what sexuality did they think you were before you told them? I came out to my best friend and originally he thought i was at least bisexual
They thought I was straight, but acknowledge that it makes a little sense cause I don't show as much interest in girls as others.
...Straight. I haven't had one of those "I KNEW IT!" reactions yet. Funny thing is, some people admitted they thought I was gay before getting to know me, and changed their minds after becoming friends and getting to know me better lol.
It's varied with the person. Some people have expressed horrified shock (I assume they thought I was straight), others said they knew all along. Todd
Most people assumed I was straight. A little over half assumed I was a lesbian (before I came out about my gender) and more recently, a few have assumed that I'm gay.
Mine probably believe the same, as I look extremely "butch." Though, I'm in fact a gay male. Though, all my family assumes I'm straight since they think you are only homosexual if you choose to be. The brother whom I came out to (and at the time I said I was asexual) told me that I "shouldn't be afraid to like girls" if I'm a guy. Though I think he's getting the hints that I like guys... I only didn't tell him at the time because it would (in his mind) illegitimize my maleness.
Yup! I think even though I wouldn't call myself "butch", I'm still not as feminine as many cisgirls, which always upset my mom. I also held very close bonds to female friends, and I guess we "acted like lesbians" or something like that. My female friends and I have a very stereotypical male friendship, playing video games, calling each other swear words, saying "no homo", accidentally setting stuff on fire, drinking a random bottle of Mountain Dew that was actually pond water, and going exploring in the woods instead of talking about celebrities and painting nails, a stereotypical female friendship. I guess all of that was "too lesbian" for my mom to think I was actually into dudes.
They thought I was completely straight. In fact, the first friend I told was a girl and she liked me for a while and she still thought I was straight. But once I came out to her, I stopped trying to hide it I guess so the friends I told later on had an idea I think?
It has been a mix. Two people said they knew, a handful of people said they had no idea. My friend said "...but you're such.. a guy." Haha
People usually are surprised. I remember when I came out to some friends they were like. "I thought you were straight though??" I was like "Lol nope." But my friend who is a lesbian (they're gender fluid) he was like "I knew it!" Birds of a feather flock together after all haha.
For gender, most people knew something was wrong here. In a way, I think most people had the answer before I did. For sexuality, most of them had absolutely no idea. I'm pretty ambiguous for sexuality. Even sometimes, I doubt myself. Though, I'm pretty sure I'm attracted to masculinity.
Initially when I started coming out it shocked the hell out of those closest to me because I dated several girls. So they assumed straight, or at very least bi. In the 2 or so years between initially coming out to a few people & eventually everybody via Facebook and email, word slowly spread so it was not all that shocking when I finally came out to everyone. Some still were taken aback, but I had dropped enough hints and was with my boyfriend long enough for people to find out.
Everyone who I've ever came out to has always thought I was straight. My best friends knew before me, though, that I was gay, which is quite embarrassing.