Would you take on your partner's family name?

We hyphenated when we got married. So we both kept our own surname and took the other's.

 

I think maybe I would - I don't want mine, I'm thinking of changing it to my mother's anyway.

 

Nope.

Not only is it illegal for me (or for any Quebecer for that matter) to do so, but I don't understand why anyone would. My name is me, their name is theirs. I wouldn't want to lose my identity.

 

What? It's illegal for people in Quebec to change their name?
Personally, I would hyphenate my mame with theirs (or theirs with me).

 

I might hyphenate. But, I don't think I'd loose my family name.

 

I've thought about this, and I'm ok with taking hers or her taking mine. We want to have kids and such so I think it just strengthens and unifies for a family's sake.

 

You know, I didn't know that about Quebec Rainbow Green. That province really is like a dictatorship sometimes. You should be able to give yourself whatever the heck name you want.

I have no interest in marriage. If I did get married, I'd hyphenate our names.

 

My partner and I discussed this kinda thing years ago. We really liked the idea of combining our two last names into another (completely different) last name that would be uniquely us.

For instance, if Janice Smith was to marry Joyce Fairbanks, they could both choose to become Fairth, or Fairbath, Smairbanks, Sminks, etc. (of these, I probably prefer Fairth, but it's not my decision). We loved this idea, and decided that this should become the non-sexist norm among hetero couples as well -- that a prerequisite to entering into a lifelong relationship should be agreeing on a way to combine your identities into a joint identity.

 

I think I'd be too lazy to want to change my name, honestly. I'm going to have to call these license centers and get my licensed changed, get a new ID for jobs, get a new background check... bleh. Too much work.

 

I don't know if I would. I've got a pretty good (and easy) last name. Their last name would have to be better than mine, like Blade

 

I think I would, mostly just because I don't like my last name. Well, unless their name is something impossible to pronounce/spell like Mxyzptlk.

 

Meh. I don't like my last name much, but I don't see the point in that.

 

Nope. Didn't take my ex's name, would keep my name again. It's who I am. It's possible I would agree to a mash-up, like suggested by biAnnika, because that would put us both on equally new footing. And I'm not having any more kids, so not like that's an issue, either!

 

yes i would or maybe take a combination of both our name not a hyphen

 

Only if it's shorter and easier to spell.

 

I'd definitely consider taking their name, regardless of their gender.
I don't really feel super connected to my current last name anyway because it was an adoptive name my father got when he had a step dad when he was younger. (We still the guy but we never really talk and I don't really see him as a grandparent) so I'd probably change my name.

 

I wouldn't, not because I don't think my imaginary husband wouldn't be worth it, but because of traditional reasons, u see in my country both spouses keep their last names after marriage, another reason is that I don't believe that a common last name is what makes two ppl a family, it's a common love and understanding what really matters

 

Might have both of us hypenate but I like my last name. Well, at least what it is now. I took my step father's (who I consider dad) last name because biological father was a dead beat with an ugly name. And damn it. I fought for my last name. Not changing it now.