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Shyvin · 21st Jan 2009, 09:17 PM

Tonight I was hanging with my sister and we were watching the new eps of Lost on ABC. (Awesome! Did anyone see it?) And one of the sexy characters, Sawyer, had his shirt off and my sister was drooling over him out loud and I just had to sit there and say nothing. But I wanted to, and that was when I realized that I needed a friend.

I need someone who knows. I use to have someone, but they ended up leaving me at the drop of a coin for personal reasons. Their own personal reasons...(It's amazing how someone can be your best and loyal friend for 8 years and then up and change. And I mean this person drastically changed who he was overnight. I can't comprehend it in my mind.)

Anyways, I don't have any friends. At all. I have acquaintances. I would love to have someone who I'm just myself around.

thebikelady · 21st Jan 2009, 09:21 PM

I know the feeling. All the people I would be comfortable with are scattered across the country. It sucks. Hopefully you will meet some awesome people soon.

singtoh1 · 21st Jan 2009, 09:29 PM

I would hang with you but I'm sure you live no where close to where I live. No one does but it is Dela-Where.

I hope you find a good friend.

Shyvin · 21st Jan 2009, 09:31 PM

Thanks thebikelady and singtoh1! I wish the same for both of you as well. It's just one of those nights, ya know?

thebikelady · 21st Jan 2009, 09:36 PM

You're welcome. I have lots of those nights. So I just come here and read.

Shyvin · 21st Jan 2009, 09:44 PM

Well trust me, my boring and pessimistic ramblings will most likely put you to sleep.

singtoh1 · 21st Jan 2009, 09:49 PM

oh stop it, I'm sure your not boring or pessimistic but if you ever need to talk feel free to message me, ok?

Shyvin · 21st Jan 2009, 10:02 PM

Oh stop it! I know you're just flirting with me, it won't work!

singtoh1 · 21st Jan 2009, 10:11 PM

Oh no I've been caught! lol but seriously its kool.

singtoh1 · 21st Jan 2009, 10:11 PM

**EM68** · 22nd Jan 2009, 05:00 AM

If you are looking to be yourself around people you may want to see if there are any LGBT groups where you live and join them.

Shyvin · 22nd Jan 2009, 09:54 AM

There are none, 0. Trust me. We don't have anything here at all.

J Schuelke · 22nd Jan 2009, 10:06 AM

I definitely know how you feel, I was the exact same way when I first realized who I actually was, after that I had know one to talk to about my feelings because I was freaked out what they would think about me.

Even though some of my friends know, they don't always want to hear it all the time, but in the end it turned out ok.

Hang in there, I am sure you find someone whom you can confide in. Just be patient.

Btw, I LOVE your Avatar!

Peace out!

allright78 · 22nd Jan 2009, 10:50 AM

there will always be someone there for you
i know the feeling
i moved to a totally different place once and had absolutely no one to talk to
but as the first year went on, it got much better!
you must start talking to people
there's nothing to lose

tallship · 22nd Jan 2009, 12:57 PM

Hi don't know where you are but hey I am boring too

) feel free to pm me.I am twice your age ,so i can bore you with old stuff and you can teach me new stuff .I'm always willing to listen people, to new music , watch new films , and attempt new things after a bit of persuasion .Your still young and the world is your oyster, corny I know but go out and grab it.Otherwise before you know it your be as old as me.

tallship · 22nd Jan 2009, 12:58 PM

Oh and read the posts you have lost of friends to talk to here .Take care Mate

Jeimuzu · 22nd Jan 2009, 01:31 PM

I kinda had that. Then I went on the net and found myself some guys who're good friends now. =] So I'm happy.

21st Jan 2009, 09:17 PM	#1
Shyvin Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 27 Posts: 196 Join Date: Dec 2008	Need A Friend Tonight I was hanging with my sister and we were watching the new eps of Lost on ABC. (Awesome! Did anyone see it?) And one of the sexy characters, Sawyer, had his shirt off and my sister was drooling over him out loud and I just had to sit there and say nothing. But I wanted to, and that was when I realized that I needed a friend. I need someone who knows. I use to have someone, but they ended up leaving me at the drop of a coin for personal reasons. Their own personal reasons...(It's amazing how someone can be your best and loyal friend for 8 years and then up and change. And I mean this person drastically changed who he was overnight. I can't comprehend it in my mind.) Anyways, I don't have any friends. At all. I have acquaintances. I would love to have someone who I'm just myself around. Last edited by Shyvin; 21st Jan 2009 at 09:28 PM..

21st Jan 2009, 09:21 PM	#2
thebikelady EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: 9? Age: 28 Posts: 485 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: Need A Friend I know the feeling. All the people I would be comfortable with are scattered across the country. It sucks. Hopefully you will meet some awesome people soon.

21st Jan 2009, 09:29 PM	#3
singtoh1 Eccentric Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: I'm just not out to distant relatives Location: Newark, Delaware Age: 25 Posts: 507 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: Need A Friend I would hang with you but I'm sure you live no where close to where I live. No one does but it is Dela-Where. I hope you find a good friend.

21st Jan 2009, 09:31 PM	#4
Shyvin Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 27 Posts: 196 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Need A Friend Thanks thebikelady and singtoh1! I wish the same for both of you as well. It's just one of those nights, ya know?

21st Jan 2009, 09:36 PM	#5
thebikelady EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: 9? Age: 28 Posts: 485 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: Need A Friend You're welcome. I have lots of those nights. So I just come here and read.

21st Jan 2009, 09:44 PM	#6
Shyvin Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 27 Posts: 196 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Need A Friend Well trust me, my boring and pessimistic ramblings will most likely put you to sleep.

21st Jan 2009, 09:49 PM	#7
singtoh1 Eccentric Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: I'm just not out to distant relatives Location: Newark, Delaware Age: 25 Posts: 507 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: Need A Friend oh stop it, I'm sure your not boring or pessimistic but if you ever need to talk feel free to message me, ok?

21st Jan 2009, 10:02 PM	#8
Shyvin Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 27 Posts: 196 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Need A Friend Oh stop it! I know you're just flirting with me, it won't work!

21st Jan 2009, 10:11 PM	#9
singtoh1 Eccentric Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: I'm just not out to distant relatives Location: Newark, Delaware Age: 25 Posts: 507 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: Need A Friend Oh no I've been caught! lol but seriously its kool.

21st Jan 2009, 10:11 PM	#10
singtoh1 Eccentric Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: I'm just not out to distant relatives Location: Newark, Delaware Age: 25 Posts: 507 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: Need A Friend

22nd Jan 2009, 05:00 AM	#11
EM68 Happily Married! :) EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about. Location: Stoughton, Massachusetts USA Age: 43 Posts: 4,288 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Need A Friend If you are looking to be yourself around people you may want to see if there are any LGBT groups where you live and join them. __________________ I'm beautiful in my way, 'Cause God makes no mistakes I'm on the right track, baby I was Born This Way -Lady Gaga

22nd Jan 2009, 09:54 AM	#12
Shyvin Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 27 Posts: 196 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Need A Friend There are none, 0. Trust me. We don't have anything here at all.

22nd Jan 2009, 10:06 AM	#13
J Schuelke Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: My Mom, and most friends Location: wisconsin Age: 23 Posts: 190 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: Need A Friend I definitely know how you feel, I was the exact same way when I first realized who I actually was, after that I had know one to talk to about my feelings because I was freaked out what they would think about me. Even though some of my friends know, they don't always want to hear it all the time, but in the end it turned out ok. Hang in there, I am sure you find someone whom you can confide in. Just be patient. Btw, I LOVE your Avatar! Peace out! __________________ Every day should be gay pride day. Last edited by J Schuelke; 22nd Jan 2009 at 10:08 AM..

22nd Jan 2009, 10:50 AM	#14
allright78 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Not out at all Posts: 20 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: Need A Friend there will always be someone there for you i know the feeling i moved to a totally different place once and had absolutely no one to talk to but as the first year went on, it got much better! you must start talking to people there's nothing to lose

22nd Jan 2009, 12:57 PM	#15
tallship Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: London Age: 51 Posts: 121 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: Need A Friend Hi don't know where you are but hey I am boring too ) feel free to pm me.I am twice your age ,so i can bore you with old stuff and you can teach me new stuff .I'm always willing to listen people, to new music , watch new films , and attempt new things after a bit of persuasion .Your still young and the world is your oyster, corny I know but go out and grab it.Otherwise before you know it your be as old as me.

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22nd Jan 2009, 12:58 PM	#16
tallship Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: London Age: 51 Posts: 121 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: Need A Friend Oh and read the posts you have lost of friends to talk to here .Take care Mate

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Jeimuzu Wreck Cognition Full Member Gender: Heterogametic Orientation: Rawr. Out Status: 99% out. Location: Middlesbrough Age: 23 Posts: 1,744 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: Need A Friend I kinda had that. Then I went on the net and found myself some guys who're good friends now. =] So I'm happy. __________________