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Scared to talk to someone unless I know they like me.

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by walkerhamilton, Jan 19, 2016.

  1. walkerhamilton

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    So I really like this guy in school. I know that he is bi and he's the first person I have been attracted to who I know could be attracted to me (because they're not straight), but I don't want talk to him unless I knew he liked me back. And I can't stop blushing every time he says hi to me. omg I sound ridiculous... what should i do, if anything?:bang:
     
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    I'm the same way actually. I have to know the person likes me back or I see no point in talking to him and attempting to pursue something. Nothing is wrong with giving it a try though. I know you may be nervous, but try by just starting a conversation with him :slight_smile: Maybe if he says hi once, you can just ask "How's everything going?" or some other general question that could strike up a conversation.

    I'm not the most experienced person, so this may be terrible advice - lol. But you will not know how he feels about you unless you guys start exchanging more than a "hi." Obviously don't look obsessed or creepy (which I don't think you would), but definitely show some interest. Good luck!
     
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    Honestly I've posted quite a few questions and concerns on EC, and this has to be by far the best response of a question I have asked. Very straight forward but very understanding. Thank you!
     
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    Well, you just made my day, so thank you. I'm glad I could help! Post on my wall if you ever need any help in the future or have questions.
    Once again, best of luck - don't be afraid to take a risk. Yes, it could turn out bad, but imagine how amazing it would be if everything works out :slight_smile: I'm a hopeless romantic, so I'm rooting for you.
     
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    Don't allow your self-perceptions to undermine your chances with this guy. Try to hide your nervousness and ridiculous misconceptions about yourself and talk to him like he's your best friend. It's a great opportunity for you, and I hope you'll continue to interact with him and be bold in the quest for love.
     
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    Not talking to someone unless you know they like you is going at it backwards. This is where the saying "put yourself out there" comes in. You've got to start the conversation. You can keep it low stakes at first and progress to the point of one of you mustering the courage to ask the other out. And it doesn't all have to happen in the first conversation.