I have a friend in my school who I've known for many years now. We're not that close friends tho (we barely talk) I am gay and I think he is but I'm not 100% on it. I really want to ask him out but I'm not sure how to do so.even tho we don't talk to each other he is still a nice friend that I know and don't want that to become awkward if he isn't gay. How should I ask him out/find out if he is gay? Also not a lot of people know I'm gay. Very close friends and that's it. I do know that this guy always hangs out with large groups of girls, has a higher pitched voice and looks the part too. But i know I can't judge by that. What do I do?
Approach him when he is by himself and literally ask him out. The worst that could happen is he turns you down and that's that, but that would be more due to the fact that he isn't interested in you rather than the way you asked him out. There are a dozen other ways you could go about it; you could message him through FB, you could leave him a letter where you know he would find it, you could hire a Mariachi to serenade him with your proposition; but I personally think simply asking him face to face whether he would like to go out with you or not is still the best approach. It's direct, you are putting yourself out there which shows you have balls, and it's just more personal. So, go. Do it.
Then dont do it if youre too scared. Matter of fact, dont do anything that scares you in life. Sit on the couch instead. Price is Right is on at 11am daily.
Uh, is there something in particular that makes you think he could end the friendship just because you asked him out? Because that sounds pretty unreasonable to me, and it is not at all the way things have worked in my case. I mean, I know you guys are still in school, but surely you are both mature enough to get over the mild awkwardness of him [potentially] turning you down without completely aborting the whole friendship. You would be asking him out, not killing his puppy; I don't see why he would stop being friends with you over something so trivial unless he is secretly homophobic, or something of the like.
