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amberger · 6th Feb 2009, 04:18 AM

So most would consiter me 'emo'. I hate stereotypes though. But i do think i am femme, i like makeup and clothes and stuff girls like, i am a girl by the way. Sometimes i dress...almost trans. But not more masculin. I dress pretty flamboyant, with fishnet, neon colors, poofy skirts, and 'fabulous' makeup occasionally. I feel almost trans when i do that. But i'm a girl!! Would that be like FTF? Or is that normal? I don't get it...help!

Janvier · 6th Feb 2009, 05:47 AM

I don't think I understand, you're a female, that likes to dress up as a flamboyant female, what's confusing you?
Is it because you almost feel like a female drag-queen?

Bunny · 6th Feb 2009, 11:41 AM

That makes absolutely no sense. Do you even know what 'trans' means?

You just sound like a girly girl.

6th Feb 2009, 12:12 PM

Ah. I think I get what you mean.
I recently played a drag queen named Lana Lust in a play called Drag Queens on Trial (check it out). And it is a weird sensation to be a female playing a man who is dressing in an obviously female way.

I wouldn't go running off to question your gender though. Sometimes it's nice to make fun of gender stereotypes; that's what drag kings and queens do after all. That's what you are doing essentially. Only you are a girl instead of a guy. Whereas, trans people are people who were born with the wrong bits and some of them seek to match their body to their gender. So some trans people can be drag queens, but not all drag queens are trans. Get it?

And guys, chill. It's a legit question.

Dazed · 6th Feb 2009, 12:15 PM

i wish i could pull off the girly look. i dont have the right eyes or face for tons of make up. and im short so fishnets look very tacky on me

Miles D · 6th Feb 2009, 12:24 PM

I understand what you're saying, but I can't really say I've felt the same.
I mean, whenever I was forced to wear girl's clothes I hated it. Later (since I've transitioned) I realized that what I was going through would be the same as a biological guy's parents making him wear drag. not fun.

So, I don't think that the situation you described sounds like a transperson's struggles, but I'm not really at liberty to say. PM me if you want to talk to a real-life trannie, or find the thread where I answered a bunch of questions if you like

(chit chat > transgender questions?")

heatqueen · 6th Feb 2009, 01:35 PM

I *think* I know what you mean... like, a girl dressed up as a guy dressing up like a girl?? Idk I'd just say you're quite femme...

6th Feb 2009, 04:18 AM	#1
amberger Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: not sure. Out Status: like four close friends. Location: ohio Posts: 31 Join Date: Nov 2008	tran-wreck? So most would consiter me 'emo'. I hate stereotypes though. But i do think i am femme, i like makeup and clothes and stuff girls like, i am a girl by the way. Sometimes i dress...almost trans. But not more masculin. I dress pretty flamboyant, with fishnet, neon colors, poofy skirts, and 'fabulous' makeup occasionally. I feel almost trans when i do that. But i'm a girl!! Would that be like FTF? Or is that normal? I don't get it...help! __________________ ''All this talk about equality. The only thing people really have in common is that they are all going to die.'' -Bob Dylan

6th Feb 2009, 05:47 AM	#2
Janvier يَناير Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: France Age: 22 Posts: 849 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: tran-wreck? I don't think I understand, you're a female, that likes to dress up as a flamboyant female, what's confusing you? Is it because you almost feel like a female drag-queen? __________________ Uncertainty excites me.

6th Feb 2009, 11:41 AM	#3
Bunny EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Boys <3 Out Status: if they would only ask Location: Canada~ Age: 18 Posts: 430 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: tran-wreck? That makes absolutely no sense. Do you even know what 'trans' means? You just sound like a girly girl.

6th Feb 2009, 12:12 PM	#4
Numfarh Guest Posts: n/a	Re: tran-wreck? Ah. I think I get what you mean. I recently played a drag queen named Lana Lust in a play called Drag Queens on Trial (check it out). And it is a weird sensation to be a female playing a man who is dressing in an obviously female way. I wouldn't go running off to question your gender though. Sometimes it's nice to make fun of gender stereotypes; that's what drag kings and queens do after all. That's what you are doing essentially. Only you are a girl instead of a guy. Whereas, trans people are people who were born with the wrong bits and some of them seek to match their body to their gender. So some trans people can be drag queens, but not all drag queens are trans. Get it? And guys, chill. It's a legit question.

6th Feb 2009, 12:15 PM	#5
Dazed Banned Gender: ladyfella Orientation: MaddyBensexual Out Status: out to all :] Location: Richmond VA Age: 24 Posts: 2,189 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: tran-wreck? i wish i could pull off the girly look. i dont have the right eyes or face for tons of make up. and im short so fishnets look very tacky on me

6th Feb 2009, 12:24 PM	#6
Miles D Rude... and not ginger. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: queer Out Status: everyone Location: San Diego, CA ⇒ Great Barrington, MA Age: 20 Posts: 1,171 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: tran-wreck? I understand what you're saying, but I can't really say I've felt the same. I mean, whenever I was forced to wear girl's clothes I hated it. Later (since I've transitioned) I realized that what I was going through would be the same as a biological guy's parents making him wear drag. not fun. So, I don't think that the situation you described sounds like a transperson's struggles, but I'm not really at liberty to say. PM me if you want to talk to a real-life trannie, or find the thread where I answered a bunch of questions if you like (chit chat > transgender questions?") __________________ Bowties are cool. Fezzes are cool.

6th Feb 2009, 01:35 PM	#7
heatqueen Official #1 fan of Celine Dion Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual/Homoromantic bisexual Out Status: Generally whoever asks Location: I travel a lot Age: 20 Posts: 5,706 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: tran-wreck? I think I know what you mean... like, a girl dressed up as a guy dressing up like a girl?? Idk I'd just say you're quite femme... __________________ Don't drink and drive. You might hit a bump and spill your drink. Co-founder of the 'Sailor Moon Made Me Gay' club...and the lesbians.

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