Your first coming out?

I'm pretty lucky, really. A lot of my friends are gay or bi - maybe just under half - so they just didn't assume I was straight. I joined in the conversations about both guys and girls, so they figured I was bi.

Maybe that's why coming out to my parents is still so daunting a prospect.

 

The first time I came out was to a close girlfriend of mine. This was shortly after I realized that I could possibly be gay and I was really quiet and distant. Call it woman's intuition or whatever but she kept asking me if something was wrong when eventually I told her that I had been thinking and I think that I just realized something about myself. She got all curious and kept asking so I told her through a choked voice that I was gay. She took it very well, in fact she gave me a big hug and thanked me that she was the first one I told.

After that I showed her the EC site and explained how that helped me get to where I was. We talked for the rest of the night, mostly Q&A stuff about me, but I thought it was really liberating to finally talk about it with someone.


The first time is always the hardest because in my case, I didn't know how she would react, if we would be friends afterward, will I lock up and not be able to say anything. etc. But everything turned out in the end, so it's all good now.

 

to my cousin over bebo.
to be honest, it was fairly easy. though she was called away by her mum, and she let me waiting for 10 sickly minutes >.<

 

My little brother about 2(?) years ago and we were on our way home from going out to IHOP with a bunch of our friends. He was driving and we were about 5 minutes from home and I started going on about my roommate... and then before I know it I told him I thought I was gay. And then I started bawling. He slows the car down to a crawl on this little curving 2 lane road and starts telling me things. All the while my face is oozing from as many orifices as I could imagine.

Messy ordeal.

 

I came out to my girlfriends sister one evening. I was walking her home and I waited right until the last moment to tell her, I was really stressed but it felt soo good !!

 

I told the story of mine first time out in my intro-thread... so rather than repeat myself - here it is - linky

 

It was to my best friend, via a text message. We'd been at another friends birthday, and my best friend had set me up with a girl. As we were in a crowd I couldn't talk to him in person, so waited until I got home at 3 in the morning and texted him. I texted the girl and told her the next morning. Horrible experience

 

Well guys, I don't know if this is gonna count?

The first person I told was my Counsellor (Therapist). It was a conversation totally led by me and I had already decided that I was going to do it. I didn't stumble or mumble, I just did it (which surprised even me). So, does that count?

The next person I told was the EC community! The best!

The next is planned by me for the weekend of March 21-22. I'll be at a residential conference of about 30 people or so in a hotel (at least half of whom I already know quite well), and I'm gonna come out to everyone and anyone who'll listen!

Now that one's gotta count!

Kayar. X

 

"Picture it... Sicily, 1922... Just KIDDING!!"

LOL! :roflmao::icon_wink

Seriously, my first "outing" went like this:

ME: Thanks for coming to dinner with me. I wanted to tell you something.
PAM: What is it?
ME: I've met someone, I think we're even dating. There's just one thing...
PAM: What?
ME: It's not a girl.
PAM: Oh, Sweetie! I'm so proud of you! And it's ABOUT DAMN TIME!
ME: (shocked look on face) What?!
PAM: Honey, I always knew!

Pam was my real estate partner, and had been by my side to help me through my difficult separation and divorce. Through it all (and all the time I've known her), she always supported me and never gave one single hint that she might suspect my 'deep dark secret'. She's been like a mom to me and can't wait to meet my boyfriend!

 

I told a friend over email. We never mentioned it anywhere other than email, actually. In fact... I don't think I've ever really said anything related to it out loud in her presence. Hmm. That's actually odd cause it's not like I hide it at all around school or with my friends anymore, only at home.

 

My first coming out was kind of my first coming out to myself aswell.
I started hanging out with this guy who was two years above me
but we were both in art class, and anyway, one night while I was
talking to him on msn, out of curiosity I asked him, "are you..."
and he was like "i'm different. like you". That comment definetely got
me thinking, and after a difficult two weeks of questioning I finally
accepted myself. Well-mostly, I went into relpase that summer
but as you now see that has been dealt with. Anyway-I came out
to him officially after I had accepted myself, but as bi.

 

Um... I can't remember the first time I came out as 'bi' because that was almost 7 years ago haha.

I remember the first person I told I was gay though.

My friend said something along the lines of:
"Well you're bi! You should know!"
and I said "No... I'm not bi"
He looked at me and said "So you don't like boys?"
And I said "Don't be stupid! Of course I do!"
The look on his face was hilarious

 

I sent an email to a friend from high school. He is gay. we emailed each other and talked a few times since. It gave me the courage to start coming out to my family. Soon after that I came out to my sister and this Sunday I am coming out to my parents.

 

My first coming out was to my parents. I was in tears, completely unable to speak, let alone say "I'm gay".

They were asking me what was wrong, and what I wanted to tell them. They asked things like "Is it serious" or "Is it life-changing" before my mom finally said "You like boys?"

All I could do was nod my head, and start crying even more. They hugged me and said they loved me and that everything was fine...so it turned out well

 

Me "I have a letter to give you, ill stick it at the bottem of your birthday present. Only open it in complete privacy and only after i leave"
Her "um..."
Me "...oh, and dont worry its nothing important"

Yea, im smooth like that So she read it and two days later she wrote back with a HUGE e-mail saying how proud and happy she was. She is my backbone now. Looking back, i was so creepy about the whole thing and had her supper worried i was coming on to her

 

Taken from this thread:

 

I came out to my best friend through a message on facebook. My thread on EC about it is here. What I said to her was this:

She was awesome about it.

 

My Best friend. We were walking to R.E and I said i need to tell him something. He instantly said "Your Gay?" suprise suprise. I said "not quite, I'm bi"
That's pretty much how the whole school knows, a girl in my class was walking behind us...
Sticky situation....

 

Hmm.. I came out to my friend when we were playing truth or dare. I asked him if he was gay or bi, and he said no. Then he asked why I asked, so I told him. Unfortunatly, something happend, and he started to hang out with the cocky guys and what not.. and most of them don't like me so they asked him everything he knew about me. Now like 8-6th grade knows D: