Do you believe in "The One" ?

I believe that during a person's lifetime, they can connect with many people, so I believe there can be a few "Ones."

 

I don't think that there is one single person that was meant for you. People constantly fall in and out of love. I'm not a believer of destiny, so theories like "the One" (Neo) or "true love" don't make sense for me.

 

Yes and i have found "The One" for me

 

Of course I believe in myself.

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I think there are basically three different and independent propositions that are generally conflated in this discussion:

1) People are able to have an immediate almost mystical connection that transcends the physical and the way one normally gets to know people.

2) There's someone out there for everyone.

3) There's only one perfect match for anyone.

I believe one out of three are true. I've experienced the first one. When my husband and I met it was like we recognized each other. The shock was immediate and overpowering in a way that I previously would not have thought possible. I had been around the block quite a few times and practically couldn't believe my ears when I heard myself telling him the next morning that I thought this was a long haul thing. He felt the same way. It's been eighteen years and I'm still not sure either of us fully understand what happened.

As to the other two I guess I don't really have any way to know. But my gut tells me that there are people for whom there would be countless perfect matches out there and I equally believe that some people, well, there may not be anyone.

 

I believe there is no one, but multiple potential matches. With is good news as it means becoming a widow doesnt condemmn you to loneliness.

Also a relationship can improve or get worse depending on your decisions and those of your partner, so a good relationship can become bad if you are not careful.

 

I suppose I believe in "soul mates" by logical necessity

that is
I accept that axiom that the universe works through cause and effect
therefore every event has a cause
therefore all future events have causes
therefore future events are determined by their causes
therefore all future events are already predetermined
therefore if one does eventually meet a person who they fall in love with and stay with for the rest of their life, then they were always destined to meet that person, as their meeting was caused by a chain of cause and effect going to back to the initial configuration of the universe
therefore their "soul mate" if we define soul mate as the person a given person is destined to fall in love with, exists

 

No. I don't believe in "The One" as a forever, meant to be, relationship.

I think that's placing too high an expectation on a relationship and dooming it to failure.

Or maybe (???) I'm just cynical

Saying that, I am envious of couples that have spent a long time together, but I always wonder if they are happy.

Yeah, I'm cynical.

I do want someone to grow old disgracefully with. I just don't think I'll get to do that.

 

I'd like to think so actually. But I doubt it. I guess there's people meant to be in your life at a certain time, & be important in some way. But that's about it.

 

I suppose I do. I guess I don't believe that only one person in the world could be a life partner for you (although I guess now that I say that, I kind of feel inclined to think the opposite).
I guess I believe that through fate and your experiences and choices, you could eventually end up with "the one" and they're the one simply because they're the one that you wound up with naturally. And maybe to some extent you can change how that happens and who is the one based on your choices, but you still don't know who the one might be anyway so you're not really controlling anything to begin with even though they are your own choices, you just kind of end up there.
I'm not really good at articulating this I guess Now I'm kind of getting confused haha, but I think bottom line is that it depends on how you define "the one"

 

Your argument in no way implies that such a person is out there for everybody. It just says that if you find someone perfect, then it was fated to happen. Not a useful philosophy, to my eye.

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This on the other hand, pretty much perfectly sums up my own views on the subject.

My partner and I clicked beautifully almost right away...took us a while to realize we were in love, but once we figured it out, the whole relationship has *felt* fated, necessary, and perfect. BUT, there have since been plenty of other people with whom I feel pretty certain I could have developed an equally close, meaningful, and "perfect" relationship (in fact, I'm now trying to retrain myself to stop throwing such relationships away).

I believe that most people...maybe all...are *capable of learning* to give and receive love. But I don't believe all innately have that ability. If a person has the ability to give and receive love, then there will be people with whom they can also have such a "perfect" relationship...probably many. But if they don't have that ability, then they might find a partner, but they'll be like two people lost in the wilderness together.

 

Frankly, I don't believe in "the one", because it implies that there is only one person meant for you. In reality, there can be many people you meet that would be great to be in a relationship with, but monogamy is the norm so you do have to choose only one.

 

I don't think there's a such thing as "the one" or even true love. People find the best they can get, and settle for that. There's nothing wrong with it but that's a fact.

 

I don’t necessarily believe in soulmates, but I do believe that people can be right for each other. You will meet more than one person in your life who’ll be especially compatible with you- a friend, a mentor, a partner- in that sense you could say multiple soulmates, but not really ‘the one.’ A match made in Heaven, is something I don’t quite see as realistic at least from my perspective; I don’t believe any two people are predestined to be together or who are so perfect for each other that they’re irrefutable soulmates, but I do believe that two people can from the get go naturally form a very strong connection and understanding with each other. It is true that some people just click better with each other than with almost anyone else.

There may not necessarily be soulmates (though what do I know), but maybe simply two people who love each other and care about each other, who work well with each other, and ultimately will work at their relationship and create something that is ideal, or as close to ideal as it can get, for the two of them. I don’t really think at this point in time that there is any one person perfectly made for another in this world, but there is a possibility of someone being very right. There might simply be people we grow to be very close with-either immediately or over a period of time- maybe even fall in love with, and with those people the mutual effort and care will sustain a relationship that in my opinion is just as meaningful as any soulmate story out there- perhaps made even more meaningful because it isn’t perfect, but there are two people who will try to make it good. We make our own story and our own relationships, and we work at them the best we can, and sometimes they're naturally good. If it works out for you in a way that is a soulmate level, then I have nothing to argue against that.

 

I totally agree with you.

 

Ideally, yes.

However, recently, I don't know anymore.

 

I absolutely believe in "the one". Although it might be an unrealistic idea for most people, I believe that there is only one person out there for you.

 

It's a tad bit inconvenient, because they could be anywhere in the world, could be dead, in prison or any of that. ;w;

 

Heterosexuality is also the norm. Does that mean that you have to choose someone of the opposite sex?