Older and Mmmm

I had a gigantic crush on my PE teacher in high school. She was at least 20 years older than me, but she was very fit, she had a heartwarming smile, and she inspired me to do yoga and take up jogging. Needless to say we didn't date, but I think she found out I had a crush on her and she distanced herself from me and crushed my teenage heart. On the bright side she did give me a graduation gift and gave me a very positive letter in my yearbook, but I was devastated that she wouldn't be in my life. At the same time, she was married, it would be inappropriate for someone nearing 45 to be with me, and no good could come out of the infatuation. As time went by, I forgot all about her, and became infatuated with someone much closer to my age, but that went south too like most of my relationships.

Years later I ran into her at the store, and spoke to her for a couple minutes. That encounter left me wondering how I could fall in love with someone so average, so old, and so boring. It was probably because I was going through some adversity, was vulnerable, and she was the only person I ever spoke to since I was alienated by everyone else, so naturally she was the person who became the sun which my universe spun around. It all just happened so suddenly - one moment I was indifferent to her, the next I was head over heels for her, fantasizing about hugging her, and unable to tolerate a moment without her. It was really unusual because for the whole time I had known her I wasn't into her. Most of high school was spent crushing on another student, and the odd thing is that I somehow had a premonition that I would have a crush on her when I saw her at an assembly a year before I fell for her. I saw her and recognized her as the teacher who snitched on me and another student for exchanging answers while we were taking a make up test in the hallway. Feeling a bit annoyed about that, I looked at her and thought to myself that I couldn't ever love someone so plain-looking.

In the end, it harmed me way more than it helped, but it did instill an awareness of who I allow myself to get close to, and to always identify my problems, and find solutions on my own instead of relying on others.

Those that don't help or detract from being happy need to be forgotten. I stopped seeing her because our lives went in a different direction, and I'm thankful nothing ever came about it.

 

It's silly, yes. But I can understand the appeal to older women, especially if they're as fit as your crush is. For example, I think Roman Polanski's wife is very attractive, and mature women know they're good-looking and that's why she flaunts it like that. Oblivious to their hotness at first, we get drawn to it and fall hard once they show it.

As agonizing as this is, just ride it out, bask in the happiness her presence gives you. The quickest and surefire way for a crush to end would be to continue spending time with her, then her magnetism will luster. While I don't think this is bad per se, this kind of thing can leave you feeling better, maybe even ending with you hating, but you shouldn't hate her because she's in an impossible situation and odds are she's straight. I hope it's not painful for you, and that through the duration of it that she doesn't make you feel bad like my crushes have. I would also say that you, like me, aren't so much in love with her as you were love a version of her that exists in your imagination. You desire what you envision her to be. My crush wasn't the flawless angel I imagined her to be; it was all a romantic way of thinking.

This is an interesting topic, and I don't think it's that unusual for younger people to find mature women/men appealing. Hopefully more people will share their stories.

 

Sounds like someone needs a sugar mama! :icon_bigg (!)

 

Yeah, take most actors that I've been infatuated with, who are old enough to be my dad. But still...

 

Hmm. Granted I'm still in high school, not really, however there is a senior here that I've been interested in. Now I'm only a sophomore, and in high school, two years is a significant age discrepancy according to most.

 

I dated a guy 10 years older than me.
What drew us close was the way would constantly "annoy" each other and get on each others nerves, I guess.
We dated for about a month. I broke up with him because I didn't really see the relationship going anywhere, because I felt like he was too childish, despise his age, and that I didn't really feel much for him other than that initial attraction, so yeah.

 

I have had friends who have had more than 10 to 15 years between them and it worked fine. It says you are 27 so it's not like you are fresh out of high school and don't know anything about yourself, what you want etc. Go for it I say.....

 

When it comes to marriage, I'd really advise against marrying someone 10 yrs or more older. It can work fine until you get up in age. No big deal until you're let's say 70 and the spouse is 80 plus. BIG difference!! Think ahead.

 

I had a big crush on my gym teacher last year. He was like mid to late 30s but not normal mid to late 30s, like super model mid to late 30s. My god he had the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen, they were like freaking diamonds. He was just hot, I dunno. It was really just another reason pe was the worst experience of my life. Athletic people may not get it, but if you're a boy as feminine and weak as I am in a gym class, then the teacher pretty much treats you as though you have a crippling mental disability. I am never going near a weight set again because of that stupid class. But yeah, I'd say there's nothing wrong with that. My grandparents are 10 years apart and they do just fine.

 

Quite a few actually - but the oldest people I usually find attractive are in their early 40s. In all cases it's purely physical.

 

I haven't ever dated anyone older, but had fan crushes on two women, one was 65 and the other in her 80s. It's their soft voice and amazing singing that draws me to them. No chances of us dating though, the first is dead and they both don't know I exist so anyway ...

 

Absolutely!

Granted, she seemed to be crushing on me first though! God knows if I'll ever find out…

 

I have one on a lady that is almost 30 years older than me. For me it's her personality as I'm

attracted to. I don't know her personally and probably never will. It's good to know I'm not alone