Yelled at by a gay couple.

Hehe, sorry. I had to let out a laugh at that "fug nut" part. I've never heard that before.

But it's all right. They shouldn't have assumed that you were judging them, though.

How did they react to you saying that?

 

We all lash out at times. Dwelling in the past won't help you any, though. All you can do now is figure how to move forward with this.

And besides. Calling someone a "fug nut" isn't even the worst that could happen. On the bright side you've just invented a completely brilliant insult which has been added to my personal vocabulary.

In all seriousness, though. I think it's very admirable of you to feel compassion for those guys like you do, despite the little skirmish. You aren't pathetic - don't beat yourself up over this. At least you don't have to stress about coming out now, am I right?

If you wanted to re-address it with your Mom and cousin, you could always say something like, "So you know that day in the grocery store..." to get 'em talking.

Best wishes to you.

 

Well, if anything, the gay couple probably feels like crap. The one guy that snapped at you probably regrets his words and feels like a complete idiot. At least, I would, for being so presumptious.

Honestly, I would have done the same. I mean, what else would you do when you're being wrongfully judged, right?

 

Take a deep breath. If you feel like you're being pushed around, push back harder. You have that kind of strength in you, which I admire a lot. You can do this.

 

It can be annoying when you accidentally out yourself. At least for me, it was annoying to think that not even who knew my sexuality was in my control. I don't know how you feel, but I hope that you look back on this as a story to tell at parties.

And I bet that couple realized what they said after you left.

 

You did the only thing you could. you stood up for yourself. Well done

And "fug nut" omg. Added to my list.

 

Totally adding "fug nut" to my vocabulary.

In seriousness, I am sorry that that happened to you, it was probably just a stupid dust-up and it's the past now; it's best not to dwell on it.

 

You did the right thing. Good for you!

 

That was a bloody good response! I would have done the same. You were stressed and he was a little rude to you.

 

Fuck yeah that's how you answer to that! So proud of you.

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When interacting with random people in public businesses, it's not uncommon to come across people who are quick to take things personally. Add to that the fact that some people have been conditioned to believe that others are bigoted against them, and it makes it more likely that they'll irrationally quickly conclude that someone is



If you don't mind me giving an anecdote as an example of how customers can irrationally take things personally...
In the last month that I worked as a cashier, I had a customer try to purchase an item that rang up at it's regular price. When he saw the price, he notified me that it was listed as on sale for a cheaper price (roughly half off if I remember correctly). Usually, I would radio a co-worker to verify the sale price, but as often is the case, this happened during a rush, which meant that there were no co-workers available to do that. Yet, I couldn't leave the front since I was the only cashier and there was a line.

I hesitated for a moment to decide what to do, but decided to just sell it at the price he claimed it was listed as since the difference was under the dollar amount that I have the discretion to use my judgement to adjust the price. However, because I hesitated in just taking his word for it that it was discounted at the price he claimed it was, he was offended that I didn't trust him. To me, it's very irrational to take offense to the fact that some cashier who doesn't know you is reluctant to take your word for it that an item is discounted. You're basically being offended that someone isn't gullible enough to trust a random stranger with their employer's money.

When I had downtime, I was able to go to the shelf and verify that it was on sale like he claimed. But it's still irrational to be offended by the fact that a cashier is hesitant to adjust the price based solely on your say-so.

 

You gave them a nice response.
But on another note,may be they've been judged a lot for their sexuality and felt like u were judging them.Good you told them off.

 

They were just instigating confrontation for no apparent reason. How hilariously stupid of them to assume that of you. Hopefully they learned something from this or they're gonna get their ass beat someday if thats how they act.

 

Sorry to hear this happened. Obviously they shouldn't be so quick to judge.


I often try to avoid saying I'm gay in such a situation. I like to see if I can prove a point without giving them any bias in my favor.

 

I don't know if you guys heard of FML, but this came from that site/app. This reminds me of the situation

"Today, I saw a lesbian couple walking through the mall. One of the ladies walked up to me in the middle of the busy mall and started screaming at me about how rude it is to stare, and how we are all equal- straight or not. I was only staring because I'm a lesbian too, and they were hot. FML"