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Am I doing the right thing?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by EnchanterForest, Mar 26, 2016.

  1. EnchanterForest

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    I have came out to everyone about my Identity, but the thing is that I am almost doubting myself because everyone is asking me questions about it. All I can manage to get across to some is that I am just a boy in a girls body, and it isn't the whole story since I am a Demi-Boy. It is so confusing, for me and I am someone who doesn't get angry at people easily, but more at myself about things I do. When someone thinks they have done the wrong thing and start apologizing continuously or sometime pressure me into this identity that I have only half explained to them, I just start hating myself, which in turn leads to me having dysphoria and it just seems like a vicious cycle which I can't get out of. Just because they won't listen to me but then it was me who told them. So should I have not told them in the first place?
     
  2. AgenderMoose

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    I think it was brave of you to come out. I understand the question thing (every time I'd come out, gender or sexuality, I'd be asked "What's that?"), and it just...kinda comes with the nonbinary life, I guess? Telling people your identity is a pretty important step, especially for gender identity. Questions will be asked, no doubt about it, but...eh...c'est la vie.

    Sometimes people won't listen to you (I have a friend who completely refuses to acknowledge me as agender no matter how many times I bring it up to him), but know that you won't always be around those people. You're still young, you've got a lot of life ahead of you, and you won't always be rooted in the same place around the same people. In short, I think that since you felt ready and made the decision, it was the right thing of you to do.
     
  3. EnchanterForest

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    Thank You, Just another random thing liking nature/animals and like decorating your room with thing related to it, is that girly or just something boys do?
     
  4. Invidia

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    Whether what you like are "boyish" or "girlish" doesn't matter. Let every colorful ray of light that is you shine brightly through; do your best not to mind what others say too much. It can be very hurtful, I know. But a lot of the time people are just commenting on things they find a bit strange or interesting, not necessarily really judging you or anything.

    Hope that helped at all, I'm tired and stuff and mostly rambling, I think. ^^