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Finally starting to understand my sexuality

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Thegoldcoin35, Dec 3, 2015.

  1. Thegoldcoin35

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    Hi
    I've been browsing this forum over the past few weeks and decided to join as I've read a lot of posts that have been immensely informative and I have pretty much got my sexuality figured out, thank god haha though I don't intend to ever use a label for myself because I'm the type of person to just go with the flow and see what happens :slight_smile: I am aroused by the thought of sexual contact with men (I am male) and although still aroused by women, it's not in the same way as I am by men, Ive never had sexual contact with either so I'm just going off what gets me going in my 'alone time' hehe. I fantasise about sexual scenarios with both men and women though my fantasies involving women are a lot more intimate fantasies and the ones involving men are purely physical. Despite having a good think over the past few weeks I've decided that a relationship with a man just isn't for me and I don't think it will be for the foreseeable future but I'm not ruling it out, the thought of a relationship with a woman is a lot more appealing to me even though in a physical sense I would say I lean more towards the homosexual end of the spectrum but in a romantic emotional sense I would say I'm 90% straight. Personally I believe in sexual fluidity and like a lot of people I have the view that a lot of people are somewhere along the sexuality spectrum rather than slap bang at one end. With men it's definitly a physical thing for me and there's something pretty hot about it but I don't ever see myself 'clicking' with another guy in a romantic or emotional way but like I said I'm not ruling it out :slight_smile: from my own judgements I would say Id prefer to have sex with men but If I'm with a girl I really like I do feel sexual attraction to them and think I'll enjoy it a lot but I'm yet to to try anything out with either gender so I'm still in the exploration phase haha. I'm not embarrassed by my sexuality, I am who I am and anyone who's got a problem with it, well then they've just got a problem with themselves really beause I don't care.

    I just wanted to introduce myself I guess and just see if anyone on here is in the same or similar situation to me?

    So I guess and this is probably the only time I'll ever use a label for myself but I would say that sexually I am bisexual with a leaning towards men but romantically and emotionally I'm 90% straight because I do firmly believe sexual attraction and romantic/emotional attraction are different things altogether.

    So yeah that's all about me and this is just me saying hello :slight_smile:
     
  2. oliolioli

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    Hey and welcome!

    It's great to find a label you identify with - I'm pretty similar to you, but instead of leading to the same sex in sexual attraction, my attraction to the same sex is usually romantic/emotional. I'm 100% with you on the sexual fluidity thing too.

    It took me quite a while to realise that being bisexual doesn't mean that you have to like both sexes the same amount, and in the same way, so congrats!
     
  3. CornerSign

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    I'm in kinda the same state. When I first starting realizing I had homosexual thoughts (2ish years ago) I was the same way. I liked the idea of having sex with a man, but dating one seemed weird. But now I think that was just viciously instilled social stigma. More and more the idea of falling in love with a man appeals to me.