Feminine? Masculine? - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

singtoh1 · 1st Feb 2009, 06:38 PM

So what do you think you are, Masculine or Feminine?

Also how do you think others perceive you as?

I believe I'm a little of both. Depends on my mood or what I'm doing at the moment. For the most part though I would consider myself more masculine then feminine. I'm just not the stereo typical gay guy.

As far as people goes, I find that woman find me more masculine where as men find me more feminine so I don't know lol.

BlakeHarmony · 1st Feb 2009, 07:05 PM

I'm more masculine... Everyone thinks I'm more masculine, I pride myself in it.

Phantasma · 1st Feb 2009, 07:07 PM

Emotionally more feminine.. physically, probably more on the masculine side.

RaRa · 1st Feb 2009, 07:26 PM

Masculine, but with a feminine touch.

I can be a real softy sometimes.

littledinosaurs · 1st Feb 2009, 07:28 PM

i dunno.
i think people perceive me as femme, but i am far from flaming.

**Lexington** · 1st Feb 2009, 07:31 PM

I guess I'm mainly masculine, but with a few feminine traits. My brother is the same way, but with a few more feminine traits. But since he's straight, those traits are considered "quirks", whereas I'm gay, so in me, they're considered "proof".

Lex

Shevanel · 1st Feb 2009, 08:09 PM

i guess i'm definitely more masculine than anything. everyone is like uber surprised when i come out. i mean, im not the most masculine, but i'm far from feminine i think.

**Maddy** · 1st Feb 2009, 08:12 PM

I'm on the more feminine side.

joss22 · 1st Feb 2009, 08:14 PM

I am very masculine, but as many people here say, with a few feminine traits, though I am more masculine than plenty of straight people I know...

singtoh1 · 1st Feb 2009, 08:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lexington

I guess I'm mainly masculine, but with a few feminine traits. My brother is the same way, but with a few more feminine traits. But since he's straight, those traits are considered "quirks", whereas I'm gay, so in me, they're considered "proof".

Lex

lol

Courtneyyy · 1st Feb 2009, 08:17 PM

I'm feminine.
People see me as feminine.

Occasionally, I have some masculine quirks, but not often.

kevinx519 · 1st Feb 2009, 08:59 PM

most of my friends see me as more masculine. some of my friends are even surprised when i tell them im gay. but then i sometimes do these gestures and my friend would tell me "oh stop it you little gay boy" and id jsut be like -__-. but yes. in most terms masculine.

mcrteenagers · 1st Feb 2009, 09:03 PM

Both really. For example, in the afternoon I might be at the auto wreckers tearing parts off junked cars, and at night I'm at H&M in my glory.

Mood wise is the same, I can get very emotional and bitchy. Up and down :P

Mickey · 1st Feb 2009, 09:07 PM

Kinda in between. Tomboyish but not really masculine. I'm a t-shirts and blue jeans kinda
lesbian. And...my hair isn't real short,either. I'm MEEEEE!

musican · 1st Feb 2009, 10:03 PM

I'm more feminine and I could talk 'girl talk' for hours because I'm used to being around girls almost all the time, but sometimes I get really into sports that I'm playing and get really competitive.

Stuie · 1st Feb 2009, 10:18 PM

I occasionally do the whole limp wristed thing, but rarely intentionally. I tend to cover it all up with a thick layer of music jargon. I make music a gender.

It tends to surprise people when I tell them I'm gay though, so it's not particularly obvious.

**Victor** · 1st Feb 2009, 11:06 PM

I guess that I'm somewhere in between. I don't really have any masculine qualities, but I can't say that I'm that feminine either. I guess it just depends on what traits are being considered.

1st Feb 2009, 11:09 PM

More feminine in general looks and personality but probably with a masculine way of dealing with emotions and feelings. Plus I don't care about getting dirty, icky things bugs etc. So I guess I have a bit of a masculine touch.

n8i2c7k · 1st Feb 2009, 11:31 PM

I am definitely more masculine than feminine. I don't really have any "feminine" traits although i'm a bit more empathic and sympathetic than other guys. I also like working with kids a lot so i guess i have a "maternal" touch there. Other than that i have no "tells" and coming out will shock everyone

Jace · 1st Feb 2009, 11:43 PM

Hmmm
I think I'm a bit more feminine
I like fashion and clothes, but I'm not flaming, at least I try not to be.
And I don't care for sports, just the boys who play them. And I don't hang out with many guys.

But I have a more masculine approach to feelings and things - I don't really talk about them. It makes me kinda uncomfortable.

1st Feb 2009, 06:38 PM	#1
singtoh1 Eccentric Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: I'm just not out to distant relatives Location: Newark, Delaware Age: 25 Posts: 507 Join Date: Jan 2009	Feminine? Masculine? So what do you think you are, Masculine or Feminine? Also how do you think others perceive you as? I believe I'm a little of both. Depends on my mood or what I'm doing at the moment. For the most part though I would consider myself more masculine then feminine. I'm just not the stereo typical gay guy. As far as people goes, I find that woman find me more masculine where as men find me more feminine so I don't know lol.

1st Feb 2009, 07:05 PM	#2
BlakeHarmony EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: queer Out Status: friends, parents, sibs, (nearly) anyone who asks Location: Calgary Posts: 895 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Feminine? Masculine? I'm more masculine... Everyone thinks I'm more masculine, I pride myself in it. __________________ Let's eat, Grandpa. Let's eat Grandpa. Punctuation saves lives! "I would rather sit on a pumpkin and have it all to myself, than be crowded on a velvet cushion" Henry David Thoreau

1st Feb 2009, 07:07 PM	#3
Phantasma EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: two people! Location: Winnipeg Age: 19 Posts: 983 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Feminine? Masculine? Emotionally more feminine.. physically, probably more on the masculine side. __________________

1st Feb 2009, 07:26 PM	#4
RaRa We we we so excited Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Los Angeles, CA Age: 21 Posts: 7,439 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: Feminine? Masculine? Masculine, but with a feminine touch. I can be a real softy sometimes. __________________ Do you think about me now and then? Do you think about me now and then? Oh now I'm comin' home again Maybe we can start again

1st Feb 2009, 07:28 PM	#5
littledinosaurs J'essaie de Parler Français! :] Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: Bisexuel Location: Nouvelle-Angleterre. Age: 21 Posts: 2,351 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: Feminine? Masculine? i dunno. i think people perceive me as femme, but i am far from flaming. __________________ Âllo Là

1st Feb 2009, 07:31 PM	#6
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,371 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Feminine? Masculine? I guess I'm mainly masculine, but with a few feminine traits. My brother is the same way, but with a few more feminine traits. But since he's straight, those traits are considered "quirks", whereas I'm gay, so in me, they're considered "proof". Lex

1st Feb 2009, 08:09 PM	#7
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Feminine? Masculine? i guess i'm definitely more masculine than anything. everyone is like uber surprised when i come out. i mean, im not the most masculine, but i'm far from feminine i think. __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

1st Feb 2009, 08:12 PM	#8
Maddy Free Hugs EC Admin Gender: - Orientation: Into girls Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 21 Posts: 7,702 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Feminine? Masculine? I'm on the more feminine side. __________________ how strange it is to be anything at all [Victor] 2:09 pm: and then halloween happened and I was outside in a skirt.

1st Feb 2009, 08:14 PM	#9
joss22 Toasty Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to two friends Location: Massachusetts Age: 20 Posts: 286 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: Feminine? Masculine? I am very masculine, but as many people here say, with a few feminine traits, though I am more masculine than plenty of straight people I know... __________________ ? + ! = ‽ & ؟♥?

1st Feb 2009, 08:17 PM	#11
Courtneyyy ColbieMarie Full Member Gender: GIRL Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Mom, brother and close friends Location: Flagstaff, AZ Age: 23 Posts: 975 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: Feminine? Masculine? I'm feminine. People see me as feminine. Occasionally, I have some masculine quirks, but not often.

1st Feb 2009, 08:59 PM	#12
kevinx519 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: plenty Location: Cali Age: 21 Posts: 430 Join Date: Nov 2006	Re: Feminine? Masculine? most of my friends see me as more masculine. some of my friends are even surprised when i tell them im gay. but then i sometimes do these gestures and my friend would tell me "oh stop it you little gay boy" and id jsut be like -__-. but yes. in most terms masculine.

1st Feb 2009, 09:03 PM	#13
mcrteenagers Super Cool Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Most / Complicated Location: London, Ontario Age: 22 Posts: 224 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: Feminine? Masculine? Both really. For example, in the afternoon I might be at the auto wreckers tearing parts off junked cars, and at night I'm at H&M in my glory. Mood wise is the same, I can get very emotional and bitchy. Up and down :P __________________ you say you want a revolution, well you know, we all want to change the world got pride?

1st Feb 2009, 09:07 PM	#14
Mickey Older and bolder! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Massachusetts Age: 50 Posts: 1,775 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: Feminine? Masculine? Kinda in between. Tomboyish but not really masculine. I'm a t-shirts and blue jeans kinda lesbian. And...my hair isn't real short,either. I'm MEEEEE! __________________ We don't choose to be gay...we're CHOSEN!

1st Feb 2009, 10:03 PM	#15
musican EC's Resident DJ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: "I wanna kiss a boy" Out Status: family and facebook Location: (Not the city), New York Age: 20 Posts: 3,832 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Feminine? Masculine? I'm more feminine and I could talk 'girl talk' for hours because I'm used to being around girls almost all the time, but sometimes I get really into sports that I'm playing and get really competitive. __________________ How I miss our love when the winter surrounds me icicle teardrops.

1st Feb 2009, 10:18 PM	#16
Stuie Hugs - $POA Full Member Gender: e^(πi) +1 = 0 Orientation: Schnoo Out Status: Moo Cow Location: Canberra, Australia Age: 19 Posts: 1,463 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: Feminine? Masculine? I occasionally do the whole limp wristed thing, but rarely intentionally. I tend to cover it all up with a thick layer of music jargon. I make music a gender. It tends to surprise people when I tell them I'm gay though, so it's not particularly obvious.

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1st Feb 2009, 11:06 PM	#17
Victor Moo EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Pretty damn out Location: California Age: 21 Posts: 1,971 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: Feminine? Masculine? I guess that I'm somewhere in between. I don't really have any masculine qualities, but I can't say that I'm that feminine either. I guess it just depends on what traits are being considered.

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Hidden Angel Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Feminine? Masculine? More feminine in general looks and personality but probably with a masculine way of dealing with emotions and feelings. Plus I don't care about getting dirty, icky things bugs etc. So I guess I have a bit of a masculine touch.

1st Feb 2009, 11:31 PM	#19
n8i2c7k Well Known Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few friends Location: Hawaii Age: 21 Posts: 192 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Feminine? Masculine? I am definitely more masculine than feminine. I don't really have any "feminine" traits although i'm a bit more empathic and sympathetic than other guys. I also like working with kids a lot so i guess i have a "maternal" touch there. Other than that i have no "tells" and coming out will shock everyone __________________

1st Feb 2009, 11:43 PM	#20
Jace EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everyone except non-imediate family. Location: texaass Age: 18 Posts: 429 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Feminine? Masculine? Hmmm I think I'm a bit more feminine I like fashion and clothes, but I'm not flaming, at least I try not to be. And I don't care for sports, just the boys who play them. And I don't hang out with many guys. But I have a more masculine approach to feelings and things - I don't really talk about them. It makes me kinda uncomfortable. __________________ "