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  1. lastking

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    This seems to be a very common issue where if I message someone they will read my (marked read) but they don't respond. Even if I send them a message again later on, assuming they were busy the first time, again they read my message (marked read) but don't respond.

    I know some people are very busy so that's understandable but for those who do it on purpose because they don't want to talk anymore, I just feel like it's a cowardly move, especially when they know I get a 'read' receipt. This just really annoys me.

    Can you guys relate?
     
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    I can.
    It is pretty annoyimg as you CAN CLEARLY SEE THE READ RECEIPT!!!
    And what else, some people simply ignore the messages.
    I reply people immediately, if I cannot I'll text them that I'm busy. But never ignore the text.
    It's very rude and irritating.
     
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    Yeah. I always start thinking the worse when that happens too and I get all stressed about it.
     
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    Ugh, I've always hated that. It doesn't stress me too much, but mostly I just find it irritating.

    Though, more irritating to me is when they finally respond but with only word.
     
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    That is why i turn off "read receipts" for me.
     
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    Social anxiety sucks ass.

    Especially with the 'read receipts.'
     
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    And its worse when they reply somewhat like this:
    Hey Hi :3 Sry bzy gtg ttyl
    :dry:
     
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    Omg YES :dry: I can understand if you are busy, or even if I don't ask you a direct question, but when I'm talking to you, please don't ignore me. I have a friend who goes "hey sorry we haven't talked in a while, what's up" and I tell them something important and then they just ignore me and disappear for a month again. Like, dude what is even the point in messaging me in the first place if you're not going to talk to me????
     
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    I think everyone to their own but there can be many reasons for that and u shouldnt be too upset about it. Seeing if the guy that messaged u SAW your message is a luxary (and a bad one at that IMHO) but u cant assume anything about the other person life or state of mind that he chose not to answer atm.
    I can say from the SMS point of view that if I recieve an SMS it blinks and my phone will keep blinking till i "see" the message which can be annoying at times so theres that as well, i might not reply the SMS but i just want the blinking to stop :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    GOSH,am so guilty of this,but i only do it to those i dont like
     
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    I can relate. Sometimes I'm really busy and then I read the message but only respond like a few hours later.
    Okay, I'm guilty of the "reading but not replying at all"-thing as well. But only if the conversation is really boring and I don't want to keep it. If someone is asking me interesting questions or giving me interesting answers and infos, I will ALWAYS reply... maybe not immediately but I will.
     
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    I can actually be pretty bad about getting back to people on here. I'm not ignoring you, though! I just don't always have the chance to give a proper response like I want to, but normally within a day or 6 I'll have the chance to do that.
     
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    Some times I just want to see if I got any new messages, but don't have time to reply, sometimes I like to think of a good reply, or don't feel like replying right away.

    I only take it personally when it happens every single time I message them.
     
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    O.K, I'm going to put my two cents in on the other side: If I get a message and don't reply to it, it's because I have nothing to say. I'm not going to waste words trying to come up with a reply if I have nothing to say. And I don't sit there expecting others to reply if I say something to them, either. Nobody is obligated to reply to you, or to anybody else.

    So instead of calling them "cowardly" or "rude", maybe consider that they might have nothing to say?
     
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    Oh well, I try not to take things personally. I've had a couple of friend requests I've said yes to, and then later I see I have been taken off their friends list. I guess I offended them or made them angry in a post. Maybe they don't want a Christian as a friend? It's OK. Not everyone likes me, and sometimes I am a jerk and deserve to be unfriended.

    A pastor once said we tend to hurt more when we are wronged than when we wrong others. Since then I've tried to hurt more when I wrong others.
     
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    We all have things to do we aren't glued to our cell phones. People are in College or Working or just don't want to be bother or maybe busy. I can't always respond to text messages right away. I hate read receipts i think they are pointless i turned them off. If someone is doing it purposely then its time to question them.
     
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    Why is there such a thing as a read receipts?!
    I must tell you as a sender I hate read receipts. Without it I can just assume they haven't read my message, busy, whatever and move on.
     
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    I'm guilty of being super late to reply on longer messages, but short and simple messages don't take long at all to reply to.
     
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    You are right - "Nobody is obligated to reply to you, or to anybody else". However, I think it's still somewhat a cowardly move because... for example:

    If you're at the bar and you're having a conversation with someone and you don't have anything to say after they've told you something, do you just say nothing and disappear? Sure nobody is obligated to talk to you but you can show that person a little respect by exiting out of a conversation with a "got to go" or something.

    That's just my personal belief... I know online rules are different, I guess I'm more of a direct person. If I didn't feel like talking to someone, I'd tell them "ttyl" or something. Everyone's entitled to their own opinion.
     
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