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vipedn · 28th Jan 2009, 05:53 PM

Nearly every single girl on here is "bisexual?" I started out as bisexual as well, but I was just scared to step outside of my element. It's crazy how many girls are "bisexual" but guys have no problem stating themselves as "gay."

Another thought, the theory that everyone is bisexual. That every natural living species could love either male or female. But society over the years has altered their own versions of whats "right" or "wrong." Everyone's born with the ability to love anyone, just limited to their preferences of course (looks, hobbies, etc.) Same thing with anything else in the world. Even beyond preferences, some people set themselves limits, like "there's no way i'd be gay, never ever." Never allowing themselves to come out. Idk just thoughts.

What do you think?

singtoh1 · 28th Jan 2009, 06:05 PM

I believe all people could be Bi but only in the physical sense. Meaning I could have sex with a girl right now but it doesn't mean I'm going to feel right about it mentally emotionally.

I think sometimes people feel more comfortable saying they are Bi b/c they don't know what they for one. Two b/c they believe that its a way to justify there real sexual desires when a bigot ask them of there sexuality. Does that make sense?

That and some people just don't want people to know. That is just what I think.

jazzrawr · 28th Jan 2009, 06:07 PM

I'm not bisexual! Haha.
I did start out saying I was bi though, because I was scared.

That's an interesting theory, I've thought about that too. It's hard to say though, because some people are willing to admit they can find the opposite or same sex attractive but aren't interested in them, but I know others who are truly completely straight or gay.

It's something to think about...

**lostinthought9** · 28th Jan 2009, 06:13 PM

I came out at first as Bi...but not because I was scared, just confused...

And that's something I thought about as well, the whole "everyone might be bi" thing...

Shevanel · 28th Jan 2009, 06:17 PM

I don't see what the big deal is, i mean, i'm bisexual (although i'm not a girl lol), but still. its just the way things go, its just random.

littledinosaurs · 28th Jan 2009, 06:18 PM

I don't like that you think that bisexuals can just be gays hiding. :|
i mean yes maybe some people are using it as a screen to protect themselves, but its their choice and i don't think you should be calling them out on it.
people can identify as whatever they want and shouldn't feel pressured to do anything.

biisme · 28th Jan 2009, 06:18 PM

Well....I'm listed as bisexual......because, well, I am.

I don't think it's that I'm "scared to step outside of my element" or anything like that. I wouldn't mind if I were a lesbian. In fact, sometimes I'd prefer that. However, I truly am attracted to guys and girls, to pretty much the same degree.

28th Jan 2009, 06:20 PM

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I'm for REALSIES bisexual.
I'm not really questioning if I like girls or guys or both. It's both. I know it.

And as for the "Bisexual For All", I don't think that's true. Because I've dated a few bicurious women who, after a kiss, realize that they just liked the idea, not women. Some people really are only attracted to women, some only to men, some neither and some fall along a spectrum.

RaRa · 28th Jan 2009, 06:24 PM

I'm bi, but I have a preference for guys, idk why I just like them more. :/

Even if you're bi, it doesn't mean your split down the middle 50/50.

And sadly a good ammount of people are ignorant. When you're with a guy your gay but when you're with a girl you're straight. I hate that. *looks at cousins*

**Owen** · 28th Jan 2009, 06:43 PM

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Originally Posted by lostinthought9

I came out at first as Bi...but not because I was scared, just confused...

Same here. I was sort of in denial but I was more just confused about what gay/straight/bi meant, so I called myself bi since it allowed me to address the "feelings" I was having while still not leaving my comfort zone.

As for why there seem to be more bi girls that guys, that may actually be the statistic (anyone have any info that proves or disproves this guess?). Or maybe gay guys are more attacted (pun intended

) to a GLBT forum than lesbians.

**lostinthought9** · 28th Jan 2009, 06:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Gamer am I

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Originally Posted by lostinthought9

I came out at first as Bi...but not because I was scared, just confused...

Same here. I was sort of in denial but I was more just confused about what gay/straight/bi meant, so I called myself bi since it allowed me to address the "feelings" I was having while still not leaving my comfort zone.

As for why there seem to be more bi girls that guys, that may actually be the statistic (anyone have any info that proves or disproves this guess?). Or maybe gay guys are more attacted (pun intended

) to a GLBT forum than lesbians.

well...uhhh...I knew the differences between being bi/gay/straight...what I meant was that I was confused about my sexuality...just wanted to clear that up..lol

jazzrawr · 28th Jan 2009, 06:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Numfarh

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I'm for REALSIES bisexual.
I'm not really questioning if I like girls or guys or both. It's both. I know it.

And as for the "Bisexual For All", I don't think that's true. Because I've dated a few bicurious women who, after a kiss, realize that they just liked the idea, not women. Some people really are only attracted to women, some only to men, some neither and some fall along a spectrum.

That's what I was thinking, thank you for putting it into words. XD

**lostinthought9** · 28th Jan 2009, 07:15 PM

----sorry, this is reallly off topic...but jazz..I love that new pic!^^

lol

Markio · 28th Jan 2009, 07:39 PM

Berets make everything better, it's true. That's why girl scout cookies sell so well.

In my class we read an article by a bisexual woman who was ostracized by both the straight and gay communities because she did not fit entirely into either one. Bisexuality is legit, and everyone's sexuality is different. It's a spectrum, not a seesaw!

Courtneyyy · 28th Jan 2009, 07:57 PM

I think there are more bisexual women because many of the bisexual men are in the closet. It is more accepted to be a women and bisexual than to be a bisexual man. That's probably thanks to straight guys loving the idea of girl on girl, and girls are more physical with their girl friends.

Just a little theory of mine...

28th Jan 2009, 05:53 PM	#1
vipedn Newbie Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Lexington, Ky Posts: 2 Join Date: Jan 2009	Why is it that... Nearly every single girl on here is "bisexual?" I started out as bisexual as well, but I was just scared to step outside of my element. It's crazy how many girls are "bisexual" but guys have no problem stating themselves as "gay." Another thought, the theory that everyone is bisexual. That every natural living species could love either male or female. But society over the years has altered their own versions of whats "right" or "wrong." Everyone's born with the ability to love anyone, just limited to their preferences of course (looks, hobbies, etc.) Same thing with anything else in the world. Even beyond preferences, some people set themselves limits, like "there's no way i'd be gay, never ever." Never allowing themselves to come out. Idk just thoughts. What do you think?

28th Jan 2009, 06:05 PM	#2
singtoh1 Eccentric Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: I'm just not out to distant relatives Location: Newark, Delaware Age: 25 Posts: 507 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: Why is it that... I believe all people could be Bi but only in the physical sense. Meaning I could have sex with a girl right now but it doesn't mean I'm going to feel right about it mentally emotionally. I think sometimes people feel more comfortable saying they are Bi b/c they don't know what they for one. Two b/c they believe that its a way to justify there real sexual desires when a bigot ask them of there sexuality. Does that make sense? That and some people just don't want people to know. That is just what I think.

28th Jan 2009, 06:07 PM	#3
jazzrawr Lover of Loony Lovegood Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesimbean Out Status: I scream it from rooftops Location: Ontario, Canada. Age: 19 Posts: 3,391 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Why is it that... I'm not bisexual! Haha. I did start out saying I was bi though, because I was scared. That's an interesting theory, I've thought about that too. It's hard to say though, because some people are willing to admit they can find the opposite or same sex attractive but aren't interested in them, but I know others who are truly completely straight or gay. It's something to think about... __________________ <3 You can love people so much... But you can never love someone as much as you can miss them. (...and the lesbians.)

28th Jan 2009, 06:13 PM	#4
lostinthought9 EC's Biggest Xena Fan EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Louisiana Age: 21 Posts: 2,059 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Why is it that... I came out at first as Bi...but not because I was scared, just confused... And that's something I thought about as well, the whole "everyone might be bi" thing... __________________

28th Jan 2009, 06:17 PM	#5
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Why is it that... I don't see what the big deal is, i mean, i'm bisexual (although i'm not a girl lol), but still. its just the way things go, its just random. __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

28th Jan 2009, 06:18 PM	#6
littledinosaurs J'essaie de Parler Français! :] Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: Bisexuel Location: Nouvelle-Angleterre. Age: 21 Posts: 2,351 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: Why is it that... I don't like that you think that bisexuals can just be gays hiding. :\| i mean yes maybe some people are using it as a screen to protect themselves, but its their choice and i don't think you should be calling them out on it. people can identify as whatever they want and shouldn't feel pressured to do anything. __________________ Âllo Là

28th Jan 2009, 06:18 PM	#7
biisme Call me Katie Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Ask me and I'll tell you. Location: Lincoln, Rhode Island Age: 20 Posts: 8,119 Join Date: Oct 2007	Re: Why is it that... Well....I'm listed as bisexual......because, well, I am. I don't think it's that I'm "scared to step outside of my element" or anything like that. I wouldn't mind if I were a lesbian. In fact, sometimes I'd prefer that. However, I truly am attracted to guys and girls, to pretty much the same degree. __________________ From BIG problems to little problems, from broken hearts to broken shoelaces, I really do care. Feel free to PM me anytime about anything. I want to know.

28th Jan 2009, 06:20 PM	#8
Numfarh Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Why is it that... ... I'm for REALSIES bisexual. I'm not really questioning if I like girls or guys or both. It's both. I know it. And as for the "Bisexual For All", I don't think that's true. Because I've dated a few bicurious women who, after a kiss, realize that they just liked the idea, not women. Some people really are only attracted to women, some only to men, some neither and some fall along a spectrum.

28th Jan 2009, 06:24 PM	#9
RaRa We we we so excited Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Los Angeles, CA Age: 21 Posts: 7,439 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: Why is it that... I'm bi, but I have a preference for guys, idk why I just like them more. :/ Even if you're bi, it doesn't mean your split down the middle 50/50. And sadly a good ammount of people are ignorant. When you're with a guy your gay but when you're with a girl you're straight. I hate that. looks at cousins __________________ Do you think about me now and then? Do you think about me now and then? Oh now I'm comin' home again Maybe we can start again

28th Jan 2009, 07:15 PM	#13
lostinthought9 EC's Biggest Xena Fan EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Louisiana Age: 21 Posts: 2,059 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Why is it that... ----sorry, this is reallly off topic...but jazz..I love that new pic!^^ lol __________________

28th Jan 2009, 07:39 PM	#14
Markio EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Family, friends, and staff! Location: California Age: 21 Posts: 1,139 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Why is it that... Berets make everything better, it's true. That's why girl scout cookies sell so well. In my class we read an article by a bisexual woman who was ostracized by both the straight and gay communities because she did not fit entirely into either one. Bisexuality is legit, and everyone's sexuality is different. It's a spectrum, not a seesaw! __________________ Celebrate diversity!

28th Jan 2009, 07:57 PM	#15
Courtneyyy ColbieMarie Full Member Gender: GIRL Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Mom, brother and close friends Location: Flagstaff, AZ Age: 23 Posts: 975 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: Why is it that... I think there are more bisexual women because many of the bisexual men are in the closet. It is more accepted to be a women and bisexual than to be a bisexual man. That's probably thanks to straight guys loving the idea of girl on girl, and girls are more physical with their girl friends. Just a little theory of mine...