Do you think some people call themselves gay just for attention?

Well, I'd say it depends on what kind of attention they're expecting to get (not that I know anyone who's actually done this). If someone expects to receive negative attention for saying that they're gay, then no, I don't think anyone would say it aloud, assuming they even let themselves think that they're gay. But what if they expected to get lots of positive attention? I guess it's conceivable. I just haven't met anyone in that situation in real life, I guess.

 

I guess there might be someone who would be gay just for the attention, but I have no idea why. She clearly has no idea of the internal torment most gay people go through for years on end. "Should I come out? Why can't I stop staring at guys instead of girls? How will my friends react when I tell them? Will my parents kick me out? Etc etc"

 

They're pretty dumb if so. Alot of gay people have to call themselves straight to avoid getting attention..

 

I'm sure there are some people out there, but even then it would probably be on a much deeper level of insecurity and maybe even confusion. Some people in that kind of state could come to believe they're gay even if they aren't I suppose. And even if that were the case, it's not like they'd be doing it in a malicious manner since they have other issues causing it which would be nothing to mock anyway.

 

I just ask would you like a demonstration

 

no joke man i was in the closet for about 4 1/2 to 5 years and when i came out i told my mom and cried for like 30 min. i tried everything to convince myself i wasn't gay like kissing girls, dating them, heck i was about to have sex with a woman but in the end i couldn't, i just couldn't get attracted to a woman, but i just couldn't stop staring at guys and getting turned on. if you pretend to be gay, well ... you got a few problems is all i can say.

 

I mean, some of us do love attention (lookin' at me), but really? Why would someone subject themselves to that kind of pain, just for attention or sex? I mean, dear God, this isn't torture porn, it's being attracted to the same sex! Jesus Motherfucking Christ, how dumb can people get?

 

I guess it depends on the context. I've known people or lets say a group of people who pretended to act gay to make fun of other people for being an outcast and such to gain attention. But they weren't praising being gay, more like ridiculing the notion of being gay.

This is a weird comment honestly, but I'm mean I guess I've heard people who are struggling in their dating life say "oh I wish I was gay," though I don't think they truly meant it. You may be right and it is just something she saw growing up or something and that is what she believes. And I guess some people believe people choose to be gay just to be different or rebel or something.

But I always tried to act the opposite, so I really just don't get it.

 

Sounds exactly like me. I dated girls for 6-7 years and really had to soldier on to have sex. It never felt "right," nor was I terribly into any relationship I had, even though they were all pretty. I fought/repressed/denied those feelings until my early 20s when I just couldn't fight my attractions anymore. I was walking by a beach and kept staring at this one gorgeous guy and it hit me, "you've been staring at guys your entire life, you're gay."

Even still it took me about another year before I finally began to accept/deal with it. And I don't come from a homophobic family. My friends are rather gay-friendly (as I especially learned when I came out), but years of "dude, that's so gay!" can really get to you. The desire to want to fit in is strong, especially if your camouflage allows you to fit in. You don't want to lose what you have

 

Unfortunately, there are some people that do this. Many of them "scene" kids in middle school trying to look cool. I'm guessing this happens more in more accepting areas of the world, such as my own, sadly.

 

I am still astounded at the amount of homophobia that still exists in this crazy world! No matter how much progression there seems to be, its these type of comments that show people either dont want to understand or are just ignorant!

 

Well, I've never know anyone call themselves gay for attention, however I have known people have a very anti-gay stance then send everyone pictures of them making out with someone of the same-sex yet claim to be straight. Because that's not confusing at all. :rolle:

I've also seen people "act gay" as in that they joke that they're dating their best friend of the same-sex and laugh when people take them seriously. Or they joke about having sex with each other.

I've seen people complain about how they wish they were gay or that they "just like totally give up on dudes, screw it I'm "turning" lesbian" to which I've seen other's reply "I'll join you, too many f:***::***:kboys these days". And I'm like no, that's not how it...never mind. :eusa_doh: You don't turn gay lol, it's not like some boogy-man comes out of the closet and bites you and then you're gay. :roflmao:

 

I think there was a time when people thought this of me and in a way convinced me that it was true. I don't know if I've told this story here before, but in college I had an acting professor who I really loved. I wasn't into acting, but his improv class and his stage writing class were both highly my speed. Anyway, one day in class, as a friend and I were preparing a scene (from When Harry Met Sally) he declared that I wasn't acting sexually interested enough in her. I said I'm gay, I can't quite relate to being sexually interested in women. He responded with, "you're not as gay as you like to tell people you are." That always really stuck with me.

When I was defending my bisexuality to my "wife," back when we first started dating, I reasoned it out as "well, it was easier to find guys to have sex with than girls, and I was horny." Honestly, that doesn't make any sense when I really think about it! I guess denial is just a pretty strong thing and you can sell yourself on anything if you try hard enough. Because there's nothing easier about being attracted to guys versus girls. They're all on the same subway car, I'm not checking the hot guys out because it's easier.

 

I have some straight friends who go to gay clubs pretending to be gay hoping to hit on straight girls who are there hoping to avoid guys like them. Does that count?

 

As someone who browses /r9k/ daily... Yeah, yeah, there are some people who do.

 

I do not think those lonely people were ever straight, lonlinest can do crazy do but that... yeah... is called denial, the same sex isn't any easier. I swear straight people tend to believe shit like that.