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I hate labels!!!

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Pacmaneater101, Dec 27, 2015.

  1. Pacmaneater101

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    Honestly, I am not see why? But I just hate labels. Can't you just say, I like men, I like women, I like not men and women! I am crazy! I don't know why I don't like labels, I just don't!

    Love ya (*hug*)

    Label or not
     
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    You're not alone.
    Labels make me feel uncomfortable.

    But sadly many people only understand things if you actually label them. It's so weird.
     
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    People like to feel validated. Just call a table a table. I understand some people don't like labels, I just find it hard to understand why.
     
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    I kinda like "general" labels, like you know: Gay, straight, lesbian, transgender, transexual, cisgender.

    It's kinda useful, saying "I'm gay" is a bit more self explanatory than saying "I only like guys, not only for sex but also on a romantic level"...blahblahblah


    That said, I find some labels to be kinda... stretched... It sometimes looks more like an Algebra Formula than an orientation/gender.
    If someone wants to be called a "demi-semi-trans-pan-puccino with a bit of chantilly please", I have no problem with it whatsoever, but there is no point in having labels for 1 person. Say directly how you feel, since everytime you're gonna tell someone your orientation/gender, they're gonna ask you what it means.
     
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    You can say androphilic and/or gynophilic. However, this talks about the sex of and doesn't account for gender identity of the other person.

    Also, saying e.g. 'I like men' is kind of a label itself, as labels are identity and saying 'I like...' is part of identity.
     
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    A lot of people don't like labels, so you're not alone.

    I personally like them, because it makes me feel like I have a defined identity. (I have a mental illness that always made it hard for me to have a sense of identity.)

    But for sexuality, I actually don't use a label. I just say I like girls because I'm agender and whenever I referred to myself as lesbian, it made me feel like I had to be a girl, or at least present myself as one. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    I don't care about labels, but the meaning some people puts on them...
     
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    Hi there! Welcome to EC!
    And yeah, I don't care about labels either. Thought about it a lot somewhile ago, got tired and bleh.
     
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    I like labels they help me find food I'm the grocery store. Especially my peanut brittle. Some labels are good while others aren't. Everything I'm this world ( I'm my opinion is 50/50)
     
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    Labels make people feel like they belong to something bigger than themselves. Levels help them discover who they are.

    But they also tear people apart. They can be confusing.

    Labels are lose/lose. Either you dontmhave them and everybody is confused, or you do have them and nobody knows who they are.
     
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    They're just annoying. I always cut them out of my t-shirts as soon as I get one.
     
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    I made so many typos ufgh. I meant to say in instead of I'm XD
     
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    Same here. Labels are constraints to me. I just want to feel the feels and move on with my life.
     
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    I often find the whole concept of attraction restricting. Am I person who likes men if I'm vaguely attracted to a few guys? Since most labels require you to declare who you're attracted to they cause issues for me. I think other people have issues with the concept of attraction as well. I just like the label queer because it depends more on cultural association and values than attraction. To me it says I'm a non-heterosexual who's outside of the mainstream and doesn't want to be part of heteronormativity.
     
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    I don't hate labels but I'm not crazy over them. I don't see why people hate them though, sometimes they're necessary.
     
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    Yaasss XD