Gay guys, how do you like to be flirted?

I have no idea. Most of the time I am really oblivious to the fact that someone is flirting with me at all.

 

The most obvious way is just to be overly nice, look at them a lot, be funny, make jokes and innuendos. If they seem receptive to that, maybe try touching their arm or something. Touch is a major way to indicate you like and trust someone.

Or you could just sit on his lap to make sure he gets the hint lol.

 

I had a post that asked "who all hates to be hit on?" but I think it was lost in the crash. I am not a fan of being hit on because I feel it has always been done in a demeaning/embarrassing. For example - Looking me up and down with a "thirsty" grin, touching inappropriately, one-liners, invading my personal space, being LOUD about it. (some people might like those, I just don't)

If I had my choice of flirtation it would be simple..

A *knowing* smile. What I mean by knowing is (I have just figured you out and I am extremely happy and excited to be here with you - type of thing) A look-smile-blush would make me *weak* and happy.

 

I like eye contact, but the eye contact has to be very sly and suggestive. I don't like it when someone is outright staring at me as if they're undressing me with their eyes.

My heart can skip a bit if you give me a side smile when I look in your direction. One time, there was an attractive guy riding on the train I was on. I looked in his direction and he looked back, and gave me the sexiest side smile. I smiled back and looked down feeling so shy, LOL!

I swear, if I could blush, I would have been quite red.

 

It's a curse, I tell you. I can't hide anything lol MY OWN FACE BETRAYS ME.

Anyway, I'm an egotistical whore, so most types of flirting are fair game and very welcomed... With one exception.

Keep. Your. Hands. Off. Me.

I can't believe the conceit in thinking it's ok to put your hands anywhere near my ass (are you fucking kidding me?). This has happened to me twice now, and in one of those occasions the guy went well beyond "near my ass." It took every bit of willpower in my body to not immediately cave his head in, but I managed (poorly, but managed). Point being, unless someone gives you express or at least implicit permission, you do not violate personal space. Much less in a such a lewd way. It's insulting, to say the least.

 

Gay guys don't flirt with me... yet.

 

That's gross.

I also have an issue with people invading my personal bubble. One time, I was at a club and this guy started to force-twerk his ass on my crotch, and I was just like NOPE. Get yourself off me, please. Thankfully I haven't really had any other violating experiences with other gay guys.

 

I dunno, I guess I tend to do it automatically, I've never really thought about it much.

 

I dont know the difference between flirting and being nice (except for obvious ones where it includes touching). So I always assume that people who MIGHT have been flirting with me as nice people

 

First find out if he is gay! It could turn out to be really creepy if he isnt! If you do find out then Initially complement how he looks, or say something he did was cute in a subtle and not so obvious way. Smile at him and look him in his eyes at the right times to show to him that he is more special to you than the rest. A little bit of chivalry , like opening the door for him , etc,. Can make a guy feel really good if he is into you. If he is advancing make more bold moves like probably touching his hand relevantly whilst in conversation! Keep it subtle sleek and bold. I would like it that way ! This with a hint of being bold and confident could work great !

 

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Perhaps one day, y'know?

I honestly don't know the feeling of being flirted with, by anyone. I'd probably be totally oblivious.

 

It's all in the eyes, and the touching, but mostly the eyes. There is a certain way someone looks at you when they are genuinely interested. It's like a... twinkle? There will be very small amounts of pauses throughout conversing with them, as if they're having to snap back to reality. Lots of throat-clearing, hands-in-pockets, looking down at the floor, smiling at the floor, looking up at your eyes and looking away.

Probably one of the clearest signs of interest is the first meet. They look into your eyes, and then in shock look away, and then they'll try to sneak a peek at your face again. Guarantee, 90% of the time, this is a sign of interest, OR there's something gross on your face

 

LOL me if I knew a guy liked me.


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Seriously though. I Think being nice to me. Looking at me. Trying to get my attention. That would instantly make me get week in the knees. Who knows though. I don't think I've ever been in the situation.

 

I prefer doing the flirting.

 

Respectfully, and not sexual in any way. No suggestion of anything of the sort, makes me really uncomfortable.