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What would you do if your partner became unattractive

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  1. Driftr

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    Say you were in a long-term relationship (if you're not already in one) and your partner suddenly became unattractive to you somehow.

    What would you do if they refused to change their physical appearance (or couldn't if they wanted to)?

    Would you still try to have sex with them, even if you're not attracted to them (and even if it takes using your imagination)? Do you consider it rude if you don't try to have sex with them?

    Would you be honest and tell your partner that you're not physically attracted to them anymore?
     
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  2. DougTheBicycle

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    There comes a point where the attraction ascends from the physical realm, and becomes more about the personality, and established emotional connection.

    So. She would still be beautiful. I would still tell her that. And then I would sex the hell out of her.
     
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    I would'nt care. To me my partner is more than just surface appearance. And moreover I'm not attracted to people just because of their appearnaces, it takes a LOT more than that! The emotional connect is what matters most to me. I would love him/her the same.
     
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    Tell them to go away.
     
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    Wise words right here.
     
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    People have different definitions of Attractiveness. I for one will definitely make sure to be attracted to all of my (future) partner's Physique, Mannerisms, Thoughts and actions. Then my partner can never be "unattractive" to me. :grin:
     
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    Yes- because like the first poster said, there is a point where sexual attraction doesn't depend solely on looks- at least I've felt it too.
    I would never ask a partner to change their appearance.
     
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    If he had severe skin disease with explosive zits, I wouldn't sex him up.
    For his sake, I hope he will always be hygienic :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    I consider personality 'beautiful' or 'ugly' so if their personality stayed 'beautiful' then I'd still go out with them.
     
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    What would my partner do if I became unattractive? The same (but it's very difficult, I know).
     
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    Nothing would change. I wouldn't date someone based on their looks. You can be the hottest man on the planet, but if your personality is crap, I'm not interested.
     
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    So ironic lolz.
    I just got done reading a bl manga and in it there were two men who were married. One worked and the other was s house husband. The husband who worked went on a business trip.
    When he came back he saw someone different in his house.
    The other person was fat and also his husband.
    Worker husband: what happens to you?
    House husband: well, since I usually cook for more than one person....
    Worker husband: we're you always this big?
    House husband: before we started dating I wanted to get in shape for you
    Worker husband: you mean, you got into shape for me?
    House husband: *blushes *
    Then they both have sex
    Afterwards the house husband gets in shape rather easily at the end panel the house husband was just like I think I liked you fat.

    I loved the comic because even though the other husband's appearance changed the worker husband still loved him

    ---------- Post added 28th Dec 2015 at 01:15 PM ----------

    If my partner became unattractive.... yeah right XD. I would even notice since fuckability had nothing to do once our relationship is strong. Only personality wins after that. I think the best relationships arevthe ones where you can see both the good and had in each other as well as yourselves.
     
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    Find an excuse to break it off. If you are not attracted to someone, you should not feel obligated to stay with them on the grounds that you used to find them attractive.
     
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    I know that comics!!!!! It wasn't something I used to at first but it grew on me
     
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    Hope I was in deep enough in love that it wouldn't matter :slight_smile:
     
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    I'm not sure. I'm not looking for an LTR, so I'm a bit shallow right now.
     
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    I'd be happy cos then he'd never leave me /dance
     
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    If this is about physical attractiveness and something can be done about it, I would encourage him to do what he can to make himself look decent. I can help him with fashion or matching clothes. I think that is fun.

    However if the change in physical attractiveness is because of an accident (e.g car crash, falling down, etc) or a need (e.g surgery, amputation), I would not put much bearing into it. I don't fall in love easily so it takes quite a lot of effort to make me like someone and if I don't like them, it's never going to work. If this was my partner, I would assume that he has all the other traits that I would consider attractive- not just physical traits but also his personality. A change in physical attractiveness wouldn't mean that much to me anymore. In the end, we all age and will look old and "ugly" no matter what.
     
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    This basically.
     
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