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If you have come out to someone....

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  1. europeanguy

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    what sexuality did they think you were before you told them?

    I came out to my best friend and originally he thought i was at least bisexual
     
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    They thought I was straight, but acknowledge that it makes a little sense cause I don't show as much interest in girls as others.
     
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    ...Straight. I haven't had one of those "I KNEW IT!" reactions yet.

    Funny thing is, some people admitted they thought I was gay before getting to know me, and changed their minds after becoming friends and getting to know me better lol.
     
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    It's varied with the person. Some people have expressed horrified shock (I assume they thought I was straight), others said they knew all along.

    Todd
     
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    I came out to my best friend and he thought that I was straight.
     
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    Most people assumed I was straight. A little over half assumed I was a lesbian (before I came out about my gender) and more recently, a few have assumed that I'm gay.
     
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    my parents believed I was a lesbian female... lol
     
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    Mine probably believe the same, as I look extremely "butch." Though, I'm in fact a gay male.

    Though, all my family assumes I'm straight since they think you are only homosexual if you choose to be. The brother whom I came out to (and at the time I said I was asexual) told me that I "shouldn't be afraid to like girls" if I'm a guy. Though I think he's getting the hints that I like guys... I only didn't tell him at the time because it would (in his mind) illegitimize my maleness.
     
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    Yup! I think even though I wouldn't call myself "butch", I'm still not as feminine as many cisgirls, which always upset my mom. I also held very close bonds to female friends, and I guess we "acted like lesbians" or something like that.

    My female friends and I have a very stereotypical male friendship, playing video games, calling each other swear words, saying "no homo", accidentally setting stuff on fire, drinking a random bottle of Mountain Dew that was actually pond water, and going exploring in the woods instead of talking about celebrities and painting nails, a stereotypical female friendship. I guess all of that was "too lesbian" for my mom to think I was actually into dudes.
     
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    They thought I was completely straight. In fact, the first friend I told was a girl and she liked me for a while and she still thought I was straight.
    But once I came out to her, I stopped trying to hide it I guess so the friends I told later on had an idea I think?
     
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    It has been a mix. Two people said they knew, a handful of people said they had no idea. My friend said "...but you're such.. a guy." Haha
     
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    People usually are surprised. I remember when I came out to some friends they were like. "I thought you were straight though??" I was like "Lol nope." But my friend who is a lesbian (they're gender fluid) he was like "I knew it!"
    Birds of a feather flock together after all haha.
     
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    Their reaction was "no shit." :lol:
     
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    For gender, most people knew something was wrong here. In a way, I think most people had the answer before I did.

    For sexuality, most of them had absolutely no idea. I'm pretty ambiguous for sexuality. Even sometimes, I doubt myself. Though, I'm pretty sure I'm attracted to masculinity.
     
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    Initially when I started coming out it shocked the hell out of those closest to me because I dated several girls. So they assumed straight, or at very least bi. In the 2 or so years between initially coming out to a few people & eventually everybody via Facebook and email, word slowly spread so it was not all that shocking when I finally came out to everyone. Some still were taken aback, but I had dropped enough hints and was with my boyfriend long enough for people to find out.
     
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    Everyone who I've ever came out to has always thought I was straight. My best friends knew before me, though, that I was gay, which is quite embarrassing.