We live in the age of technology where everything can be done online and anonymously. There are, though, some things which are still - relatively - difficult to perform without personal contact. Now that we hardly have anywhere to go, since everything is Facebook and Twitter as far as friends are concerned, and since we meet up with new 'friends' through one of the many dating sites, in all probability, there is a new question many need to consider: Your place or mine? To be honest, it isn't just because of the advent of Internet and the loss of personal contact. The question has been asked of many in the past, and will be asked countless times in the future. Even so: how do you decide, when you first meet up with someone and it is clear that intimate contact is on the agenda for the rest of the night, where to go? Especially, and this is a great problem in our quick and easy world, when the person you wish to rumble in the sheets with is effectively a complete stranger or, as with many, you have a partner at home who does not know of your interests.
Nearly always their place. If you go to your own place then how can you look through their cupboards and drawers while they take a shower? Also my boyfriend would go crazy if I just started bringing one night stands back home with me. Joking, but seriously I suppose it depends if you want them to know where you live and whether you want to see them again or not. Neither option is safer so it's never really a good idea unless you know and trust the person, although I know that's not how the real world works - been there, done that...
Frankly, the sticking point for me is not that I live in a run down dump. (Old roommate: "That place should be condemned!") Nor the shame of not having recently cleaned. Nor the fact that I tend not to like having strangers in my space. No, the sticking point is that I just imagine having sex with a guy the night I meet him. But if the unthinkable happened--hot guy, and my hormones go more out of control than three teenage boys combined--I am guessing that we'd go someplace else other than where I live. His place, or perhaps that motel not far from me which has--or used to have--hourly rates.
