First off, I hope everyone knows what I'm talking about, (if not I'll reply back with a hint lol) Is this something that you would want to tell (or have already told) your partner, even if you lost count? Would you (or have you) maybe falsified the number a little? And also are you ashamed or happy about your tally? For me, personally, I don't regret my tally at all. I stopped counting but then again I know that I was safe every time and I'm still clean. I would only tell my long-term partner if I knew he was open-minded.
Nope. That's none of their business. I may share tidbits about past relationships/hook-ups/whathaveyou here and there, but I'm not about to give them a full report. It's not out of shame or mistrust, I just don't see why that's something they should know in great detail. Again, none of their business.
I would if asked, but I have never demanded this information from anyone, including my husband. It's really not important for me to know. I more interested in knowing if they have practiced safe sex in the past, be it with one person or many people. That's far more important.
Sure, what's there to be ashamed about? I don't see why not, and I'm not one to hide things, particularly in a relationship. And I'm happy about my tally; it's just right.
Have and did. But as Patrick said, being safe is more important than how many times. All it takes is one.
He knows that I've been with two other guys before him and that they were just flings and nothing serious.
I think it would be very difficult to hide the fact that I've been with 0 people and have no experience in the relationship department. In fact, I think it would be very important to let my first partner know this.
Like Patrick, I will if asked but if I'm pressed for a lot of details, sorry, the ins-and-outs of past relationships are for me to know and share if I want to.
Like several other people have mentioned, my relationship with the guy would have to be pretty well developed (in terms of length and maturity) before I'd disclose number of previous partners. I believe this to be sensitive information that only a worthy person should know. "The one," I guess you could say. If a date or a potential partner proposed this sort of question, I'd probably bluntly tell them "it's none of your concern." I've got to know someone's serious about me and a future with me before I'd reveal a tally.
