Marriage, children?

I know the media sells the stereotype that gay men are only interested in sex and partying and "the scene" and all the rest of it. And there are a good number of gay men who are largely only interested in that. But there are also a great number of gay men who are interested in having a relationship and starting a family, or least settling down with their partner, a house/apartment, maybe a pet.

The thing is, men on the whole aren't as interested in starting families as women are. That doesn't mean that all men aren't interested or you're some weird out-liar if you want a family, but it's not as hard coded to safeguard relationships and want sexual monogamy as women do.

There are plenty of gay guys out there who want to date, who someday would like a family with their husband/partner. Don't be discouraged if it just seems like gay men only want sex, because a lot want more than that from their partners.

 

My family would disapprove

 

I don't like children. But if I did have children I bet that I'd then love having children. But now, can't stand the things.

 

Yes, of course they do, it's a normal human desire to want to be a dad. Your sexual orientation means only who you love romantically and enjoy in bed.

 

No.

Too expensive.
Too much hassle.
Too big of a commitment.

 

I've always wanted children with my partner and I know gay couples that want or already have adopted children.
The results so far are so sad. If you don't want children then what is the point of your life? I don't mean that as in your life is pointless but as an honest question, what else is the goal and purpose of your life?

 

What is the point of life? If you can decisively answer that question I know the scientific and philosophical community would be extremely impressed with you.

 

Yes, but only when I'm in a solid enough financial and relationship situation to have a kid. I want one or two children I think.

 

I'd rather have a puppy, than a kid.

 

No and NO. I have no desire for a relationship and I despise children. I'm perfectly happy with the idea of remaining unwed and childless.

Seeing as how a few people have quoted you and omitted the second part of your question, I'll answer that part.

The goal and purpose of my life would be to better humanity. Personally I strive to be a meteorologist, studying weather and helping to give humanity a better understanding of storms; and, perhaps, to be able to find new ways to survive the extreme weather that climate change will inevitably cause.

There are many ways to find purpose in life that don't involve children. You just have to find one.

 

Same I may be getting a puppy this year!

 

There is a big difference between 'what is the point of your life' and 'what is the point of life'.

 

I'm not opposed to having kids at all. I just really really really want a puppy way more than a kid.
What breed could your puppy be?

 

Keeping within the context of the thread it refers to people who do not want children. Unless I have missed some major news, me and my male partner are not in a position to produce children as a couple and yet we want to be parents.

That is a bizarre belief but I do not personally know anyone that has expressed that belief and so it is difficult for me to comment on it. I suppose however they are entitled to that belief as there is no real way of such people enforcing it on others.

I agree, I have friends that do not have any plans to start families although I have never felt it my place to ask why as for some people not being able to have children is so painful that they would rather not discuss it and so just avoid the subject. In the case of some of the people I know however they contribute towards 'the species' in other ways such as being a teacher or a nurse.
However if someone who has no desire to raise their own family or contribute towards the continuation of the human race in any other way then I would imagine that would be a great cause for depression and a sense of hopelessness. I would hate to think that people would waste their lives miserably and then die believing that their entire existence was pointless.

 

Strawman, dude, strawman.

 

That answers my point exactly, (thanks for reading what I actually wrote btw :icon_bigg).

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Careful guys! I got my little dog back in November and he has taken over my life. At least if he was a child people would let me take him in the supermarket or restaurant. It would definitely be easier to find a coat to fit a little person. Also people wouldn't give me weird looks for talking to him while we walk round the park -like it makes more sense to talk to a human baby that doesn't understand a word of English

 

I actually chose Yes but I accidentally clicked on the 20 years and younger. I'm starting to deny I'm getting older. My mum confided in me that she thought having kids were okay, not having kids were okay as well. Without kids, she would be able to enjoy a more relaxing life. At the same time, she didn't really regret having me either. I hold the same belief as well. Kinda like a balance scale between Yes and No.
But reading Calf's post has tipped the scale heavily to the Yes side atm, I'm feeling emotional now :<

 

I would like to get married one day but I'm on the fence about having kids. Maybe at some point I'd feel like I was up to the task but I'm perfectly content with having a cat instead, less hassle.