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Can people tell who you're attracted to?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Vav, Dec 29, 2015.

  1. Vav

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    Right now I think it's mostly secret for me. I want to keep it that way. Can people usually tell who you're attracted to? Could more people tell after you came out?
     
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    Actually, people usually seem more surprised. There have been some people that could tell, but I don't think most could tell. When I started becoming more open with my sexuality, I started exploring my own sense of fashion. Although, I'm mostly just getting flannels and match then with accessories, shirts, pants, etc. I think I'm at a point where other LGBT people can tell but not straight people. I don't seem to match a lot of the gay stereotypes, so there's no much people can use to judge me.
     
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    I dont know, can you?
     
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    I don't think so .. I usually wear dark shades anyways; that way when I'm out and about I can check out any guy I want without getting caught. I just have to watch out for slight motions I may do with my mouth, like lick my lips and bite on my bottom lip. XD
     
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    No, even when I attempt to make it obvious, no one notices (or hardly anyone).
     
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    Tell me being gay or being attracted to specific people? Gay, no, not really, unless they caught me staring at someone's butt or boobs. Specific persons, yeah, usually people can tell because I don't really care to hide it.
     
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    I was talking to this guy [who's gay] I knew in high school around two years after we left and turns out he had a suspicion that I was not-straight.
     
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    I can't, but then again I am completley socially inept in every way possible.
     
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    Only if they catch me in the act of me checking somebody out. Otherwise, no. Most people assume I'm attracted to women, actually. Dunno why.
     
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    Among a new group of people I'm usually not pegged as gay unless I deliberately talk about a guy or something that makes others aware I'm gay. It's part of the reason why I wear a pride bracelet.
     
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    People usually assume that one is straight and attracted to the opposite sex.
     
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    *shrug*

    I think people are confused about me. And by people I mean my family mostly, they don't know what to think but they believe people can literally only be straight/cis (and that gay/trans is a choice) therefore the thought probably never crossed their mind.

    I don't really give a lot, by appearances. So one might assume I was straight (which is again based off the assumption of my appeared gender). It's complicated.