all are asking for ridiculous things! How dare y'all!