Advice You Wanted/Needed

Here's mine:

Things will always get better. Then worse again. Then better. Then worse. Then better. So, just remember, life is not out to ruin your...um....life. And if things get to bad you can always just become a hermit with thousands of pugs and eat chocolate fudge all day while watching soap operas.

 

Mmm I have a lot. But one of them:

It takes time, always. During that time, you might feel lost, confused, anxious, like there's no destination, no answers, and you're not sure if you're ever going to get there. But with time and endurance things will change, guaranteed, you will find a way forward regardless of how impossible it seems, and you might come to realize that maybe nothing happened the way you expected it to, but it happened in a way that makes sense in hindsight. Despite how uncomfortable you are now, there is only one guarantee and that is to keep going, to do the best you can and take care of yourself the best you can even if (and sometimes especially if) you feel like you don't deserve it or it's easier to just give in. Give it time, and don't be afraid to seek out help if you need it.

 

mine:

WTF!:jawdrop: its ok! BUT WTF!:jawdrop:

 

I had mine, actually. Knew it by heart. But it's always more difficult to take our own advice, and it would have really been nice to have someone around to say it.

"Everything will be okay in the end. It it's not okay, it's not the end." -John Lennon

 

Here's mine:

A label does not define you. Yes, it's a pretty big part of your life, but it's not the only thing that you can let define you. You are much more complex than a silly word. You're full of emotions, thoughts, experiences. And a few words can't encompass all that. So don't worry so much about labels. Just be yourself.

 

Mine is pretty simple:

Trans people exist.

Had I known that earlier, I would have pieced everything together YEARS before I did.

 

Don't hide in the closet, hide in the TARDIS, if you can get your hands on it, then spin the dial and take yourself to a future where [insert thing] is accepted, and you'll realize you have landed in the same space, same time. Why? Because it won't get accepted if you run away, you have to be the one to fight for the future you want, it doesn't create itself. Step outside.

TARDIS credits to BBC, Doctor Who.

 

Can we do lists? Are lists acceptable? I'm gonna take initiative here and do a list. Here are 10 pieces of advice I wish someone would have told me years ago:

1. Listen to yourself. I spent years fighting with myself about who I am and it made things so much more difficult Pay attention to your feelings.

2. Don't let your emotions rule you. Don't let panic, fear, anxiety, anger etc. Etc. direct your life.

3. Tell somebody. The first person you come out to is going to be difficult but once you start the process it really does get easier.

4. Accept that you have no control over how people react. Some may react wonderfully, some may react terribly the point is you have no control over how they react to you. How they react is on them not you

5. Be patient. Give yourself time. Give others time. Be paitient

6. Stand up for yourself and stand your ground. You're going to be challenged. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself

7. Everbody's different. Don't worry about how long it takes you to come out. Don't worry about whether or not you "act gay". Don't worry about how long it takes you to realize.

8. It's okay if you think men are hot. I realize that this doesn't apply to everyone. Im just saying it would have been nice for me to hear.

9. The talk with your (insert homophobic member of your life here) is going to be difficult and painful. However if they're willing to be part of your life and you are willing to be part of their's then talking is almost always better than avoidance.

10. Coming out to your drunk friend hoping that they won't remember the next day doesn't always work.

Hope this helps someone.

 

I still need advice I think, maybe this thread will be useful for me :/