Does Crying Lower Your Opinion of Somebody?

Yes. It does.

 

Depends on the reason. In your case I don't know the reason so I can't judge (though I'm rather doubting that I can blame you).

 

I think seeing someone crying makes you think differently and act differently towards another person. However they way they think and act varies between from person to person and what kind of relationship you have with them.

 

Not really - though I'll be honest and say that I can be impatient with people who cry really easily and often find myself rolling my eyes if a person starts bawling over something I consider minor or irrelevant. I try to be sympathetic though - and wouldn't want to upset them any further.

I think that largely stems from me hardly ever crying, and if I ever do cry, I do so in private. Not because I find it embarrassing or degrading - I just don't want people pitying me, or treating me differently. I especially don't want people to think that I'm trying to get attention or trying to make people feel sorry for me.

 

(*hug*)

No, it makes me want to hug them and make them feel better. It can be seen as a sign that you are sensitive. If you cry in a public setting, others do tend to become concerned because it is a sign that you are in a lot of pain and might be going through a lot.

In my eyes, it can be immature and insensitive to judge someone negatively because they cried in front of you.

 

There's no need to feel shame in crying.
In fact it is rather good and I would not feel bad about it at all!! (*hug*)

 

It doesn't lower my opinion. It just makes me more sensitive about someone's feelings. Not in a way that I'd "baby" them, but, just getting to know someone better. We all have our sensitive spots, and it's just a generally good thing to do to make sure we aren't being hurtful to someone.

 

Yeah, I used to cry a bit at school- usually in the toilets, but occasionally in public. At College, not so much. I haven't cried so far, which is good. Less annoying assholes bringing me down I guess. Depends on the reason. If you cry because your favourite band split up or your favourite football team lost, no sympathy for you. If you're crying because someone is constantly "pushing you" to hard, you've had a rough day or you're in physical pain, then I can understand that.

So no, crying does not lower my opinion of someone. Even if they're crying for some trivial reason, it won't make me think of them as any less- just earn them a bit of an eye-roll that's all. :rolle:

Except fake crying. If you pretend to cry to get sympathy, then no. That will just make me distrust you, and at worst hate you. I knew this girl who would fake cry whenever she was near me, so then others would dislike me. (We didn't get on). And it was just so fake, she certainly didn't pay much attention in drama, I can tell you that. Girl needed some acting lessons. :dry:

 

I will be honest and say that, yes, it does.

I'm the kind who is extremely ashamed of crying in public. Fortunately, testosterone made it almost impossible for me to cry, so it doesn't happen anymore. However, when it did, I would try to hide, but people would come gather around me anyway. I had trouble speaking, so I couldn't tell them to leave me alone. I just wanted to punch them in the face, even if I know that's irrational.

I tend to transfer that to others. However, I will never do or say anything that would imply that I don't agree with with them crying in public. I know that not everyone has the same tolerance to sadness/other strong emotions. Crying is not a bad thing, after all. I know that this problem steams from myself, so I will never tell someone that.

When I've seen someone cry in public, I try to forget I ever saw them cry. That's what I would want people to do with me.

 

It really doesn't, there's nothing wrong with crying. I feel self conscious about crying in front of other people, but that's just how I am. I won't think any less of someone if I see them crying. I'll just sympathize with them, and want to comfort them. Maybe that's why people are treating you differently, they're being extra nice to you because it might have given them the idea that you're sensitive or easily hurt, and they don't want to upset you. But that's not necessarily bad though, at least they're being nice?
Anyway, neither crying or being sensitive is something to feel ashamed about.

 

No it does not. It's not like you've harmed anyone.

 

I respect people more when they are passionate and dont repress their emotions.

So I would say, no, in general, when somebody cries my opinion of them isn't lowered - its quite the opposite actually.

Did you know that in the past, in movies and stories, heroes used to cry quite often? They cried because they were passionate but determined about what they had to do to overcome the 'baddie' or whatever.

 

That girl sounds awful.

(*hug*)

Yeah, in certain situations (Mostly when crying is used to manipulate others.) judging someone negatively for crying is most definitely justified. :dry:

However, it's important to point out, that the reason why crying can be used as a tool for manipulation is that most people respond in a caring, worried and sensitive manner when someone starts crying around them. It is a non verbal type of communication that signifies distress or pain and people respond accordingly.

 

I think it depends on the reason, but if it's for something universally stupid, then yes, it definitely does. Irreparably.

 

No it doesn't. In fact I think when you cry you get s little bit stronger. And it takes courage to cry in front of someone. Although I feel weak for crying in front of people who don't care like my parents. Supposedly men don't cry.....

 

Of course not. It's only natural, and holding back those emotions isn't healthy.

If somebody was forcing themselves to cry to get attention however, that could make me think less of them.

 

Only if I think they're trying to be manipulative with it. I hate crying in public and I try to avoid it, but pretty much all strong emotions cause me to tear up and I have no idea why and there's really nothing I can do about it. Doesn't matter if I'm happy, sad, angry or whatever.

I don't get sad or upset for myself all that often, but I absolutely can not listen to someone else's sad or inspiring story without tearing up and I pretty much cry during any remotely happy/sad/triumphant or whatever scenes at movies. Not like sobbing, bawling crying, but still tears. It's also hard for me to be around someone else who is crying without crying some myself, particularly if it's someone I care about.

It's annoying, but trying not to do it is like trying not to laugh in church, the harder I try not to the worse it gets.

Personally, I think it's a shame that in American culture at least, there's such a stigma on having emotions. It's like everyone is expected to behave like a robot or Vulcan something.

 

Nope, not at all. Why should one hold back and hide their emotions?