I found this article and found it interesting, but also eye opening. Thought you all might find it interesting too. Are Bisexuals Shut Out of the LGBT Club? - The Daily Beast
Not really a shock to any multisexual person. Pretty sad when people routinely discriminated against can't see the same behavior in themselves.
Thanks for that link. Very interesting article. I think many people think we're just plain confused... like we can't decide. I think it's worse for married bisexuals than us singles because people say Oh, they got bored in their marriage and now they want to try someone of the same sex.
Yes, because apparently by being "in a str8 relationship," she's the oppressor. So we gots to fight the oppressor.
Bi guys are the most discriminated though, bi girls are objectified and fetishized but at the end most guys still prefer them over hetero/les girls. With bi guys, it's either "you're gay in the closet", "in transition" or "confused". I usually tell girls I'm 100% straight as they usually run away otherwise. The term "straight but curious" won't be understood by most people.
I have struggled with my sexuality for so many reasons, one of which is that, if I'm honest with myself, the term "bisexual" is the best description of my general pattern throughout my life. There have been times in my life when I've felt contentedly gay or only into a man. I'm so tired of having to explain to people that, no, I'm not straight, but no, I'm also not an exclusive lesbian.
The idea of the "LGBTQ+ community" is a nice one on paper, but in reality, just because we're all lumped under this umbrella of queerness, doesn't mean we're automatically going to understand and support each other. As a lesbian, I don't even have the same experience of the world as all of the other lesbians out there, let alone the same experience as a gay may, a bi-sexual or transgender person or any of the other people that are included in that alphabet soup. I can offer my empathy and try to be supportive of the rights of others as I hope they will be supportive of me, but to expect that because we've all experienced discrimination that we're all going to get along is not particularly realistic. There has to be some willingness between all of the involved parties to actually listen to each other rather than focusing on who is discriminating against who and who has it worst, etc. There are certainly members of the gay, lesbian and transgender, etc. community that have problematic attitudes towards bi-sexuals, but there are also a lot of bi-sexuals complaining about being discriminated against who refuse to listen to the concerns of the members of those communities or consider how their own behaviour may be problematic and contributing to the conflict.
You would think the gay community would be more accepting since maybe some of them got a bunch of bullshit from heterosexuals not understanding them. BUT NO! They definitely don't like bisexuals. Not only that but the straight community doesn't even believe bisexuals exist. My mom and sister had a conversation (which I opted out of for obvious reasons) about bisexuals and how "they just made that up" and "it's not possible to like both males and females." Thanks for the vote of confidence you guys... </3
I've heard gay and lesbian people before claim that bisexuals have "straight privilege", but the way the straight community treats them, I don't see how that could really be true. As an asexual, I don't really fit in with anything at all.
There is a B, after all, in LGBT. Bisexuality came to us LGBT with a sword, to divide us all. For many homosexuals if you go and point out that what happened counts (from a purely technical point of view) as bisexuality, they'll feel insulted. For good reason? Is there any good reason for the murder looks I get? Is there any good reason to beat up anyone? Would you rather hear me saying you were hetero for that half hour? If you come to me and remind me that my past indulgences were bisexual (again, technically), I'll feel offended because it seems to invalidate my very own gender identity. Don't get me started with homosexual transmen. Getting booed on a LGBT parade for kissing your boyfriend? Sad, but not surprising. Now best comes when you take a bisexual man who feels guilty because their indulgences get him closer to (gasp!) gayness. Not true, he is not gay... But wait a minute, from the damned technical point of view...??? What means for us bisexuality? Come on... And myself calling them indulgences, and look at what I've got at my orientation. Me sweating as my doctor asks me if I'd rather do a boy or a girl, and yeah, I'd rather do a girl, out of 100 I'd do probably 90 girls, but if you think I could resist some temptations with this high sexual drive for 20 years, you'd probably should change your dealer, or take more of that stuff... Damn it, we'll never get there, won't we... Not even ourselves...