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Can you imagine a wedding?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by lovetoomuch, Dec 24, 2015.

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Can you imagine yourself having a wedding with family and friends?

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  1. lovetoomuch

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    So, I'm glad to say over the past year I have really accepted my sexuality and I hope to find a guy to spend the rest of my life with. However, one thing I still struggle with is imagining myself having a wedding.

    I'm not ashamed of my sexuality, but I cannot picture my traditional family [and extended family] and all my friends going to a wedding in which I'm getting married a man. I think it is partly due to the fact I have no gay family members or friends.
    Also, I guess this thought is due to the norms formed by society; I picture weddings as a man and woman and can't see two men dancing in the middle of a dance floor.

    Am I the only one who struggles with this? Can you imagine yourself having a wedding in which you invite your extended family and friends?

    All responses are appreciated, thanks.
     
  2. angeluscrzy

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    I don't like the idea of any big wedding as it is. But I could absolutely see getting married to a guy in a small ceremony. I guess my need for the spotlight just ain't that great.
     
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    Nope, because I'm never getting married. Or having a relationship. The idea of even having a relationship is utterly unappealing to me.
     
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    I will never marry, with the possible exception of a fake wedding to help someone stay in the country.
     
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    I wish there was a don't know option because I don't know. On one hand it would be awesome but on the other my Dad and church would hate it.
     
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    Absolutely. But small and not overly expensive. Less than 50 people. No religious elements either.
     
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    No... it's really hard to imagine myself getting married to somebody. Sounds scary.
     
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    I can imagine friends, but not family.

    But in all honesty, I want a small wedding and I'm not sure if I'd invite most of my extended even if I was straight. I mean we haven't talked in YEARS :lol:
     
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    Fuck no. I don't even want to get married, but if that were to happen I'd rather that it was a really simple thing. The ceremony doesn't appeal to me. And I can't imagine my family watching me get married to a girl tbh.
     
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    I can imagine getting married, but only to someone I kinda love right now. She's the only person in my life I would consider getting married to. Otherwise, I can't really.
     
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    To be honest, I wouldn't want anyone at my wedding (other than the guy I'll be marrying). If there are people watching I probably won't do it and run.:icon_sad:
     
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    Honestly, no...but that's because I can't really even imagine a guy going on a first date with me, let alone marrying. Also with friend count of zero, it's hard to imagine friends attending this wedding.

    That said...who knows what the future will bring? Who knows whom one might meet? Circumstances change, and my answer might well change.
     
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    I can. I just don't have many friends and I think that religious people in my family wouldn't come (Christians and Muslims... sighs).

    Could be a little yet nice wedding I guess.
     
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    Well, when my husband and I got married there were a couple of friends there and my family and other friends would have been fine with attending if we'd asked and probably been willing to delay things a year for scheduling and such (although it would have cost a lot since they live on the other side of continent). But we didn't really see the need to make a big deal out of it and were mainly doing the marriage thing for all the rights and tax advantages that came with it at a single stroke (we'd already been together for about 18yrs at the time).

    Neither of us are much for big weddings or celebrations anyway.

    Todd
     
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    I don't ever wanna get married. Nope, no, no.
     
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    Seconded. Probably even less people in my case.
     
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    Kinda. It's weird to think of sometimes.

    No family though. I would only have friends. I would have to live vicariously through my partner regarding family. I figure his family will hopefully be accepting and be like family to me. It's sad but, whatever.
     
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    It really depends on what you mean by friends and family.

    I mean, when and if I get married, I would want anyone who's close to me to be there. If my mom and dad aren't there, then that's that. I mean, I picture a big glorious wedding with lots of people surrounding me and whatever girl I'm lucky enough to marry. I don't see anyone particular in my fantasies. Everyone and anyone at my wedding would be people who support me and her and are friends of both of us. If any family members show up or not wouldn't matter, because my real family would be there. Genetic or not. What would matter is enjoying myself and her enjoying herself.

    Technically, everyone at my wedding would either be considered my family or friend who were invited because they were friends. The point is my friends would mostly be my family, assuming I have friends at that time, and that would be all to it. I definitely picture my dream wedding containing friends and family to answer the question. :slight_smile: <3
     
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    I can imagine a wedding, but I doubt I'll find a guy who would want to marry me.
    As for family/friends attending the wedding - I want a small and private wedding with not more than 10 guests. :rolle:
     
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    I honestly can't imagine myself getting married at all. I feel like I could be in a relationship with someone, but doing the whole ceremony thing.. it's just not important to me.
     
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