The "Friend Zone"

The article pretty much sums it up

 

I don't have a problem at all with the word 'friendzone' and I didn't know anyone did?

Also, it seems like everything is somehow offensive to women these days. I don't see how 'the friendzone' is in any way sexist. A girl can be 'in the friendzone' just as well as a guy.

This just seems like complaining for the sake of complaining. (No offense)

 

I am entitled to sex merely by being nice to people. When I don't get it, I complain about being put in the friend zone.

 

That is the worst thing in the world

 

I have to agree.
Like seriously, I dont get were the sexism claims come from. Ive never seen it being exclusive to just one group.

 

I agree with both of you.

There is nothing inherently wrong with 'the friend zone' - to me, it has always implied that someone - of either gender - has romantic feelings for a person - usually a friend - but those feelings are not reciprocated. I'm sure many of us - maybe even most - have had romantic feelings for a close friend but they didn't feel the same. I think people are going to be disappointed in that scenario. It doesn't - or shouldn't - be about an individual feeling entitled to someone's body because they're 'nice'. Some of the stuff people make up these days to feel offended is bordering on the insane.

Buzzfeed is a shitty website, by the way - and I'm not even going to dignify its existence by clicking on the link.

 

You, agreeing with me?
What sorcery is this?

 

I've heard about it in FRIENDS, but Ross and Rachel eventually got together

 

*unicorn skips past a leprechaun at the end of a rainbow*
For real though, I agree with you two. And Buzzfeed can be funny but they do take the "offensive" card to the extreme.

 

The problem with the friendzone is if(and only if) someone complains about having no one to love and "I'll never get a man/woman", yet they have tons of people around them who would be good partners. The problem is that some of these people look for perfection and some fairy tale. They have this grandiose idea that some angel will fall from the sky and wisk them away. Perfection doesn't exist.

 

I've seen the friend zone as a concept where people get really whiny about not being able to have a relationship with said person. It might not be "sexism" (I've seen women do this too), but that's how people who use the term to describe their situation in my personal life have used it. Hence why I dislike it.

I think if you like a friend, get rejected, but don't take it too personally/dramatically, then It's not really the "friend zone". Why would you need to complain about a concept if you were truly okay about "just being friends"? I never whined or complained when my best friend rejected me and I was cool with keeping things platonic between us. So I really think this is the difference.

 

Absolute nonsense.

 

I didn't have a problem with the 'Friend Zone' until someone explained it to me this way;-

The 'Friend Zone' is filled with people who thought that because they were nice to someone, that person should want to have sex with them.



Use the word if you want, I don't mind, but the idea bothers me slightly.

 

I don't get it: why do we need a term for it? Does this also apply to friends you develop crushes on over time? Or just those who reject you and decide to be friends, instead?

It gets thrown around a lot by sexist guys online who feel entitled to someone's body. I'd feel pretty paranoid if every guy who acted nice to me had ulterior motives.

 

If someone you have a really big crush on rejects you, it hurts. It doesn't mean that you want to jump their bones or something. It's harder for some than others to have their dreams of love with their crush dashed.