Recently i joined a gay dating app (Gri) and i experienced hate from a gay guy who said I was wrong for changing genders (I am an androgynous male) but when i tried to explain to him that I wasn't transgender and I was just an androgynous boy he didn't seem to comprehend that. He said that I was a disgrace to gay people and gay guys like me are the reason for people being homophobic. He even claimed to be a 'gay activist' but he viewed trans women and feminine gay men as making the gay community look bad. Ive also gotten a lot of rejection from gay men who think I'm too feminine looking (which is fine because everybody has their preferences) but it has affected my self esteem. Are androgynous guys really that unattractive to gay men?:icon_sad:
I don't know what all gay men think. But I find androgynous men very attractive. I'm masculine myself so it would be nice to have a boyfriend who is the opposite, to keep an balance. Don't listen to this guy he is an arsehole. People being homophobic has nothing to do with feminine guys. It's because they can't torelate differences. Am sure there are plenty guys like me who are into androgynous men, so don't think your unattractive to gay men. Also don't attract your self-esteem to online dating. It's a harsh world. Only the very best looking come away feeling good from online dating. Your not the only one who has had a lot of rejection.
Completely agree with Gibson234. That guy was an idiot. Homophobes hate queer people because they're queer, not because of feminine men. Besides that there are feminine straight men and masculine straight women as well.
Femininity (or anything that isn't masculine) is a weakness that must be purged of this world... is a very stupid and insecure way to be. Honestly, I'd say this was a good thing. You probably shouldn't waste your time with him. If it wasn't this, something else seems like it would have come up.
Afraid that he might be seen as not gay if a male he is with isn't masculine. His insecurity, his problem, not yours
Please don't try to reason with people like this. Just put them on ignore as soon as you see those words.
I'm sorry you had an experience like that. From my own experience, I can say that you meet few nice people on those apps. Most of the time, they attract people who are pretty insecure with their identities in one way or another.
I think androgenous people can be very attractive. don't worry. That guy was just an angry troll who's completely insecure about his own masculinity. I guarantee it.
He thinks that femme men ruin the community, let's see I would say due to feminine men, the community had been given a couple of rights, they are the majority of people fighting for same sex marriage and equality. Masculine gay men can hide away, but not feminine gay men they can't hide as easily unless like me they are exceedingly good at acting.
Lots of douchebags on ******. Usually they start to be mean once they realize there's no chance of getting with ya. Don't sweat it. 99 percent of ppl on there are creeps and or total losers from my experience
