Calling all bi people!!!!

[jazzyspazzy]

One of the girls I know (who says she's bi, but is actually straight) says that she could never marry a woman because she wants to have a family.

Personally, I would be glad to have someone to spend the rest of my life with, no matter what sex they were. If it a girl, I would adopt or have a sperm donor. What do you guys think???

[gemerency]

i think bisexuality is in no way a barrier from a good family. the girl you know is rather......dumb

[theworld]

yup, doesn't matter. There's numerous other options to have a child than just being with the opposite sex.

[Dazed]

i plan to adopt. even if i have find someone to sepen my life with. too many kids out there who have no one to love them.

your friend is quiet..hmm. i wanted to say retarded but that would be an insult to real special needs kids. she is dumb.stupid.unknowing. idk

[heatqueen]

Originally Posted by jazzyspazzy

One of the girls I know (who says she's bi, but is actually straight) says that she could never marry a woman because she wants to have a family.

Personally, I would be glad to have someone to spend the rest of my life with, no matter what sex they were. If it a girl, I would adopt or have a sperm donor. What do you guys think???

..Is this person someone I happen to know?

And who said 2 girls couldn't be a 'family'?? That's bulls**t.

[Henrike]

It's up to you to Falcon Punch her, Jazzy.

Well...

I can see what she means. And before you all attack me with flaming daggers of disapproval, let me explain.

I feel hesitant to marry a girl because of the family thing too. I believe a family can be between any group of people (grandparents and grandchild, single mother, lesbians, whatever), but when it comes to kids, the sex is kinda important. If you guys have seen "If These Walls Could Speak", the scene with Ellen and her partner/wife/girlfriend explains my sentiments. I can't make a baby with a girl. I can make a family. Do you see the difference?

And further more, as a bisexual, I often feel tempted to try and disregard the "gay" part of me. After all, it would be easier if I only dated guys. I think it's a part of longing for the normalcy of a "traditional" family.

As I/she get(s) older, I'm sure my/her sentiments will change. It's all very warped and confusing and hard to explain.

[littledinosaurs]

Eh well if she wants her typical family with a husband then let her have it.
she sounds weird.

[kaster]

Originally Posted by Numfarh

Well...

I can see what she means. And before you all attack me with flaming daggers of disapproval, let me explain.

I feel hesitant to marry a girl because of the family thing too. I believe a family can be between any group of people (grandparents and grandchild, single mother, lesbians, whatever), but when it comes to kids, the sex is kinda important. If you guys have seen "If These Walls Could Speak", the scene with Ellen and her partner/wife/girlfriend explains my sentiments. I can't make a baby with a girl. I can make a family. Do you see the difference?

And further more, as a bisexual, I often feel tempted to try and disregard the "gay" part of me. After all, it would be easier if I only dated guys. I think it's a part of longing for the normalcy of a "traditional" family.

As I/she get(s) older, I'm sure my/her sentiments will change. It's all very warped and confusing and hard to explain.

I agree with this..
I can see that maybe the way she said it might have been narrow minded.. but I WANT to have a baby, like of my own.. It's just a thing I feel strongly about, I know there are other ways etc but I do understand where she's coming from and it might change with time and adjustment..

[Miles D]

I want to adopt and have a family with someone I love and our children.
Whether that means I'm married to a guy or chic, and regardless of whose womb our children spent the first 9 months of their lives... i think those are irrelevant to making a family.
"Ohana means family. Family means no one gets left behind." -Lilo & Stitch

[biisme]

If I fall in love with a girl, I'll mary her. If it's a guy I'll marry him. Easy-peasy.

[ccdd]

I kind of get it in a way - sometimes to me it also seems that life would be easier with a man, as then you could just get married, be seen as normal, have children the normal way etc...and I think, well, it's OK to indulge the gay side when I'm young, but when I'm older I'll marry a man...

But you know what? If you don't actually like the man, or instead you're actually liking a woman, then this way of life isn't easier at all...

Therefore, to me, if she *is* actually bisexual, she's just at an earlier stage of accepting it, that's all. I sometimes feel that way myself (that I'm "lucky" because I can just "choose" to live the straight life. No - what it means is is that there's a chance that my life partner might be a man - that's all.)

But anyway - the way I see it, I want to adopt whether or not I marry a man or a woman. It's just that if I marry a man I might have biological children too (I'm not so convinced of the sperm donor route personally).