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Are you ready for a relationship?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Joelouis, Mar 10, 2016.

  1. Joelouis

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    Do you want a 'special someone' in your life now, or are you happy with your present situation?

    Do you like being alone?

    I was content with my own company until a few months ago, but now I really want to find someone to be with.
     
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    I can't tell. I couldn't be intimate with someone and I'm not sure I'd be able to handle the emotional/romantic aspect of a relationship because my self-esteem is so low. It sucks because the idea of a relationship sounds great but yeah, I don't think I'm ready yet.
     
  3. Yes. Off topic question, but does anyone seek a relationship just to get others off their backs?

    I have.
     
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    Aha probably not :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    I'm happy on my own for the minute and not ready for a relationship at least until I start university.
     
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    Honestly I don't think so for now I'm happy doing my own thing not being committed in to anything if I could find the right guy I would defiantly Settle down
     
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    I wouldn't know what to do with a romantic relationship, quite frankly. Let alone the statistical probability of one successfully happening (that is, with mutual interest) is around 0.00000032%.

    I like being alone anyway. Emotions and romance are exhausting.
     
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    Q: Do you want a 'special someone' in your life now or are you happy with your present situation?
    A: On most days I'm content with my current situation, as I can glare at other guys without feeling guilty. But then there are days when I do long for the companionship that comes with being in a relationship. Basically, I guess it's one of those things where I won't know that I'm ready until it happens.

    Q: Do you like being alone?
    A: Somewhat. The pro to being single is you're the only person that should matter to you. You don't have to worry about date night, cheating, any important dates, or whatever the case may be.
     
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    I don't know, but i'd love to try. I'm already bad at making friends, since i've had so much fake ones (consistently, almost) i'm too afraid of getting hurt emotionally, so it might not work out anyway.
     
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    Would love to have someone, but chance would be a fine thing.
     
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    Honestly, I constantly tell myself that I don't need to be in a relationship, but I would love to be. I've never actually dated anyone. The most serious relationship I've ever had was long distance and we only met once for 8 days (we had been talking for like 6 months though). I'm way too picky to date anyone I feel like though. Its like I have plenty of opportunities to go on dates with guys, but I just dismiss them because I'm too nitpicky. Its kind of a problem.
     
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    I always think there are two ways of looking at that question. Are you ready can be taken as meaning do you want a relationship?, but it can also be taken as meaning are you in the right place to make a relationship work?. In all honesty, I think it's more important to know if you can make it work. If you have lots of commitments or other issues that would place a strain on a relationship, you are probably not ready.
     
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    Nope, because a) I do think about a relationship sometimes, but I don't have a strong drive for it (or any clarity on what I'm looking for for that matter), and b) right now I'm more concerned with understanding and developing myself.

    I'll just have to see what happens in the next couple years. Better to wait a little, so that when I look for a relationship I'm in the right place for one, than look for one for the sake of it :slight_smile:
     
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    I would like to have some special in my life but at the same time I don't think I am 100% ready. I want to be farther into transitioning and more settled in my life first.
     
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    I want a really close friend right now that I can talk to without feeling like I'm bothering them or making them feel uncomfortable.

    I hate felling uncomfortable so that the last thing I want anyone else to feel.
     
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    I'm not looking, and I'm fine being on my own but at the same time there's a space for someone should the right person to fill it turn up... Does that make sense? :slight_smile:
     
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    Been there, done that, felt the pain.

    At the moment I don't want to be in a relationship, although the company of someone else now and then would be a good thing.
     
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    I like being alone, I know I'm only 17 and I'm no time lord but I really don't see myself having a date in the future. I think they just get in the way of real stuff. Like work and my own private thoughts.
     
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    I'm typically by myself most of the time, you could say I've grown used to it. I think I would like to have that special someone but I feel I'm not ready for it right now. I have too much baggage that I still need to sort through.
     
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    Last year I felt more driven to it, but nowadays I think I'm fine as a single man. I've been kinda busy lately.
    So, if something happens this year, cool, but I'm not actively looking for it.