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Shevanel · 20th Jan 2009, 11:39 AM

A friend of mine at my university wants me to consider signing up for the new LGBTQQ Housing that they're setting up at my college. I'm thinking about doing it cuz I guess that'd be sorta cool i guess, but I don't know if I want to really. Like, I don't get the point of doing it? Can someone try to like convince me to do it or not to do it? like give me reasons why you think maybe I should do it. Basically the whole floor is for LGBT ppl and such, or even non LGBT but probably its gonna be just LGBT ppl. There can be intergender roommates (like a guy can room with a girl in a double) and stuff. My friend is going to be the RA (Resident Advisor) for that floor and he is like one of the leaders or something of the LGBT community at UB too. I sorta don't want to do it, cuz i don't really want to be like segregated from everyone else, i love my friends, and I have tons of straight friends, and people basically think I'm straight too, those who didn't notice my recent change in Interest on Facebook. so I don't really know. :/

So yeah, basically, if you were offered it, would you take it? and Why?

Steve · 20th Jan 2009, 11:44 AM

id go to normal place but then id go pay a visit to that place xD

Psychedelic Bookmarks · 20th Jan 2009, 11:46 AM

Well, it might mean you meet new LGBTQ people, which could be fun. It's an easy way to come out to everyone, whoever didn't ntice will quickly realise now. Plus fewer stares when you make out with a guy in the corridor (or maybe more stares....)

20th Jan 2009, 11:46 AM

Personally, I don't think it would have mattered to me whether bunking with a guy or a girl. I like them both! So seperating me into a different wing is pointless.

But I can see this as a real opportunity for transgendered, genderless or genderqueer people. I think it would be nice to not have to worry about your gender identity on a floor where there would be shared bathroom facilities and changing areas.

In any case, the residence I stayed in was very queer positive (we had those stickers everywhere) and everyone in the hall was required to attend an LBGT information and activity session. It was called Rez Project, I believe. We talked about things like people who ask to be referred to as "they" instead of "she" or "he". It was really interesting.

Ty · 20th Jan 2009, 12:03 PM

Would be quite cool I think. I don't see any reason why not?

Steve · 20th Jan 2009, 12:09 PM

I DO. .. putting yourself there just shouts IM DIFFRENT .. and since every one is diffrent.. we dont want to exclude ourselvs from the rest .. i would like to be with the rest

but if i make out ill try and make sure its in that area

partietraumatic · 20th Jan 2009, 12:44 PM

it actually is offered at one of the unis ive applied to...but im am defs not gonna take it. I hate the idea,it would mean being like defined by my sexuality rather than as a person!

Steve · 20th Jan 2009, 12:49 PM

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Originally Posted by partietraumatic

it actually is offered at one of the unis ive applied to...but im am defs not gonna take it. I hate the idea,it would mean being like defined by my sexuality rather than as a person!

^^ listen to wisdom ^ ^ ^^^^^^ knows what he is talking about go you!

Tim · 20th Jan 2009, 12:54 PM

I would, simply because it'd let me meet more people like me.

However, in reality, I don't find it a good idea. It's kind've a step back, considering it's pretty much segregation...

BlueRose · 20th Jan 2009, 01:05 PM

As much as I love getting to peek at the other guys in my dorm, I'd probably take it. I mean, I have a hard time finding other gay people on campus. It would be very convenient to live in close proximity to them. Not that my school would ever do something like that, though. Stupid homophobic south.

TriBi · 20th Jan 2009, 01:13 PM

Well - I'm a lot of years past being in that situation - but, if I were you, I think I would be feeling the same way as you are - and take the same stance as that eloquently expressed by partietraumatic.

Ty · 20th Jan 2009, 01:20 PM

I think that they should offer it, but it should only be available to those who meet the standards of deliciousness required by our community. That is to say, hot.

Greggers · 20th Jan 2009, 01:31 PM

I would! That would be a hoot

Honestly, that sounds like a good idea not just cause you can meet people, but its going to generally be a more friendly, open and accepting enviorment about EVERYTHING not just sexuality.

Henrike · 20th Jan 2009, 02:04 PM

Sounds too regressive for my tastes. I can't support its existence. =x

BlakeHarmony · 20th Jan 2009, 03:14 PM

It would create segregation but I think it would be cool... I'd go for it.

littledinosaurs · 20th Jan 2009, 03:19 PM

i wouldn't do it.
Just let yourself mingle with everyone. I would definitely visit that house a lot, but i mean just roam the campus and meet all kinds of people!

20th Jan 2009, 03:28 PM

I guess it is kind of like segregation but really it's not cause you're not forced to live there, it's a choice.

I would personally, just because you'll meet and interact with new people.
It's basically like living in the "gay district" or on the "gay street" or whatever.

Shevanel · 20th Jan 2009, 04:47 PM

i think i'm not gonna do it. Thanks for all of your input tho guys. Love ya All!

Amy · 20th Jan 2009, 05:52 PM

Housing with just LGBTQQs?
Sounds amazing to me!

Markio · 20th Jan 2009, 05:54 PM

I'd do it for sure, because I'm not entirely comfortable telling my roommates about me (they're both straight). If it were a GLBTQQ floor, I'd feel more at ease, like a little person at one of those little person festivals. I'd feel like I fit in.

And even if you don't like the people there, it's just where you shower and sleep at night; even now I'm posting from a computer outside my room--I dread my roommate's company! And when both of them are there...

I may just be exaggerating. I don't dislike one of my roommates because he's straight. He's just an ass. Ultimately it doesn't matter what sexual orientation your roommate is, unless they're homophobic or looking for a relationship or mutual understanding when it comes to sexual attraction.

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20th Jan 2009, 11:39 AM	#1
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	LGBTQQ Housing? A friend of mine at my university wants me to consider signing up for the new LGBTQQ Housing that they're setting up at my college. I'm thinking about doing it cuz I guess that'd be sorta cool i guess, but I don't know if I want to really. Like, I don't get the point of doing it? Can someone try to like convince me to do it or not to do it? like give me reasons why you think maybe I should do it. Basically the whole floor is for LGBT ppl and such, or even non LGBT but probably its gonna be just LGBT ppl. There can be intergender roommates (like a guy can room with a girl in a double) and stuff. My friend is going to be the RA (Resident Advisor) for that floor and he is like one of the leaders or something of the LGBT community at UB too. I sorta don't want to do it, cuz i don't really want to be like segregated from everyone else, i love my friends, and I have tons of straight friends, and people basically think I'm straight too, those who didn't notice my recent change in Interest on Facebook. so I don't really know. :/ So yeah, basically, if you were offered it, would you take it? and Why? __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

20th Jan 2009, 11:44 AM	#2
Steve EC's Soldier! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Sargeant sexual Out Status: whoever asks Location: Born in australia, but now living some where else Age: 21 Posts: 2,273 Join Date: May 2008	Re: LGBTQQ Housing? id go to normal place but then id go pay a visit to that place xD __________________ Soldier " there is no room for that in my pocklet" commander " if there is room in your heart then there in your pocket" Soldier " i cant fit my gf in there" -r " have you tried ? until you try you dont know"

20th Jan 2009, 11:46 AM	#3
Psychedelic Bookmarks Helena Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Close family and quite a few friends Location: UK Age: 18 Posts: 2,195 Join Date: Oct 2007	Re: LGBTQQ Housing? Well, it might mean you meet new LGBTQ people, which could be fun. It's an easy way to come out to everyone, whoever didn't ntice will quickly realise now. Plus fewer stares when you make out with a guy in the corridor (or maybe more stares....) __________________ "I refuse to recognize the terms hetero-, bi-, and homo-sexual. Everybody has exactly the same sexual needs. People are just sexual, the prefix is immaterial." (Morissey)

20th Jan 2009, 11:46 AM	#4
Numfarh Guest Posts: n/a	Re: LGBTQQ Housing? Personally, I don't think it would have mattered to me whether bunking with a guy or a girl. I like them both! So seperating me into a different wing is pointless. But I can see this as a real opportunity for transgendered, genderless or genderqueer people. I think it would be nice to not have to worry about your gender identity on a floor where there would be shared bathroom facilities and changing areas. In any case, the residence I stayed in was very queer positive (we had those stickers everywhere) and everyone in the hall was required to attend an LBGT information and activity session. It was called Rez Project, I believe. We talked about things like people who ask to be referred to as "they" instead of "she" or "he". It was really interesting.

20th Jan 2009, 12:03 PM	#5
Ty Mints ribbed for her pleasure Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Oxford, t'South, UK Age: 19 Posts: 305 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: LGBTQQ Housing? Would be quite cool I think. I don't see any reason why not? __________________ Ladies and gentlemen of the jury, exhibit number one is what the seraphs, the misinformed, simple, noble-winged seraphs, envied. Look at this tangle of thorns.

20th Jan 2009, 12:09 PM	#6
Steve EC's Soldier! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Sargeant sexual Out Status: whoever asks Location: Born in australia, but now living some where else Age: 21 Posts: 2,273 Join Date: May 2008	Re: LGBTQQ Housing? I DO. .. putting yourself there just shouts IM DIFFRENT .. and since every one is diffrent.. we dont want to exclude ourselvs from the rest .. i would like to be with the rest but if i make out ill try and make sure its in that area __________________ Soldier " there is no room for that in my pocklet" commander " if there is room in your heart then there in your pocket" Soldier " i cant fit my gf in there" -r " have you tried ? until you try you dont know"

20th Jan 2009, 12:44 PM	#7
partietraumatic A gay heteropolitan? Full Member Gender: Male Out Status: Enough for now Location: Oxford and Birmingham, UK Age: 20 Posts: 1,300 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: LGBTQQ Housing? it actually is offered at one of the unis ive applied to...but im am defs not gonna take it. I hate the idea,it would mean being like defined by my sexuality rather than as a person! __________________ 'Im not your toy and this isn't another girl meets boy'

20th Jan 2009, 12:54 PM	#9
Tim Psycho Glitter Btch Full Member Gender:* Guy, Unless Life Was a Horrible April Fools Joke. Orientation: Gay/Asexual/Confusing to Explain Out Status: Armed and Fabulous! XD Location: California Age: 23 Posts: 7,381 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: LGBTQQ Housing? I would, simply because it'd let me meet more people like me. However, in reality, I don't find it a good idea. It's kind've a step back, considering it's pretty much segregation... __________________ Rawr! :3 ~The Stalker User Known As Tim~ Rawr! :3 EC's Sailor Star Healer, Oxymoron and All. Star Sensitive Inferno! Sailor Starlight, Stage On! [Vic] 7:49 pm: I keep my pants off in public.

20th Jan 2009, 01:05 PM	#10
BlueRose Well Known Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Georgia Age: 21 Posts: 197 Join Date: Oct 2007	Re: LGBTQQ Housing? As much as I love getting to peek at the other guys in my dorm, I'd probably take it. I mean, I have a hard time finding other gay people on campus. It would be very convenient to live in close proximity to them. Not that my school would ever do something like that, though. Stupid homophobic south.

20th Jan 2009, 01:13 PM	#11
TriBi Cheers! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Location: DownUnder Posts: 3,899 Join Date: Dec 2004	Re: LGBTQQ Housing? Well - I'm a lot of years past being in that situation - but, if I were you, I think I would be feeling the same way as you are - and take the same stance as that eloquently expressed by partietraumatic.

20th Jan 2009, 01:20 PM	#12
Ty Mints ribbed for her pleasure Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Oxford, t'South, UK Age: 19 Posts: 305 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: LGBTQQ Housing? I think that they should offer it, but it should only be available to those who meet the standards of deliciousness required by our community. That is to say, hot. __________________ Ladies and gentlemen of the jury, exhibit number one is what the seraphs, the misinformed, simple, noble-winged seraphs, envied. Look at this tangle of thorns.

20th Jan 2009, 01:31 PM	#13
Greggers Sunshine & Optimism ...also Angels. Full Member Gender: Theatre Queen Orientation: Disco Sticks Out Status: Everyone and a few more Location: BC, Canada Age: 21 Posts: 3,528 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: LGBTQQ Housing? I would! That would be a hoot Honestly, that sounds like a good idea not just cause you can meet people, but its going to generally be a more friendly, open and accepting enviorment about EVERYTHING not just sexuality. __________________ "It's a male duck."

20th Jan 2009, 02:04 PM	#14
Henrike The Age of Tay Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Chicago Age: 21 Posts: 133 Join Date: May 2008	Re: LGBTQQ Housing? Sounds too regressive for my tastes. I can't support its existence. =x __________________

20th Jan 2009, 03:14 PM	#15
BlakeHarmony EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: queer Out Status: friends, parents, sibs, (nearly) anyone who asks Location: Calgary Posts: 895 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: LGBTQQ Housing? It would create segregation but I think it would be cool... I'd go for it. __________________ Let's eat, Grandpa. Let's eat Grandpa. Punctuation saves lives! "I would rather sit on a pumpkin and have it all to myself, than be crowded on a velvet cushion" Henry David Thoreau

20th Jan 2009, 03:19 PM	#16
littledinosaurs J'essaie de Parler Français! :] Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: Bisexuel Location: Nouvelle-Angleterre. Age: 21 Posts: 2,351 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: LGBTQQ Housing? i wouldn't do it. Just let yourself mingle with everyone. I would definitely visit that house a lot, but i mean just roam the campus and meet all kinds of people! __________________ Âllo Là

20th Jan 2009, 03:28 PM	#17
Myke Guest Posts: n/a	Re: LGBTQQ Housing? I guess it is kind of like segregation but really it's not cause you're not forced to live there, it's a choice. I would personally, just because you'll meet and interact with new people. It's basically like living in the "gay district" or on the "gay street" or whatever.

20th Jan 2009, 04:47 PM	#18
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: LGBTQQ Housing? i think i'm not gonna do it. Thanks for all of your input tho guys. Love ya All! __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

20th Jan 2009, 05:52 PM	#19
Amy DFTBA Full Member Gender: Somewhere between female and I don't know Out Status: Open, not out. Location: Northern California, United States Age: 18 Posts: 2,380 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: LGBTQQ Housing? Housing with just LGBTQQs? Sounds amazing to me! __________________ "The opposite of love is not hate, but fear" Forrest Church

20th Jan 2009, 05:54 PM	#20
Markio EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Family, friends, and staff! Location: California Age: 21 Posts: 1,139 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: LGBTQQ Housing? I'd do it for sure, because I'm not entirely comfortable telling my roommates about me (they're both straight). If it were a GLBTQQ floor, I'd feel more at ease, like a little person at one of those little person festivals. I'd feel like I fit in. And even if you don't like the people there, it's just where you shower and sleep at night; even now I'm posting from a computer outside my room--I dread my roommate's company! And when both of them are there... I may just be exaggerating. I don't dislike one of my roommates because he's straight. He's just an ass. Ultimately it doesn't matter what sexual orientation your roommate is, unless they're homophobic or looking for a relationship or mutual understanding when it comes to sexual attraction. __________________ Celebrate diversity! Last edited by Markio; 20th Jan 2009 at 05:57 PM..